I’d like to know if there’s a name for this situation.
I got into some trouble at worrk. I made a wisecrack about the boss, and he didn’t think it was very funny. He gave me an official reprimand for insubordination. I’ll get over it.
But maybe not. See, I made a comment thinking he’d take it with a sense of humor - he didn’t, he was insulted. I didn’t think that what I said was that big of a deal, I’m quite certian anybody could have said the same thing to me, and I’d shake it off.
So now I’m left with the feeling that I shouldn’t tolerate any kind of similar comments from him without taking offense. That is, I’m going to be on guard against him, and not let him get away with remarks that I’d normally not care about. I feel like, in order to be fair, I have to change my level of tolerance for this sort of thing.
Is there a name for this feeling, or social situation? I have to believe it’s pretty common. Two people have a different level of tolerance for offhand comments, and when one takes offense, the other feels justified in becoming similarly intolerant towards that person.
“non-reciprocal offense”? or something like that?