So I just found out about a bit of family asshattery I was ignorant of, and now quite angry about.
Let’s set the stage.
~6 years ago, my sister’s wedding:
My father takes umbrage at both my grandma (mother’s mother) and my aunt’s behavior. Their crimes? My father was talking to my aunt’s granddaughter, and she decided to take her away to meet someone else. My grandmother helped herself to beer my father had put out for guests, to the point of taking 2 of them with her when she left, and had never offered him a beer when he was at her place. Their punishment? He wasn’t going to talk to them anymore.
So they took umbrage at this, rightfully so I think. But my aunt chooses to voice her umbrage by not speaking to my mother until she apologizes, and my grandma expresses hers by screaming at my mother whenever she calls.
My mother took umbrage at this, rightfully so I think, and demanded my father apologize for what he did. But he refuses to admit any wrong doing, which unfortunately is quite typical of him.
My aunt and my grandma aren’t done yet though. They proceed to spread the umbrage around to the entire rest of my extended family, who all stop speaking to my mother.
So to recap, at this point my mother is angry at her husband, who caused all of this and refuses to do anything about, and upset that the only person she’s directly related to who will speak to her does at the top of her lungs.
~3 years ago, my grandfather (mother’s father) gets very sick, and is going to die. My mother goes to see him, but he dies the day she arrives and she misses seeing him one last time. But now she’s there with all her family right?
Wrong. Everyone there refused to talk to her. All of them. My uncle just stared at her and walked away when she said Hi. My aunt turned her back on her. Her mother refused to talk to her as well. So my mother attended her father’s funeral all by herself, even thought everyone she was related to was there.
What the fuck is wrong with you assholes? Her fucking father died! You’re her family! And you shitheads decided that acting like goddam butthurt 8 year olds and shunning her for something she didn’t do was the appropriate thing to do? You fucking retards! Do you have any idea what my mother went through because of you? God fucking dammit, if my mother hadn’t made me promise not to bring any of this up ever again I would be greeting each and every one of you with a hefty kick in the balls from now on. If I manage to grow old and die without becoming like you, I will consider my life well lived. Fuck. 
