{{{{{Flowerchild and family}}}}}
I’m sorry to hear about this. My dad died ten years ago this May, though under very different circumstances. I was a real Daddy’s girl too.
I’d give up everything I’ve had since then, including last year, which was indescribably wonderful, to have him back.
My prayers, such as they are, are with you, as are a bunch of warm thoughts.
I wish I could have more time to speak with him but, due to the liver, he doesnt have any circulation or anything, this means he’s always asleep, and when he isnt, he doesnt know where he is.
But thank you all for your kind thoughts
Flowerchild, my thoughts and prayers are with you.
My mom died of cancer 3 years ago. She died at home with myself, my sisters and my brother by her side. Signing Mom up for hospice was the best decision that we made. I’m an oncology nurse and my older sister has been a nurse for over 30 years. You wouldn’t think we’d need a lot of help caring for our mom, but we did. Mom’s hopsice nurse helped us with pain control, arranged for a hospital bed to be delivered, gave us emotional support, and told us what to expect next. She was there for my mom and for us in more ways than I can ever describe. She was truly an angel on Earth. This journey that you’re on won’t be easy, but dad’s hospice nurse will help your family through this.
Oh, how awful…I’m really sorry. I too am a daddy’s girl. I always “helped” around the farm when my older siblings went to school. My dad just had total knee replacement 3 weeks ago and when I found out he was okay after surgery I was so glad. When the day comes that I lose him, I’m sure that the grief will be just overwhelming.
I agree with everyone, remember the good things, the funny things, the poignant moments that you shared with him. As long as you remember and talk about him he won’t truly be gone.
Be there for your mom and make sure that she know that you’re there. My parents would be lost without each other and so they’re planning to move closer to me so that when it happens, they’ll have a kid close.
Best wishes with the ordeal–I hope that you are okay.
sorry, this is a real bump, but i thought I should tell you that he passed on at about 12:45 today
I’m sorry to hear that, Flowerchild. My father died in 1998 at the age of 71. He had suffered a severe brain injury in a car wreck a few years before, and he was not the same afterwards. His memory was impared, he couldn’t remember words, and he had lost most of his judgement (which resulted in telephone scamsters taking him for about $15,000 – most of which was “forgiven” by the credit card companies, and some of which was caught by the FAA Credit Union (Bless 'em!)). And he knew he was impared. He hated it. A few months before he died he broke his leg jet-skiing (something he absolutely loved). The additional medications were too much for his system. He lingered for a few weeks in the hospital, unconscious from the meds and the pancreatitis.
I miss him every day.
Nothing I can say will help you get over this; but I wanted to express my condolences.
I am so sorry for your loss. My thoughts are with you and your family.
Some bumps are justifiable.
{{{{{Flowerchild}}}}}
I’m sorry to hear that Flowerchild. You and your family will be in my thoughts and prayers.
Don’t forget to take care of your needs through this - eat, cry, throw things (like eggs into the sink) as you need to.
Deepest condolences from Spiny Norman and me.
I lost my mother to breast cancer when she was only 49 years old, so I know what it’s like to watch a relatively young parent suffer and linger until they die. I know how much your heart aches right now.
He may be physically gone, but his love will live on in your heart forever. May his cherished memory always bring you happiness and joy.
Your loss if a very deep sadness and no words of mine will lessen your pain. None-the-less, know that my thoughts go with you.
Oh how my heart aches with you! Don’t demand too much of yourself right now. You may be moving in a fog for a little while. Your friends and other members of your family will help you to get through the days ahead. And don’t be afraid to cry.
When a few days or weeks have passed – whenever you feel like it – come back and talk about it more.
Feel the warmth of your SDMB friends around your shoulders…
Flowerchild , we’ve just met. I just wish it would have been under more auspicious circumstances. My sincere sympathies to you and your family.
Rico and I send our most sincere condolences to you and your family.
We both have lost our father’s. His just a few years ago but mine at an early age. I was 9 and Daddy was only 61. It’s hard and hurts like hell to watch them knowing they are miserable, there’s nothing you can do to fix it and that they will go.
But the thing that will stick with you is that you did have some time with him to say what you wanted to, to spend some quality time with him and to make sure that he knows how much you care about him. The happy memories are what keeps them alive in your heart.
Maybe you can spend some time talking about some of the fun things you’ve done together or the things he’s done that stick out in your memory letting him know he didn’t fail as a father.
Our prayers and {{{{{{{{ Flowerchild }}}}}}} go out to you and your family.
Rico and Kathy
I am so sorry for your loss.
I’m very, very sorry for your family’s loss.
Well… you will go on, but you will miss him everyday. Sometimes it will hurt so bad, you will think it won’t ever get any better, but it does… a little. I still can’t look at pictures of my dad a year after his death - even good memories are painful to me because I know that there won’t be anymore of them.
In the time you have left, tell him how much he means to you. I wrote my dad a letter and I was able to find a bit of peace knowing that at least he knew how much he was loved.
I’m very sorry for your loss. ((((hugs))))
Kiger, eventually I think you will be able to look at those pictures. I still get teary when I see pictures of my dad, and it’s been ten years, but I can look at them.
I am so sorry, Flowerchild. My Dad is about the same age as yours. I can’t even begin to imagine my Daddy gone. I wish there was something I could say or do to make the pain go away. I will pray for strength for you and your family.
Flowerchild, I send my deepest condolences with regards to your father. It’s been 16 years since my father passed on, and it can be difficult so many times, even now. It’s been wonderful to cherish the memories of my father sometimes, to think of the good times.