Well, technically not my fiance until later today (Sunday) but it’s pretty much a done deal. I just have to propose.
We were at my daughters first t-ball game today. A lot of fun. When we were walking back to the car, she started cramping up. It got worse, and she started getting worried.
She had miscarried about 3 years ago, back when her and her first husband were trying to catch. It crushed her pretty badly.
She told me she was afraid, because this felt just like it had 3 years ago. The difference was, we haven’t been trying to get pregnant or anything. Pills taken like clockwork, for over 2 years now. No problems.
When we got home, she check and sure enough, she was bleeding. She’s been crying, off and on, since then. She’s upset, but not as bad as before, mostly because it was such a surprise. I’m pretty stunned myself. I don’t quite no how to feel… part of it just doesn’t seem real to me.
I can’t post this on my LJ, because quite a few people read it that she doesn’t want to know about it, so I’m writing this here. I’ve always felt that writing about something is a good catharsis.
Hopefully I’ll be able to post about the much better day later on, after I’ve proposed. Wish me luck… I may need it.
I wish there was something I could do! Tell her we will be there later today with lots of hugs and a large box of tissues for all of us, hopefully the surprise planned for today will help her feel a little better.
I have walked it those shoes and it is one pair that really make your feet hurt, and the rest of you as well.
Things like this really make me wish I was closer.
Thanks all. I’m thinking of sneaking into work on Monday morning and forwarding a link to this thread for her. I don’t know for sure, I’ll have to see how she’s doing.
I’m so sorry your fiance has to go through this again, but am comforted knowing she has you to support her through this tragedy. Be well and take care of one another.
Oh, Tristan, I’m so sorry. I hope this gets a little easier for both of you as time goes on.
I’m actually struggling with the very same thing myself right now - I just miscarried an unplanned pregnancy this past Wednesday. I was on the pill and the timing wasn’t stellar, lifewise, but my husband and I are both devastated. I’m just glad we hadn’t told anyone yet - I couldn’t face the idea of having to share this with friends and family right now.
