WTF is wrong with all of you??!
The secrets are always the killers…
She is being open about who he is…
She is asking you to be present…
A friend can be a friend of the relationship…
If she has to meet him alone or he refuses to meet both of you he is not a friend…
She seems to be playing by the rules for him to be a friend…
Why on earth would she want *you *to meet him??? I think she’s been having more conversations with him than those to which you are privy.
How long you have been together is not directly relevant. Relationships are not a contest; it doesn’t matter how long you stay together, just how you feel about each other.
Before marriage, “relationships” are inherently ambiguous. You should have** no expectations **about how you significant other views the relationship unless you have discussed these expectations and boundaries. For instance, you should not assume you are in an exclusive relationship unless you both freely agree to be.
If you fear that your girlfriend may sleep with this “mutual friend”, then you should discuss your fears. You should discuss if you are exclusive, or if there is still room to see other people, and to what degree.
These kind of conversations can be difficult and awkward, but is better to discuss boundaries with the women in question than with random strangers on the internet. We all have different expectations and past experiences with dating, and give at best broad feedback based on your limited descriptions.
Oh…oh…ooooops!
I dunno, I certainly don’t want to be the pessimistic miserable guy here, BUT…if I were you, my friend…I’d try my best on letting this one go away…
Let me explain my opinion view…the main purpose in being in a relationship, is to be happy-am I right?..
‘Being happy,’ also includes, that you don’t have to deal with stuff like that…Gotcha?
Why would you even bother to ‘meet this guy together with her’/ ‘explain her how you feel’-etc-if she even cared (don’t want to be offensive) he wouldn’t even bother to meet this guy…
There is no reason for you (or anyone, for that matter) to get yourself into such crappy situations, once you realize there’s a LOT of other women out there, who’d be more than happy to chill with you (or me, for that matter)…
So, spare yourself the crap and trouble, and let her meet whoever she wants…as long as you don’t even bother talking to her again!