I just got off the phone with Sandy. She always makes me feel better. (Well, except for that bit about not marrying me.) We talked a while, and she cheered me up. Life goes on.
I’m not happy right now, but I’m coping okay. I actually smiled a few times. I even posted in another thread. I’ll be all right.
Thanks, all of you, for the thoughts and support.
My deepest condolences, Johnny L.A.. There’s nothing anyone can say that will make you feel better, but you should know that we’re thinking about you.
i’m so sorry. may her memory be eternal.
{{{{{{HUGS}}}}}
I’m sorry to hear about this, Johnny. I’m glad your mother is no longer suffering, but I know you’re hurting.
Take care of yourself, and spend some time with happy mom-memories.
I’m sorry. Thoughts and prayers for you, your family, and your friends. 
I’m sorry to hear it, Johnny, my thoughts are with you and your family.
{{{{Johnny L.A.}}}}
My condolences…
My deepest condolences, Johnny. I can feel your sadness from where I am and it pains my heart.
I’m truly sorry for your loss, Johnny. The quoted paragraph shows what a good person you are, and I’m sure it made your mom incredibly proud to have such a thoughtful and caring son.
I know that you’ve had an “annus horribilis” over the last 12 months or so. Here’s hoping that things take a turn for the better for you. Job, relationship, and all the good things in life.
I am soryy for you loss Johnny.
My condolences, Johnny.
My thoughts are with you, **Johnny. **
Johnny, I wish you the best in getting through all this. Having lost my parents, I have some idea of how you might feel. In the coming months, I hope that we Dopers continue to hear from you, and that life stops throwing curve balls at you for a while.
If you ever find yourself in Thunder Bay, let’s go for a paddle out on Superior. It’s soul lifting.
Richard Culpeper
Yes, you will be. You don’t have to be right away, but it will come with time.
I posted this over at Fathom earlier today:
Just to let everyone know…
I’m doing okay. As I said, I felt the brunt of the pain December 7th. I accepted then that mom was dying. Now that it’s over, I feel relief that she is out of her pain. I talked to my ex-fiancée yesterday. She always cheers me up (except for the bit about not marrying me). I even managed a smile or two. I’ve been hanging out at SDMB, which helps to keep me occupied.
Mom didn’t want a funeral, because she was disappointed with the service for her husband. Mom and Turkka liked to go to the Reno Air Races. It’s where they became engaged. We’re going to scatter their ashes over the Reno Airport area when the time comes.
My sister returned to San Diego for a week. When she and my BIL go back, they’ll have a truck so they can clean out the house in preparation for putting it on the market. I don’t know if I’ll go down. It’ll cost about $500 in gas, plus I’ll lose my unemployment cheque for a week. I’m not sure there’s much I can do.
I dread the legal stuff that follows. Mom had a trust in which she left everything to me and my sister. We’ll have to sell the house in Arizona, but there’s enough in her account to take care of the automatic mortgage payments for a couple of months. There’s a 401k that needs to be transferred. I need to set up a separate account for the rent from the San Diego house. I don’t know if mom had any life insurance. Taxes have to be done, and I suppose there are Social Security processes to take care of.
My mom was a practical person. She listened to me complaining once or twice a week about being unemployed, and encouraged me in my job hunt. She was glad that I’m actively looking for work, unlike her BIL who expects the government to hand him money just because he lost a leg (and limps less on his prostesis than I do on my damaged knees). I know that she would want me to keep looking, so that’s what I’ll do.
I still well up when I read these threads, but I’m okay. I’ll be all right.
My condolences to you and your sister, Johnny. Death sucks.
Johnny:
We’ve been away from the SDMB for a few weeks. So sorry we weren’t there for you when this happened.
Our condolences are going out to you If you decide that you need to travel to Phoenix, we still have that spare bedroom here in HB for you to crash in if you need to.
We’re so very. very sorry. You’re in our thoughts and prayers. Please stay in touch, my friend.
Ric and Kathy
On behalf of my wife as well: my condolences, John.
Brain tumors are horrible. From the sound of it, your mother died relatively peacefully. You were able to talk to her until shortly before she died… that’s not always the case when brain tumors are involved.
Here’s hoping the coming months and years will be kinder to you than the past ones have been.
I love the idea of scattering your mother’s ashes (and her husband’s) at the Reno airport, though. And YES, you should use the MG to travel there. There is no other option. So, start working on that car. I’d give you a hand, but I’m no good with motor vehicles (other than filling them up and trying to keep them on the tarmac and, in case of a two-wheeler, upright), and it’s a bit of a commute. 
Good luck with all the legal hassle that unfortunately comes with it.
And let’s go out for a ride again, someday - whaddayasay? Until then, I’ll keep you in my thoughts.
I’ve been away from the Straight Dope for the past weekend, so I didn’t see this until today. I’m so sorry for your loss Johnny .
Good luck with all the legal issues, I’ll keep you and your family in my thoughts.
Didn’t see this until today Johnny; I’m really sorry for your loss.