Does anyone remember me? I don’t come around much anymore because I have become gainfully employed and have been in a long term relationship. I have mentioned KD before in threads like My Blind Date Never Went Home and She’s a Morning Person . Anyway, in February, we will have been together for three years and one day I said to KD, “We deserve a party…Let’s get married.” She said yes and we are going to be married in March.
We would like to use special vows…something with some humor. I ask of my fellow members at the SDMB: Would anyone have some ideas for marriage vows for a bride in a wheelchair. I’m currently thinking along the lines of: Looking forward to wheeling you around through life…But that’s as far as I can get.
Of course I remember you! The naked water gardening thread has stuck with me ever since the first time I read it. I’m so happy for you!
I have no original thoughts yet on the vows thing, but I will think about it.
Congratulations, dear. Good things happen to good people sometimes!
Yes, you have to be very careful. If anything, I would make the jokes at your expense, or talk about how her disability has forced you to see the world in a whole new way.
Presumably the OP has considered how his beloved will take the jokes in his vows, and she has the type of personality that will enjoy it.
You shouldn’t be concerned about the guests. They’ll forget, but this will be a day that the two of you will remember forever. I’ve always thought that vows should be personal between the couple. I signed up with the ULC a couple of years ago to marry two of my best friends, and they wrote their own vows. Both of them had jokes in them, and I was doing my best to be a nice stoic officiant and not laugh my ass off. I think some people wished they’d took the vows a bit more seriously, but fuck 'em, they were beautiful. If she’s the kind of person who will dig it, by all means go for it.
Ivylass, one of the reasons we were set up in the first place is that I was formerly disabled. I am a traumatic brain injury survivor and I spent well over a year learning how to walk, among other things. My personal story is posted in a thread at another website under Quality Control and Brain Damage . There is a link in the fifth or sixth post called “Quality in the First Person”.
Me and my best man waited at the alter and the brides brother wheeled her in. The preacher began the service and I said to him, “Mike, something’s not right (pause for effect). I will not look down on the woman I want to spend my life with!” Then I got down on one knee, took her hand and looked her in the eye. No one, NO ONE knew what I was going to do. It took everyone by surprise. Thank you Mad Maxx for giving me the idea.
Here are our vows:
Groom:
There was darkness for a long time and then there was light, and that light was you. Your love has given me wings, and our journey begins today. I pledge before this assembled company to be your husband from this day forward. Let us make of our two lives one life. I want you for today, tomorrow, and forever. (I thought about adding that the reserved parking up close was bonus, but I changed my mind.)
Bride:
I have dreamed my whole life of having someone as wonderful as you love me the way you do. I give myself to you as your wife, and I promise here to treasure for all of my days the love we celebrate today. Let us bring together our lives and find ourselves anew each day.
Minister to Bride:
Karen, will you take Howard as your husband, in happiness and with patience and understanding, through conflict and tranquility?
Wow. Thank you, hlanelee. I’m glad you liked my idea enough to use it in your wedding. A lot of my posts end up being drive by comedy, but I’m really pleased that one of my serious ones didn’t get lost in all the commotion.
It’s kind of weird that you posted this now. My wife and I just had our tenth wedding anniversary yesterday and we are going out tonight to celebrate. I’ll propose a toast to you and your new bride this evening. Good luck and I hope you and your wife have as great a marriage as my wife and I do.
