“Aww, babe, at least let her tongue your balls or give you a handie. She’s been a little depressed lately and that should cheer her right up.” 
That’s hot. Wanna go away for the weekend?
Regards,
Shodan
Then you need to meet more women.
Right, I didn’t mean you were basing your view on the majority, I was saying you are, just in that last post, saying you feel more certain based on the fact that you are in the majority. That’s fine, I was just making sure I understood correctly.
Agreed on all counts. I was asking because I thought you were indicating you felt insulted, which I thought was strange since I was (as you just pointed out) literally just parroting back what you said. You have certain impressions about how people generally are, and this made you think I don’t know a lot of people because my impressions differ. Similarly, I have impressions about how people are, and this made me think you don’t know a lot of people because your impressions differ. Just as what you said need not be taken as insulting, so also, what I said need not be taken as insulting. We have different ideas about what is normal, that is all.
Of course I know I shouldn’t actually think I know anything about how many people you know based on whether I think you have the right ideas about what’s normal, and that’s why I used the language of “tempted to wonder” instead of simply actually "wonder"ing. I assume you think the same thing–though I note you didn’t hedge at all and just outright wondered.
O… kay… 
You explained how I misunderstood you. I don’t understand what there is to laugh about. I thought you were saying one thing (a thing which would certainly put you at the border of slut shaming,) but you were saying something else it turns out. I was wrong.
Is it possible you have me confused with somebody? I have no idea what you’re talking about. “I’m a nice guy” talk is anathema to me. I generally take it to be a prima facie sign of something being wrong with the guy who claims to be a “nice guy.” I’d certainly never use the language myself, for that reason.
Well, those hippie chicks who y’all too much are usually the most fun in the sack.
Really Frylock? How often has this happened to you?
I’m 52, been married three times, and had dozens of girlfriends. It never happened to me once. None of my friends have ever related it happening to them, even some notably promiscuous and chatty friends.
Hell, I will kick it up a notch and state that, based on my experience of people, nobody is really big on their SO throwing their loser friends a pity fuck.
Letters to Penthouse muck.
Look, Frylock, you seem to be very genuine in your posting now, and that’s admirable. We’ve apparently gotten on a bad foot over this for no reason, and since I’m basically a softie at heart, let’s just call it good. I’m sorry for razzing you. We’ll intimately just have to agree to disagree. And I’ll have to avoid buying that woman’s book. Peace?
Do you know any poly people?
I’m fer it.
Yes, I do. Even dabbled in it a bit. I never knew pity fucks to be a part of it. If there was one hard and fast rule, it was “no drama.” Pity fucks are something that would have to be directed towards people who would almost certainly violate that rule…like the friend in zoid’s little story.
No, I ain’t buying it.
BTW I wouldn’t buy the book either. She sounds insufferable. 
QFT.
She does, doesn’t she? I don’t know whether it’s the Bulwer-Lytton style writing, or the stealth bragging, but I wouldn’t want to spend a weekend with her.
There are people some of whom identify as poly who would treat sex this casually. I knew two such people in high school. I don’t mean to say this is inherent to the poly lifestyle, I was just casting about for an example of a crowd where something like this is not unheard of.
I mean I have two friends who are married and who also go to parties where each has seed with someone else, no strings attached. Knowing that this occurs, I don’t know why you would think the pity seed scenario is so hard to believe.
Not even if you were promised naked cuddling?
Frylock, I totally get the polyamory angle, but I still would find it very hard to sleep with someone to whom I’m not attracted. When I think “pity fuck,” that type of person pops into my head.
Seed should be sex.
Basically, the “no drama” thing. As I have experienced the poly thing, fucking your SO’s friend, with hir knowledge of what is going on, probably isn’t going to be a big deal. The friend “falling in love” with the SO or becoming obsessed with hir, neither unlikely with the kind of sad loser who needs pity fucks, isn potentially a very big deal indeed.
No drama is a good principle. How many people actually follow it? 
Most people treat it like The Pirate’s Code.
Well anyway like I said I wasn’t really saying they must be poly. The larger point is that there are people known to treat seed extremely casually.