My condolences…
I read this, and I was literally in tears. It normally takes alot to make me cry, and this managed it. I don’t think it’s even possible to express in words how sorry I am. I know many others have offered as well, but if you ever need anyone to talk to, feel free to email or im me. I’ll listen.
I pray that you and your family can stay strong through this difficult time. My heart goes out to you.
I’ve been sitting here for a long time, Trying to figure out how to say what I NEED to say…I reckon everyone else has pretty much said it first.
We ARE family here and(as statde before) If there is ANYTHING we can do, PLEASE just let us know!!
BTW My E-mail addy is public in my Bio DO NOT HESITATE to use it!!
My condolences.
One of my greatest fears as a parent is the death of a child before they’ve really had a chance to grow up and live their own life. In part that fear is for me - my loss, my pain. But an equal part of that fear is the loss to one brother of the other, when even at 4 1/2 years and 9 months (respectively), they so clearly adore each other. Some of my greatest joys as a parent have come from watching them together. Not to ever see that again would be devastating.
So, you’re living my nightmare. I’m truly sorry for your loss.
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Thank you guys so much. You have no idea how helpful it is to come in and check this thread, and find out that so many of you found the time and the kindness to respond. The funeral was on saturday, and everything went well. I actually managed to give my Eulogy (and actually got laughter from people with it) and with all of the support from everybody we are doing ok. It still seems very strange though, how I could be talking to my brother one moment, and next thing I know I am staring at him on a hospital table.
It’s just so strange.
As I said, thanks again, and I greatly appreciate what those of you who took the time to respond did.
Modro,
I am sorry for your loss, and my thoughts are with you and your family.
Tears are healing, and as you learned at the funeral, so is laughter. Your brother will live on in the hearts and memories of the people who loved him.
May I humbly suggest a coping tactic? A dear friend of mine lost his older brother, just months after the birth of his son. Friends and family got together to create a scrapbook of memories so the child could grow up knowing his father. Such a scrapbook can be very cathartic to work on.
The Creator’s love to you and yours,
Laura
god…I’m just so very sorry…Please just hang onto your parents, & they to you. I don’t know if a death is ever gotten over, but it can be gotten through.
modro, thanks for checking in and letting us know how you are doing. Please keep in touch.
Love,
Spooks
I’m so sorry to hear about your brother’s untimely death. It’s a tragedy when someone dies, especially one so young. A good friend and roomate of mine lost his younger brother two years ago in a car accident. It was a horrible tragedy, but one good thing did come about it, they’re family is closer now than 99% of all families I’ve seen out there. Be strong for your family, because your parents will need your strength to get through this, but don’t forget to grieve yourself.
Best of luck to you and your’s in the future, and once again, my condolences.
It’s all been said by the others.
So sad for your loss.
Be Well.
Modro, I too sympathize with your loss. One thing I didn’t notice anyone else ask, were any of your brother’s organs donated to others after his death? Sometimes, people take comfort in knowing that a part of their loved ones live on in other people who get a new chance at life.
My most heartfelt condolences modro.
If your family hasn’t already, I second the creation of a scrapbook. One tradition my family has begun is to provide little slips of paper for people to fill out at the memorial service (if they desire) relating to us something memorable about the person who has died. I realize that the funeral has already been held but IMO it would probably be cathartic to everyone to maybe relate via letter or messageboard or something things about your brother, which could then be added to a scrapbook.
My heart hurts for you, your family and your brother’s friends. I’ll echo the sentiment to not be afraid to talk to us whenever you feel the need. There’ll always be someone here to listen.
modro, I’m so sorry for your loss. Nothing I can say can ease your pain. My thoughts and prayers are with you during this most difficult journey. Godspeed.
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Thoughts, prayers, and hugs.
God Bless.
Unfortunately none of his organs were donated. I don’t believe they could have either, as they officially pronounced him dead about 2.5 hours after the drowning, which if I am not mistaken, would have been too long of a period of time. Either way, it wouldn’t have been my call. I personally am registered as an Organ Donor, and love the idea of it, but he wasn’t.
Thanks for all of your thoughts and prayers.
Oh yes, SinShine (great name, btw) Prior to the funeral, I gathered up all of the pictures my parents had, and created a scrapbook with pictures, and some of his favorite things, and made that for my parents. I also put it together so that it would be at the funeral, and allow people something to look at, so that they could see something positive, and help them remember little things.
It was also very therapeutic to work on also, as you mentioned.
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What to say in a time like this, when words fall so short?
You are in my thoughts and prayers.
Blessed be…