There’s this friend of mine I’m always trying to track down. I can never make plans with him, yet asking if he wants to hang out doesn’t ever make him say no or react in annoyance, he truly seems to WANT to hang out with me, but just is endlessly busy or unable to plan more than 5 minutes ahead. I only see him at work, which makes talking to him difficult, since he is busy working. I always manage to go say goodbye to him before I leave (which leads to all manner of idiotic gossip but I went over that in another thread).
While he tells me he is busy and so on, I get the impression that he manages to make plans with his other friends, and also our other coworkers, including some girls. But this could totally be untrue and is seriously just speculation.
He never makes an effort to invite me anywhere or even call me. So the other day I decided that’s it, I’m going to stop pursuing whatever it is I’m pursuing with him and not deal with him anymore.
So of course he called me, out of the blue. In fact he had tried calling me the night before (the day I decided to stop talking to him…only I hadn’t yet started not talking to him so this is not why he called) and couldn’t reach me. So he thought about calling me those two days in a row. It’s not clear why he called, it seems like he thought we had plans and he was cancelling them? Or maybe he called just to say hi.
The end result, of course, was that instead of not thinking about him anymore, I thought “Cool, he obviously DOES want to talk to me” and went back to wanting to make plans with him. He told me when he got off the phone that he’d call me tonight. Of course, he didn’t. Of course I am not calling him. However, tomorrow I feel like I SHOUL call him, because he and I both share a day off soon and I want to try and catch him ahead of time to, yet again, try and make plans with him. Or call him to just say hi.
Or should I not? Seriously, what do you think? Is this a person who is being intentionally cruel, avoiding me and playing head games, or is he just busy and forgetful? Keep being his friend, or blow him off?