That isn’t what I wanted to type in the subject line, of course. I wanted to write my fucking no-good asshole insensitve brother-in-law whom I will beat with a tire iron the thext time I see him is making jokes about leaving my baby sister for another woman on facebook.
Now I feel bad. I joke that if I’d killed my wife the first time I thought about it, I’d be out of jail and a free man by now. Divorce is at least a step down from that.
Different people have different social taboos concerning divorce. I’d never joke about my marriage, but I have a friend who jokes about the stability of his marriage (to a wonderful woman who is crazy about him) so much that it makes me uncomfortable. I’ve never been affected by divorce and I tend to have faith in my marriage and (perhaps naively) the marriages of everyone I know. In contrast, in his late childhood his parents split in a divorce that left him traumatized. I think it’s just his backward way of demonstrating stability and testing the waters… as long as he can joke about his marriage, and everyone including his wife laughs at the joke, then he knows everything’s OK. Different people just have different ways about them.
You’re being kind of foolish. Remember SHE CHOSE HIM AND MARRIED HIM. He was an insensitive jackass before she married him. This was obvious in many ways any mouth breather could have picked up, and yet she still chose to marry him. Are you going to beat your clueless baby sister with a tire iron too for being a congenital doofus?
I don’t believe he’s been hacked; we are, or rather were, facebook friends. He started by announcing the incipient divorce (which I already knew about) but then, when his friends starting asking why, began making jokes.
No, I was venting. I chose to vent here rather than on his facebook page or in person because there’s no point in my escalating matters. That won’t help my sister.
Besides, if I were going to assault him, which I’m not, I wouldn’t use a tire iron, and I wouldn’t announce it on a message board. That would be stupid.
Wait… the divorce is real, and he’s joking about it? Forget everything I said; clearly it’s a horse of a different color.
I can’t really see getting worked up over this, though… the relationship is over in all but the legal sense. Count your lucky stars that it’s just a tasteless joke or two; these things can get much more brutal. On the brighter side though… and not sure if this helps your situation… if he’s admitting to an adulterous relationship, that might help her in the divorce settlement. I could be talking out of my ass on that since I have never had a ringside seat to a divorce proceeding and never intend to.
Wait a minute. You mean they ARE actually getting divorced (not stated in your OP) and he’s not just making snotty jokes about a woman he is supposed to be devoted to, but is talking about a person to whom he probably (at this point) has a very negative relationship with, and you are surprised and outraged that he’s cracking wise about his impending divorce.
I think your justification for outrage index just plummeted. This is HIS facebook site, he’s getting divorced, their relationship is apparently in the dumpster. His behavior many be uncouth and jackass-like but it’s hardly unexpected. Take a look at the facebooks of some divorcing women if you really want to get an eyeful.
Seriously, dude, which part of “venting” do you not get?
I started to reply with something insulting on his facebook page. I decided that was inappropriate and unlikely to be helpful. Thus, rather than call him a microcephalic nanophallic goatfelching catamite on his facebook page, I came here and bitched where he would not see.
And my justificiation for outrage is fairly simple. She’s my baby sister. I’m always on her side. That’s the big-brother baby-sister dynamic.