My mother just died

Miscellaneous and Personal Stuff I Must Share
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I went through asimilar ordeal over XMas '03. Mom was diagnosed with cancer in July, and they initially thought it was operable.

No such luck.

Chemo and radiation knocked it back, and we received a very good prognosis around Thanksgiving.

Dec. 23rd., 2003, and she woke up around 5 AM unable to catch her breath. 911, and a trip to the hospital saw her on O2 in the ER. They were going to admit her, and she wanted some of her things from home, so I went to get them.

My last words on this earth to my Mother were, “I’ll be right back.” And I was, like Dominoes, “30 minutes or less.”

But her condition had degraded in that short time, so they sedated her and intubated her.

She held on for 15 days like that, each day a little worse than before, until she passed at 10:30 AM, Tuesday, Jan. 6, 2004.

Basically, she survived the cancer (for a while at least; her cancer was the kind that almost always comes back some few years later, meaner and tougher than before), but the treatment killed her.

“The Holdiays” just aren’t the same since having gone through this.

kalyasdad99: I have no words of comfort that wouldn’t sound trite to my own ears. I do hope your family is stronger than mine was.

Buckle in, it might be a bumpy ride.

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She is out of pain. Yours is anew.
My condolences.

My father died December 25, 1975.

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God go with you, Kaylasdad.

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I’m so sorry for your loss.

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No time is a “good” time to lose one’s mother, but it must have hit you especially hard here at Christmas, I know!

There aren’t any words to take away the pain, dear kaylasdad99, but I add my sincerest condolences to everyone else’s here at The Dope.

You are a wonderful son and at least your sweet Mother’s ordeal is over.

God bless you and yours at this sorrrowful time, but may you always remember her, that kitchen and all the warmth and good smells which came from there.

Please write me if you want to “talk”. I’ll always be here.

Your friend,

Bill

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I’m so sorry. Losing a mom is never easy. But take some comfort that her pain is over and she was with the ones she loved.

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{{{{{{kaylasdad}}}}}}

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I’m so sorry for your loss.

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Many thanks to all for your thoughts and your kind words. The hurly-burly of dealing with the holiday, not to mention all of the out-of-town relatives, some with special needs, has the effect of occupying one’s attention. Preparations for the vigil, the cremation, the funeral, the interment of the remains are just so many more chores that need to be attended to.

My oldest brother asked for, and received, clearance from Dad to ferry the ashes out to the plot in Riverside on his Harley; since Mom enjoyed getting rides during the last few years, he gets to give her one last one. :slight_smile:

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I’m so sorry.

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:frowning:

My thoughts and sympathies to you and yours.

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That was a very sweet sendoff. My condolences to you!