There is a man that lives in my neighborhood and he is about 38 years old but he hangs with me and my friends, we are all between 17 and 21 for the most part give or take a few years. This guy likes all the same things that we like, music, movies, etc and he dresses the same as we do and says anybody over 25 is probably to old to be in any fun, seriously, the guy is really cool. The beggining of this weekend we all were at his house chilling and his girlfriend (about 34) comes in and is angry and tells him to act his age and stop hanging out with “babies”…what a bitch.
We were all 18 and over that particular night so I don’t see the problem, dude has a job and all that, how can you be to old to hang out with some people that are your friends? It’s not like we are 13 and 14 year olds hanging out with a grown man. Some of us are going to College already, sh-t.
That’s my lil’ rant for the night and it’s mostly pointless but Oh Well.
I’m with the girlfriend on this one. Sounds fishy to me.
Although Mundane and Pointless this post belonged in the BBQ Pit…sorry.
I find it odd when people hang out with adults who are much younger than them. It makes me think they suffer from some sort of emotional retardation. Like they can’t relate properly to people their own age.
To sit and have a nice conversation with very young adults is one thing. To make it a point to hang out as a habit is suspect.
My daughter is 18 (19 in Sept) and I’d be concerned if she took to hanging out with someone 38, and I’d have to wonder about a 38 y/o who wanted to hang with her. She’s mature for her age, but not 20 years more mature.
Criminy, I’m 50, and I most definitely have no desire to limit my social circle to the 30 y/o crowd. I have friends of all ages, from their 20s to post-retirement, but I don’t do all my socializing in either extreme. I’d rather spend time with those who grew up the same time I did, most of the time.
I don’t know - the 38-y/o on the OP sounds like someone I wouldn’t want my kid to be around…
I think it’s kind of weird that a 38-year-old wants to hang out with people that young, too. I agree that having friends in the spectrum of ages is great, but when you hang out too much with a much younger group, it’s kind of creepy.
I don’t mean to be judgemental, I would just be cautious around this guy.
Yet another raised eyebrow on this. I’m 49, and, like FCM, although I know people of a wide range of ages, and am friendly with people as young as 25 and as old as 63, most of the people I socialize with, talk with, spend time with, do things with, etc., are within 6 or 8 years of my age. I just don’t have that much in common with people a lot older or a lot younger than me.
Just out of curiosity – have any of your parents commented on this friendship? And if none of your parents know – why not? You didn’t tell them? Why not?
Sounds like one of those guys that doesn’t want to admit he’s as old as he is. Sheesh, I have many of the same hobbies as my coworker’s 15-year-old son, but I don’t want to be friends with him. Sure, you’re all legally adults, but it seems a bit creepy, personally, and I’m with the girlfriend on this one.
I don’t understand wanting to hang out with someone old enough to be your parent or young enough to be your kid.
He’s your connection, right?
Add me in the camp with those who feel something isn’t right here. Maybe it’s my parental radar or something, but a 38 YO who likes to hang out with guys 20 years younger sets off all kinds of warning bells for me. I’m over 50 and have friends who cover a wide range of ages, but most of the folks I “hang out” with are within 10 years (up & down) from my own age. My kids are 22 and 16; I know enough about contemporary stuff to be able to understand them (well, most of the time!) but I honestly wouldn’t want to spend most of my time hanging out with their contemporaries.
JMHO, mind you.
I’m 45 and I can’t think of any reason in the world to want to “hang out” with 17 year olds to 20 somethings other than in some kind of advisor/mentor capacity, not as a “buddy”. To be dressing like them and into the same music and movies etc does start edging the “oogy” meter up a few ticks.
What Rilchiam said.
That was pretty much my first thought as well.
I was pretty much thinking the same thing. It’s easy to think someone is the ‘coolest 38 year old you know’ if he’s getting you high.
My kids friends are that age, I’m friendly with them, but Im gonna go hang with them.
Unless, of course, they get me high.
It wouldn’t matter what my parents said being that I’m 18…When we all met the guy he told us he was 26 and we all believed him, atleast I did.
No other 38 year olds that he knows of like Rap or Heavy Metal music or have time to chill at the movies etc and thats what he likes to do so he kicks it with us.
It’s hard to think of someone as 38 when they are on your level he is not my best friend just a cool guy who happens to be 38.
I don’t smoke weed so he doesn’t supply me with anything…don’t know about anyone else.
START; you don’t find it suspect and/or a little creepy that this guy initially lied to y’all about his age?
On the one hand, if his ONLY friends are 20 years younger, maybe he needs to expand a bit. OTOH, if people are going to be friends, it’s exceptionally shallow to say ‘Sorry, you’re too old/young.’
So that means you haven’t mentioned this. Any possibility that this is because you know they’d have something to say?
I’m 46 and I hang out a lot with a 77 year old and one or two people my age. But most of my other acquaintances and friends are from early twenties to mid thirties. I think that the attitudes in this thread (i.e., it’s “creepy”) proves that some of you are turning into your parents. :eek:
My friends are usually female (I’m male) and I just relate well with some of the younger generation. I am sufficiently non-creepy that a couple of 24 year old girl friends have felt comfortable having me sleep in their beds with them.
Now if I can just convince one of them to be a fuck buddy, I’ll be set!
I’m 38 and I probably have 2 or 3 friends that I hang out with every once in awhile who are in the 18-25 year old range, mostly people I’ve worked with. Nothing nefarious about it. It’s not like 38 is ancient or anything. Heck, my wife is 25. And as far as the way I dress, I’ve dressed the same way since I was in Jr. High. Black concert T’s, Chuck Taylors, Levi’s, a jean jacket or my leather…What, I’m supposed to wear old guy trousers and suspenders or something? :eek:
Besides, these kids need someone to tell them how much Limp Biskit and Insane Clown Posse suck.
Wow being a parent does make you insanly paranoid. I’m 30 and hang out with a group of 50-60 war buffs/drinkers and have for a few years. I also hangout with a group of 18-21 college student computer nerds/drinkers. Both groups have similar intrests as I do and we have fun. There is a lot of close mindedness in this thread.