It appears that earlier today, my girlfriend was carjacked. So far as I can tell, they kept her with the vehicle, at least temporarily. Louisville Metro Police (area of the country where we live) is aware with a BOLO out. No info on her or her condition except for a text from her phone saying that they didn’t know or care what kind of condition she’s in (which leads me to conclude that she’s no longer being held). The cops aren’t working any homicides that match her description, and, at last check, U of L Hospital (the region’s major trauma unit) had no Jane Does or Room 9 (major trauma) injuries.
I’m freaking out.
I understand the cop perspective: they’re hearing second-hand from someone who didn’t see the incident; she’s a legal adult; the only communication is through her cell phone. To them, they can’t rule out the possibility that she is constructing a “hoax” because she doesn’t want to tell me to kiss off.
They’re bullshit reasons, but I can at least understand their perspective. What kills me about it is that, since she’s off work tomorrow, they want to wait until she doesn’t show up Friday to consider her missing. And even then, they’re not going to actively search for her.
I’m trying to think what I might do — comb the area looking for anything suspicious? Ask the cops what actions they suggest for you? Besides sit and wait, I mean, like how can you help to augment their efforts (which right now sounds like not much)? Of course be safe first and foremost, but at least you can be an extra set if eyes and ears for them.
She called me after he started following her. I told her to call 911, go to a police station, or at least a firehouse. She’s ex-military, went through the police academy, and thought she could lose him by random turns and so on. She told me she thought she lost him, and was on her way back to meet me when i got a text from her number saying “we got he fone n she will get it back wen we fel like it fuck her”
Direct quote.
After I called the police, and did the ER checks, I got another one that said “were y’all @ so we can ha ha shyt,” which I interpret as “where you at so we can give ya her shit?”
I asked where she was. “we took her damn [key emoji] for a reason.”
I asked if she was okay. “We don’t no or care.”
wolfman, she’s not close to her family for various and sundry reasons. And she’s not on Facebook, so trying to locate people with her common last name is a shot in the dark.
I am very sorry to hear this. It sounds like you are getting pushback from local law enforcement? Perhaps contacting your nearest FBI field office would get officials better able to assist you?
This sounds grave, and with carjacking and kidnapping, a federal offense. I can’t tell you how sorry I am to hear this. It angers me greatly that your local cops sound like they aren’t giving a shit about this. The first few hours of a kidnapping are crucial.
Do you have a case number? Edit: it’s mindblowing that the police might be treating this as a breakup gone wrong. Loach, pkbites, how would you guys handle a similar situation? Is Superdude’s stated experience atypical?
I don’t know if it’s relevant, but it is a female officer I’ve been talking with. If she has a ex/stalker history, could that color her objectivity? I’d hope that it’s not because we’re an interracial couple. I don’t see skin color in relationships. Neither does my gf. But living in Kentucky, we’d be naive to think that it might not bother others.
If you haven’t, keep checking it. It’s possible it was just a mistake. If it’s an iPhone and you can get into her iCloud account, you can track the phone (you can with an Android as well, but it’s not as easy as it is with an iPhone).
If you know about where she was the last time she called, it might be worth driving out there and seeing if there’s anything to see.
Also, if you haven’t (and you don’t have any issue doing it), make a post on facebook. Maybe you’ll get lucky and someone will message you that they’ve seen her since it happened or know where she is.
And, now that I think of it, if the car is reported as stolen (if it’s not, do that), and you suspect they still have her phone, go to the police station and show it to someone. If her phone is moving, chances are good either it’s in the car or with her. In fact, you could even drive there and see if you can find her car (or her).
