Looks like Fred got panaccione right in the middle of a post!
pannacione,
of course you dont need to hate her…but taking a picture with her while the two of you spent time together and posting it on fb is in poor taste and unnecessary to do, especaily right after they broke up…it seems like the kind if thing tenth graders would do
alot of guys would be pissed off at that
Oh and I’m somewhat relieved because I was getting tired of his shit. I’ve known him since high school which has been around ten years. We fell out of touch for a while when we both went to school and only recently started hanging out for the past year or so. He’s changed a lot since high school though. He takes drugs pretty regularly and is just one of the biggest slobs I know. Suffice to say, I will not miss him, but I’m pretty sure ill see him again.
Yeah, I get that. I’m calling my lawyer tomorrow.
Imo, if you pursue this it may cause more problems than it solves. You say you also sent him threats on text messages, so the law might see it as both of you guys are a probkem and issue a JOINT restraining order, …cant say for sure but a judge may be inclined to view two adult men who have threatened each other that both of you need restrainng
if it were me, i would just lay low and avoid those bars he goes to for a while and see if it just passes with time
I think that will depend on the exact wording of the “threat” texts to Fred. It sounds like they weren’t threats of spontaneous offensive action, but rather promises of vigorous self-defense.
A brief (15-30 minutes?) consultation with a lawyer could help panaccione determine what the most likely outcome would be if he did decide to pursue a restraining order. Many lawyers offer such initial consultations for free.
Yea, he could go for a free consult if its offered,…I think though alot of judges would be inclined to issue a two way mutual order. Pannacione hung out at a club with friends girlfriend he just broke up with, posted pics on facbook, friend got pissed and wants to fight panaccione, panaccione threatens him back and comtinues going to where he knows the friend might be, rather than trying to avoid him, it could come across to the judge as if panaccione wants to engage with the friend as he continues to go where he thinks he may be with threats to fuck him up .Sorry to be skeptical but for these reasons it may not look to a judge like panaccione is an innocent victim trying to avoid trouble.
A judge will likely grant one in any situation such as a young woman seeking one against a boyfriend, or any case that is clearly one side harming the other, pretty much across the board I would say, but in cases like this where its two grown men in their thirties where theres been an exchange of threats to fuck the other up over pictures on facebook, well, I think alot of judges would just not have alot of patience to listen to the chilldish sounding story
“but he posted pictures on facebook” and “but, your honor, we were just at a club”…
i think alot of judges wouldnt have alot of patience for this and might say he will slap one on both of them and maybe a stern word to knock it off and leave each other alone
Yeah but let’s not forget that Fred has already initiated both violence and threats against me and I have not retaliated to the violence.
I don’t think you did anything wrong. Chantelle is a friend and you talked with her like you would with any other friend. I also don’t think there’s anything wrong with Chantelle taking a picture and posting it on Facebook. I have some friends who it seems like they can’t go out to a bar without taking pictures and posting on Facebook or Instagram or somewhere.
But it was a bad idea for Chantelle to send Fred a copy of the picture. I don’t know if she knew that it would set Fred off like that, but she definitely wanted to upset him, and she put you in the middle, whether on purpose or not. I would give her some space too, until she gets over the breakup a little more as well. She might not need to be a permanent ex-friend like Fred needs to be, but I’d be afraid of being around her at the moment and being put in the middle again.
What you should do is find out where Fred lives and get him before he gets you. Set loose a warren of locusts into his house, wait for him to run out, then sic a bear on him.
Good idea. I know where he lives but I’m not sure where to get the bear or locusts.
Congratulations on both of you being played by Chantelle.
Sounds like she needed somebody just as dumb as Fred to fall for her little game.
Yes that is shit between them and you jumped right in it. Don’t you see how she used you to hurt him? Isn’t that her doing something wrong to you? Wake up. She is using you to get back at him.
Or a bear with locusts in his mouth and when he opens his mouth locusts fly out.
Honestly, I don’t care. Chantelle did me a favor because I didn’t like hanging out with Fred all that much anyways. I didn’t think about it when she took the picture though and I had no idea he would react the way he did.
Or, see post # 23
panaccione,
Your missing his point…he was saying that Chantelle was also using you, regardless of how much you like hanging out with Fred is besides the point
I don’t think there’s much to do. It doesn’t sound like Fred has a lot going for him if he’s so distraught over a relationship. It was probably one of the few things he could validate his life with, and he doesn’t seem confident in his abilities to get another gf. It’s one thing to be sad you ended a relationship. It’s another to completely melt down.
I think the OP should just go on about his life. He’s got other friends. He’s got bars to go to. If Fred comes back aggressive, the bouncers will take care of the rest. In another couple of days it’ll become apparent that the OP and Chantelle aren’t dating so his misplaced anger will be diverted to whatever poor sap Chantelle actually does date and it won’t be the OP’s problem any more.
Just ride it out.
If I got into a fight and someone slapped me, I would be doubly pissed, not dejected - especially if I was drunk and riding an emotional high.
As I’ve said many times:
Life is just like High School The only difference is that it’s not over in 4 years.
Stay away from both of them for a few weeks and hope it blows over.
Where do you live that the police supposedly both give a shit and have time to respond to “my ex-friend broke up with a girl and I ran into her at a bar and she took a photo and she posted it on Facebook and now he wants to beat me up” calls?
The correct action would be to hook up with Fred, buy him a beer, totally dis Chantelle and tell him he is better off without her.
Get Fred totally wasted, call a cab for him, pat him on the back and send him home.
He and Chantelle will get back together, he’ll tell her all the shit you said about her, forgetting all about all the shit he said.
She’ll be pissed at you, take pictures of the two of them together to post on fb and send to you.
Now both of them will hate you.
They will ride off into the sunset together, have their 2.4 kids and house with the white picket fence.
He’ll sit around in a wife beater all day, drinking beer and bitching about not being able to find the remote.
She’ll run around the house in baggy sweat pants and a stained t-shirt bitching about having no money, no life, and reminiscing about the glory days when she got two stupid dudes to fight over her and Fred proved his love by wanting to kick your ass.
She won the prize, booby as it is.
You’ll have lost both of them and should be grateful for it.