Nice to see how you’ve taken to heart the instructions to stop posting slightly unnervingly creepy threads about your relationship with your wife, John.
The interesting thing is Carrie Buck wasn’t feeble minded or a imbecile at all, in fact she was an avid reader. The Buck vs. Bell case was a conspiracy by social scientists with inflated egos to legitimize eugenics, and Buck was institutionalized to cover up the fact she was raped by a male family member.
Everyone, let’s dial it back. JohnClay asked for them, and opinions have been shared, based on what he says here, as well as his past disclosures, which is fine. But restrain yourselves from reaching for insults.
I don’t think Buck vs. Bell should apply here. No one’s saying that JohnClay and his wife should be forbidden by law to become parents. Just that it would be a horrible idea for them to do so. Besides, it’s not so much about passing on mental illness that should be the issue here – it’s that you’d have a child raised by two people who are, from what I can see, moderately to severely mentally ill themselves. Neither of them seem responsible enough to be parents. Do I think they should be forcibly sterilized? No. Do I think they should voluntarily make that decision? Yeah, it might be a good idea. Not because of passing any traits on, but because if JohnClay is in real life anything like he is here, I wouldn’t put him in charge of a Chia Pet, let alone a child.
If the Pill makes her anxious, then pregnancy’s DEFINITELY not for her.
Gotta know your audience.
I’m kicking myself for not including the no-more-free-sex point. That’s gold, and so more likely to hit its mark than anything altruistic or even sympathetic to another person’s perspective.
Yes **JohnClay **- just google “fistula”. That should put you off of the idea of allowing a baby to come out of your wife’s vagina.
Should we tell him about the mucus plug?
Maida if it’s a girl.
I have a married flatmate that works in childcare. She’s not allowed to give kids time-out or spank them but she wants to spank her own kids - maybe she thinks the problem with daycare kids is they can’t be spanked.
I did as I was asked - I stopped them entirely for about a month then I’m only doing one thread at a time.
It was intended as a test… not the only test but an initial test.
In that quote of me, it began with her calling herself ugly once. So you’re being dishonest by thinking that quote said that I find her to be ugly.
People often imitate and mirror other people. If they think that nagging will get them what they want I think they’d want to keep on doing it. BTW my wife said that I always seem to get my way… that would be partly due to nagging.
I share private thoughts on these messageboards that sometimes aren’t very filtered. I’m more careful in real life.
Actually I think our house would be too small for the child and I’m quite worried about that.
In posts 68 and 69 I said that this was instead of having a baby…
BTW about a day ago I was showing my wife a DVD about raising newborns. Then last night I showed her a segment about postnatal depression. In it guys and mothers were talking about how unhappy they were about having a baby. I think that helped persuade my wife that maybe a child is a bad idea.
BTW my married flatmate and her husband are trying to have two babies. She’s been having tests and she has a 3% chance of ever becoming pregnant for some reason. She might try IVF in the future.
Two people with mental illnesses shouldn’t have kids. It’s not fair to the kid, even if they’re in the half that don’t inherit your various mental health issues.
Please stop telling him to get a pet. He does not-nice things to pets.
I used to be on the fence about the whole spanking issue before I had a kid, now that I have had one I realize spanking does have its place.
For mobile but pre-reason kids spanking(bare hand on buttocks) is essential for dangerous or life threatening things. You simply cannot explain to a two year old how dangerous attempting to dash into the street is, but a quick spanking gets the point across. Ditto for stuff like turning the knob and starting the gas range, knocking over a table full of plates and drinking glasses etc etc.
This is the only value I’ve found in spanking, once children have reason and can understand at least vaguely deadly dangers spanking is no longer much use.
I have little respect for someone that relies on spanking for a child over six, or possibly their child has a issue they should deal with. People that spank teenagers are insane or fetishists.
OK, I know I’m focusing on the wrong thing here, but what the hell is “light” sexual contact?