Ok. There’s a woman I work with. We have many of the same interests… so similar are our interests I find it odd, because I am odd, and to find not only another person who is odd, but who is odd in such a similar fashion… It’s very odd.
She is also attractive. Not the girl-of-my-dreams attractive, but generally speaking, she’s nice to look at. We’ve quickly become friends since I moved here a few months ago, and currently we’re only friends (on my part) because she has a boyfriend. This is an acceptable obstacle to a more intimate relationship, and I am not one to tamper with such things. Normally I’d leave it at that, but here’s the rub; the boyfriend lives oh, about 1000 miles away.
He seems nice enough, and they have similar interests between them, but knowing her so far, and knowing what she’s told me about him, the distance is the only saving grace of the relationship. If subjected to each other on a day-to-day basis for weeks, I have no doubt they’d lose interest in each other. If they did end their relationship, being her current confidant, close friend, and nearest reciprocating attraction, I’m fairly sure we’d get together. And we’d work.
Now I’ve told her that should circumstances change, I am attracted to her and would welcome the possibility of a more intimate relationship. We’ve noted that working together might make things difficult, but in our little fantasy discussion of the subject, the working together part did not destroy the possibility. She’s also said to me that if someone came along and swept her off her feet she’d be inclined to tell her LD beau it’s over. She’s also told me she has a similar attraction to me that I have with her, but again, her current relationship is good enough to her that she doesn’t want to chance it.
I’m highly analytical, and have run out many scenarios in my mind of what I could and should do, but have not found a suitable solution to my problem. I’d need to either figure out how to sweep her off her feet, or solidify the friendship as platonic. What could I do to help things along in my favor? Should I do them? If I should, how do I minimize the risk of me coming out in a bad light?