My sister just called to say Mom is being put back in the hospital, her bp dropped to 65 over 48, this is not good. They are putting in a central line so they don’t have to keep sticking her, she is a harder stick than I am and I am pretty damn bad.
I am afraid and don’t understand why this keeps happening, the last time it did this was when she was in the hospital and the doctor thought maybe it was because they had increased her pain meds too much too soon, I guess this blows that out of the water. She has already been taken off her bp medicine because it is a diuretic and she was getting too dehydrated too often.
I am not sure if this is related to the cancer she has or not. I haven’t read anything about it causing bp drops.
Best of luck, Hospitals suck. Can you call her or is she in ER? If she’s in a room, call her nurse’s station and make sure she’s getting everything she needs.
I will be going up to the hospital first thing in the morning, by the time I could get there today (by bus) visiting hours would be over and I would have to leave again.
I am losing my mind here people. There is a bunch of other crap going on and I am stressed to the max.
I’ll send good vibes your way, and pray that the doctors figure out what is causing this, and that they can prevent it in future. I’ll also pray for your mother. Take care of yourself, make sure you eat, get plenty to drink, and rest. Stressful things in your life can take it out of you. Do you have any activity you could do that would help you to cope with your stress? A punching bag, jogging, killing pixels on the computer, anything?
Last night one doctor (an oncologist) says that other than the bp thing she is a bit better and thinks they can start chemo as soon as she is done with the radiation treatments, then a few hours later another (internal medicine) doctor says he doesn’t think she has more than a year left to live. Mom is beside herself of course, I would be too. I have told her to listen to the oncologists, they are specialist in cancer. Will she listen to me ? Probably not. Do I want to insert my foot up some doctor’s butt ? Oh yes, in the worst way !
And to make matters worse I have no water today, the maintenance people are working on the lines, I had no hot water yesterday. I WANT MY SHOWER !
But there is a silver lining under all these clouds, Son and Fiance’ moved out yesterday. This time I did not cry when Son left. I love him and I don’t hate her, but that no dish washing, non cooking, bitching, whining, at least five fit a day throwing, cussing my son within my hearing girl had to go ! (Yes I am evil and I know it )
This is bad, this is really very, very bad. I am crying so forgive me if my spelling is worse than usual. They have found more nodules im Moms right lung. Now the oncologist is saying 9 months to one year. I want to scream, throw things and cuss ! My Mother has been through hell most of her life, this is not right, she should have time to just enjoy life damn it all !
I am not sure how to do this. My sister does not want Mom told how much time she has, I kind of agree because I am afraid Mom will just give up, on the other hand Mom has a right to know, she is in her right mind most of the time (the drugs do dull her out at times) and I know I would want to know so I could have time to do and say all I want to do and say. Now I am making no sense at all. She wants to talk to me tonight so I have to get ready to go.
I’m so very sorry for you Ayesha . You’re in a very tough spot and have a very difficult decision to make. Perhaps you and your sister should meet with your Mother’s oncologist and discuss it with him/her. This is something they see a lot, and can probably provide some good insight to help you and your sister make the decision. {{{{{Ayesga}}}}}
Just got back from the hospital. Mom doesn’t want to know how much time the doctors are saying, she told the doctors that if they couldn’t give her some type of hope and only be negative they should stay out of her room. They have found more nodules in her right lung.
They may send her home tomorrow, now that she is stable. She will be on a special cancer fighting diet and will continue radiation. There will be no chemo, the doctors say she can’t withstand it. She has a pain patch now along with her pills and the doctor said give her the pills every four hours even if she doesn’t ask, that way the pain won’t have a chance to get so intense.
She will be getting a hospital bed, wheel chair and a smaller oxygen container (that one on wheels makes us all a bit nuts)
She will be on ensure 3 to 4 times a day besides her meals. This is good, I want to keep her built up not wait until she is wasted away to do anything.
She is going to be famous too y’all, they shot a comerical of her talking about her age when she started smoking and all that, and how hard it was to tell her children she has cancer.
She wants a do not revive order in her chart and she does not want then to ventilate her should she crash
We’re all thinking of you and praying for you and your mom. Keep us posted and always remember that we’re all sending good supportive vibes your mom’s way. (And yours as well!)
Ayesha, I’m so sorry you are going through this. It is so hard to watch your parents get sick and feel like you can’t do anything to help. I know it helped my Dad just to know we were there, pulling for him, watching out for him and supporting his decisions. Some of those decisions were difficult, but very important to respect. I hope you are able to keep the lines of communication open and above all, I pray for your mom’s health and for strength for you.
