My Father is dying. they are going to admit him into hospis tomorrow. His liver is failing,and in a few days, he’ll die.My mother is completely falling apart,she lives in the hospital with him, I go visit everyday,we all cry all the time. I dont know what to do with myself. the whole damn world is crumbling around me, the same little question keeps popping in my head “What will I do without my daddy?”. I couldnt think of what top do or say or even think, so I figured I’ll just start a sad little thread.
I lost my dad a few months ago - he was 72, but that didn’t make it any easier. It just doesn’t seem right that he’s gone.
But I try not to dwell on his death. I think about the good times, the happy times. I remember silly things about him, things he said and did. As long as I can remember, he’ll always be with me.
Cherish the remaining days, but don’t let these sad times cloud all your happy memories for too long. It’s hard losing your father, especially at so young an age. I wish you and your family the strength and peace you’ll need in the coming months, and I hope that soon you can smile and think about the good times.
I’m so sorry. Losing a parent is hard no matter what the circumstances, but is must be especially difficult with a Dad so young. His last days will be very special to you and your Mom, and you’ll get through it together.
As others have said, it is very difficult to lose a parent. My Dad died several years ago - we all still miss him. My heart goes out to you and your mother.
My dad had a massive heart attack at the age of 42. The doctor said his heart was more like hamburger than muscle and didn’t know how he was still holding on. We sat by for days wondering which of the alarms coming from his room was going to be the last.
Dad pulled through and lived another 17 years. We were lucky. That was 18 years ago and I still can’t type things about him in a single setting without having to walk it off.
Take care of your mom. Cry, do what ever helps. Be strong, be weak. You’ll get through.
I lost somebody close to me to liver failure, too. And he was only in his 50s as well.
Darn it, when is the medical establishment going to get off its butts and invent either an artificial liver or a way to grow replacement organs to spec?
(((((Flowerchild))))) I’m sorry you’re going through this tough time, Flowerchild. It’s tough to see a parent go at an early age. I’m currently going through the same, as my mom’s taken a turn for the worse with her illness. If you want to talk with someone who knows what you’re going through, don’t hesitate to email me. Enjoy the time you have left with your father, and know that you’re a comfort to your mother.
I’m so sorry, Flowerchild. I know it’s hard, but please, don’t let these last days with your dad be filled with tears. Laugh with him, joke with him, and send him on his way with your smiles in his heart.
There’s plenty of time for tears later. Cherish what you have now, and we’ll be here for you.
I’m sorry, be thankful for the wonderful times you had for him. My father died when I was 14, it was cancer and took a few months. I wasn’t too close with my father, he was a drunk until my mother died…he then sobbered up a bit when he realized he had 4 kids to take care of. When he got cancer, my oldest sister was the one who had to drive him to his chemo appointments, he woke up one morning and his mind was basically shot.
I think losing my mother(at 7) had a much worse effect on me, but when my father died all I could think of was “what’s going to happen to me now”. My older sisters (i’m the only boy) wanted to sell the house, I started living on my own the end of my junior year in high school.
I’m 34 and still think “what’s going to happen to me now”
Sorry for your lose.
