My best friend just died

Miscellaneous and Personal Stuff I Must Share
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I just recieved a phone call saying that my best friend Tony died in a car accident. He was probably the person closest to me, other than immediate family. I knew him for about 5 years, and we just got a job together. I’m in shock, all crying and shaking. It just doesn’t seem right, he was only 18. He just found a new love interest this week, got a tattoo last week (His sign, Pisces, and I had to hold his hand while he got it,) and he was so happy about the future. He was probably the sweetest, most sensitive and caring person I know. I just cannot comprehend how he could be gone.

I called him at around 3 today, and asked him if we were going to work later (I catch a ride with him, since he’s usually over here anyway.) He said that he was going to Salt Lake, and so he couldn’t. My sister just called hysterical, and told me he was dead. I don’t know exactly what happened, but the story was just on the news. Apparently someone stalled on the freeway in the middle lane, and his car rear-ended them. 2 people are dead, and seven people have severe injuries.

His mom had to drive up to SL to identify his body, and I’m sitting here with nothing to do waiting for news. I’ll let ya’ll know more when I hear it. Please please PLEASE be careful driving, and hug everyone who’s close to you. I know he knew how much I cared, but it would’ve been nice to have been able to tell him that one last time.

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Gods, I don’t know what to say…that’s terrible to find out that someone close to you has died. I hope things turn out okay for you and the people who knew your friend.

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I’m very, very sorry…I know that this time is hard for you. If you need to talk/vent, my contact information’s in my profile. You’re in my thoughts and prayers.

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I lost my godfather, who was my second father, in January to a sudden and freak heart attack. What pissed me off more than anything was when people said “I know what you’re going through.” Piss off. No one knows how anyone else deals with the pain of loosing someone they love.

Here is what helped me: knowing that I was lucky to have had my godfather in my life. Most people are not as lucky as I was, to have someone love me so unconditionally. And yes, losing him when I needed him most sucked. But I had him in my life for 21 years. And that helped me.

When it starts to hurt, and it will, know that you can email me. I know we don’t know eachother, but sometimes telling someone about why your friend was a fantastic person is the best way to remember them. I’d like to listen.

-Brooke

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And here I am, sweating the petty things in another thread.

Love and blessings and strength to you.

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We were concerned when you left #straightdope, Joy. Our thoughts are with you and we are here if you need us. You are loved.

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I can’t imagine how horribly that must hurt. I am so sorry.

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I am so sorry. :frowning:

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Joy, I have the deepest empathy for you. Just a little over a month ago, a close friend, who is also named Tony, was also killed in a car accident. I’m very sorry for your loss. I’m finding out how hard it is myself to cope with such a loss. It’s very hard, and not a day goes by that I don’t miss him.

Again, my deepest sorrow for you and your friends.

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I don’t do online hugs, so here’s a squeeze.

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Thank you all so much for the support. I just found out he was in the car with 5 other people (TV news again. No one seems to know anything,) all really close friends of mine. The other fatality was Tigger (the love interest mentioned earlier.) 1 other person in the car is in critical condition, not sure who that is yet. I pray that they’ll be ok. 2 people is enough.
I can’t thank you guys enough. This is exactly why I love this message board. You represent the kindest and nicest people in the world. For those that have lost people, I’m so sorry. I never really understood how hard it is before, and I’m sure I’ve just experienced the beginning. I also know I’ll probably be taking all of you up on your offers of E-mail and support, so consider yourselves warned.

I really do feel blessed to just have known this person, and I know I’m a better person because of it. I’m surprised I was allowed to know him for as long as I did. Again, don’t hesitate to tell people that you love them.

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:frowning:

Anytime you need someone to listen, pop into #SD or email me.

My thoughts are with you and your friends.

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Just in case you all want to know, here’s the news link. I’m surprised they got this up there that fast. Hope it’s ok to post it.

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Joyfulgirl, I’m sorry. I don’t know what to say.

Recently, I lost one of the very best friends I had, but at least she is still alive (though my hopes of rekindling the friendship are all but dead). That’s bad enough, I can’t even begin to compare it to the grief you must be feeling.

Think good thoughts about the individuals taken from you prematurely, and remember them well. That’s the best you can do, and the surest way to honor their memories.

I hope you’ll be living up to your userhandle soon. May God (or whoever/whatever you believe in) give you the strength to deal with this painful situation.

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I’m so sorry, Joyfulgirl. :frowning:

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My thoughts and prayers are with you and all who mourn him. I add my offer of an Email ear should you need it.

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Joyfulgirl - I lost my best friend in very similar circumstances about three-and-a-half years ago. He died in a car accident on the way to see me, about three miles from my home. There were many other circumstances that made it especially terrible.

It profoundly impacted my life, and continues to do so.

If you want to talk with somebody who can relate, my email is linked here. And my user-name is the same on both Yahoo and AOL instant messengers.

I’m terribly sorry for your loss, and my thoughts go out to you and Tony’s family and other friends.

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My deepest sympathies, sweetie.

If you need to talk, you know where to find me.

Robin

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Joyfulgirl,

It troubles my heart to hear of a life passing. I have been through this before as well. It doesn’t get much easier, no matter how many have passed in your life.
It is bound to happen. And we can pray that they are in a better place. I have lifted Tony and his friend up to the Lord in prayer, and i will continue to pray for his friends and family. I know that this is a time for rejoicing though.

I am confident that he has good friends that continue to carry his memory with them, you being an awesome vessle of his memory. That is what keeps him with us. Knowing that he is suffering less, and that he is happy is the most important part of this.

It is all about prospective. Think of it as the purpose that his death served. More people are aware of being more awayre of driving safely.

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THIS IS FROM A GREAT BOOK called “Accept this gift, from A Course in Miracles”

Healing and Wholeness

Every situation,
properly percieved,
becomes an opportunity to heal.

All healing is essentially the release from fear.

All healing is release from the past.

You heal a brother by recognizing his worth.

To love youself is to heal yourself.

God cannot be remembered alone.
This is what you have forgotten.
To percieve the healing of your brother
as the healing of yourself
is thus the way to remember God.

Could you but realize for a single instant
the power of healing that the reflection of God,
shining in you,
can bring to all the world,
you could not wait
to make the mirror of your mind
clean to recieve the image of
the holiness that heals the world.

We are made whole in our desire to make whole.

If you wish only to be healed, you heal.
Your single purpose makes this possible.

Healing is the effect of minds that join,
as sickness comes from minds that seperate.

Those who are healed
become the instruments of healing.

To forgive is to heal.

Sickness is a defense against the truth.
I will accept the truth of what I am,
and let my mind be wholly healed today.

I am here only to be truly helpful
I am here to represent Him Who sent me.
I do not have to worry
about whatto say or what to do,
because He Who sent me will direct me.
I am content to be wherever He wishes,
knowing He qoes there with me.
I will be healed as I let Him teach me to heal.