MaastrichtSon will be born tomorrow, Tuesday, March 13, 2008 !
Yes. The little tyke already takes after his procrastinating mom, and is a full two weeks late, hence the cesarian. Tomorrow morning, I’m going in for a scheduled cesarian. We’ll report to the hospital at 07.30 and if all goes as planned, my husband Arwin and me will be looking at him at 09.15.
I wonder what he will look like. The floor is open to bets as to his hair and eye-color.
I’m not scared about the cesarian; I’m pretty good with pain, as long as I don’t have to do anything. Kudo’s to the ladies here who have withstood pain, combined with the agonizing effort of a vaginal delivery; I’m not sure I could take that.
I am scared of how I will be feeling about the baby, though. Everybody keeps saying it is the best moment of your life. But I wasn’t a very motherly person before, and 9,5 months of pregnancy hormones hasn’t really changed that. I’m ready for the responsibility, or as ready as a clueless first time mom can be.
I just hope that the Magical Bonding Fairy (Mother Nature with gauzy wings, a tutu and a lactation video) will pay me a visit.
Good luck! Everything will be fine. And don’t worry about being motherly. The first few months are VERY stressful, but you will love your baby. It’s a strange and wonderful thing.
Here’s a couple of tips: Take your pain meds, at least for the first day or two! You can breastfeed while taking them, so don’t worry. And, hold a pillow to your tummy whenever you need to sit up or get out of bed or move around a lot. It helps.
And don’t worry about bonding with the baby in the very first moment of life. It’ll be an amazing experience whether you have instant bonding miracu-love or not, and you’ll fall in love with the little guy eventually, trust me.
Aagk. That’s pregnancy brain for you. May, I meant may, of course!
Well. I’ve woken up, and I’m sitting here and surfing the Dope in the middle of the night. Three hours to go untill we leave for the hospital. I can’t seem to sleep for some reason. Thanks all for the well wishes, you guys are the best !
Masstricht Congratulations. Do your best to get some sleep after the surgery. In fact if after the second day you haven’t gotten at least 4 hours straight somewhere don’t be ashamed to send the little one to the nursery for a few hours. And don’t worry about the bonding. My wife felt the same but bonded with her after the first breast feeding.
As for the bonding thing, well, it took me a while but I got there. Think of all the fun you’ll have shaping that impressionable little mind to be just…like…you.
Good luck! And don’t worry about the bonding- it took me two days to bond with my son. I had a c-section, too, and I was the third person (maybe fourth) in my delivery team to get to hold him, and completely out of it.
Do take your pain meds, and if anyone volunteers to do any housework, food delivery, cooking etc, LET THEM. And then tell them to get out. Seriously. You will be zonked. Major surgery plus new motherhood. No long visits.
Another totally clueless new mom (had never changed a diaper until they handed me my kid) advice. ETA: But I’m doing okay! It’s been four months! He’s still got everything attached and I’ve only dropped him once!
Babies are so cool.
Thanks all for the well wishes, you guys are the best !