OP is in Australia so this link is very relevant and may explain the rawness.
He has schizophrenia as well but I just mentioned OCD because that is related to the car windows.
If you don’t want to check his windows but feel compelled to comply with is compulsion to have someone check his windows, the least you should do is line up some funding to pay your wife to check his windows on your behalf for his behalf.
As noted by others hearing voices is getting into serious mental illness territory well beyond just OCD. I’m a large , strong guy but there is no way on God’s Green Earth I would be sleeping and vulnerable in the same house with someone who is hearing voices if they take it into their head to listen to what the voices are telling them to do. If this is a for real post he needs professional help ASAP not someone enabling his dysfunction.
I think you are being oblivious to the risk involved in this. People mentally ill enough to be hearing voices are a physical risk.
While I think that the OP should fix his living situation ASAP, this sounds like spreading urban legends about schizophrenia to me.
Hey, John Clay, Just a question: Is this a regular apartment or some sort of half-way house for people with mental disorders?
Tell him you’ve licked them each time you do it.
Windows are up. But the battery is leaking.
Well I tried to tell him that checking his windows would encourage his OCD. He said that if it was a problem he would be asking me 5 times a day and he only asks me once. I said that other people don’t do it. He said that my wife is too lazy and his wife is pregnant and is scared of getting stung by a bee again. He said twice that if it was a problem he would be asking 5 times a day.
Well three of the four of us have mental illnesses (my wife has schizophrenia and anxiety - the brother’s wife is paid to be his carer [he has OCD and schizophrenia] - I have schizoaffective disorder) and four of their sisters have mental illnesses. They also have an adopted brother who is a millionaire. I used to live in public housing for a while but if I wanted a public housing flat with my wife it would have only been one bedroom. Now I’m paying less rent and we are sharing a four bedroom two-storey house. Before that I was living in a place for people with mental illnesses that had nurses on stand-by. Because of that I got public housing much quicker than normal.
If you don’t want to do this activity, I suggest you do what his wife and your wife do, and just say ‘no’. See how easy that was?
But, then, you haven’t actually said anything about not wanting to continue to be his window checker so, well, just carry on and enjoy it.
In post 49 I mentioned how I tried to get out of doing it though I didn’t just say “no”. It doesn’t annoy me much though… it just feels silly trying to convince him that I checked them properly by touching it multiple times.
Wait, what?
You can adopt a millionaire?
Is this just available in Australia, or can anyone do it? Hook a brother up, man. I have so much love to share.
Tried to get out the of it?
But haven’t tried saying ‘no’?
Which has clearly worked for the other two flat mates?
Colour us not surprised!
And this, ladies and gentlemen, is how civilized countries handle disabling mental health issues in the public at large.
Rather than the US method of simply encouraging them to live in cardboard boxes someplace other than my town.
I don’t think it counts if she’s getting paid.
Well it’s been getting worse. Sometimes I have to do the routine a few times a day. And he makes me tap on each window (alternating from front to back door windows) more times. I don’t want to get in a big argument with him so I can’t stop checking his windows.
He sometimes has a weird idea of what is inappropriate though. We were cleaning up for a flat inspection and he planned on getting takeaway for dinner. Some relatives were visiting to drop off some soup. I asked him if he had told them that he plans on getting take away. He said to not tell them because it would “hurt their feelings” (since they would assume he’d be eating the soup for dinner).
I don’t think there’s anything wrong with that at all. Some people would indeed full hurt or at least put out if they were told, “no thanks, I’m going out for dinner.” I mean, can’t he just put the soup in the fridge and eat it later?
I’ll just let the Johnny if Christmas past do the talking here.
Yes he put it in the fridge for later. I just think it is dishonest giving them the impression that he was going to eat it for his dinner. I thought saying something like “thanks for the soup. I’ll have it for lunch tomorrow because I’ve got plans to go out for takeaway tonight.” I think it is similar to how my mum keeps giving my wife bananas but my wife never eats them and won’t tell her that she doesn’t eat them. They just end up going off and then being thrown away.
BTW the people who might have their feelings hurt have an adult son who used to have porn lying around when they visited him and now they don’t have any TV reception because their worried their son might be tempted to watch shows with nudity or sex. They could handle someone saying they already have plans for dinner.