The dude chasing around neighbors who have the nerve to walk their dogs is a wackado.
Hearing the known father was in the military (and it sounds like his first kid) puts the overprotectiveness in a bit more of an understanding light.
Say what you want guys, but if my mother had been a tad more diligent in checking for a hymen, maybe I would have had one beyond (at the latest) age 3.
Could it be, that since he’s in the military, he’s afraid that his time away from home will cause her to reach out for “another daddy” and he wants to be her only daddy? He wants to be that special man, and it stings him to see her reaching for “daddying” from another male because he can’t be there for her as much as he wants to be? 
Maybe he’s also rather macho, and isn’t coping with the complex feelings of wanting to be the only daddy for her, yet knowing that he may be called away? I wonder if he isn’t territorial with the Grandfathers/Uncles too?
That doesn’t seem “reasonable” to me. It seems it would foster an unhealthy (potentially even pathological) distrust of adult males. I woukd expect the long-term effects of such conditioning would make it really tough for a girl to be able to develop healthy relationships with the opposite sex later in life.
How do you start dating when you have been subjected to life-long conditioning to believe that every man, from your uncles to your father’s best friend, mean to do you harm? That every man could be a rapist? It would make healthy bonding (emotional and physical) with a potential spouse rather difficult, I would think.
The amount of people that die in terrorist attacks or even prove to be the victims of violent crime are minuscule compared to the number of people subject to sexual abuse. While the discrepancy in offense rates between men and women is enormous in sexual assaults, I’m not even sure that black people commit proportionally more violent crime than white people. Furthermore, while avoiding terrorism and violent crime would necessitate enormous changes to one’s lifestyle such as avoiding airplanes, conspicuous buildings, or public spaces, avoiding molestation simply means not allowing them to stay overnight or with places where they have private interaction with sexual predators.
I wouldn’t try to instill any fear of adult men or tell them not to talk with them, just say, “no” to allowing them extended private periods with my hypothetical kids when practical.
I don’t think that parents honestly have to be that concerned about kids being swept off the streets by strangers, but I don’t think I’d allow my kids to attend sleep-overs until they were old enough to understand what sexual abuse was and know how to get help if they’re in a bad situation. Perhaps 7 or 8.
I think I would approach him while the guns were all disassembled. 
Really? Fan of Nancy Grace, are you?
Seriously, that’s quite a serious allegation. Cite?
I completely agree with you. I’d prefer to see parents being overly concerned about their kids being molested than to be complacent and risk that something bad could happen to the kid.
It is easy to think this particular dad is being silly because Hal Briston knows in his heart that he isn’t a molestor, but how is the dad supposed to know that? You can’t tell who a molestor is just from their looks or actions around adults.
Sadly, there are plenty of cases where a “trusted family friend” gets away with molesting a child without the parents suspecting anything because they just assume their “friend” is a good guy. I think it makes perfect sense to err on the side of caution and avoid any unnecessary contact with post-puberty males until the kid is old enough to protect him/herself from the bad apples.
Guys, look at it this way: Avoiding unsupervised contact with kids is for YOUR protection too. This way, you don’t have to worry that someday you might be falsely accused of molesting the kid, like the guy in mhendo’s story was.
Um. Because he’s right there in the room?
I might get it if he didn’t want to leave his daughter alone with Hal Briston and go away from the area but when he’s in the same room, it’s just plain nuts.
Um. Because he’s right there in the room?
I might get it if he didn’t want to leave his daughter alone with Hal Briston at HB’s house while he goes out but when he’s in the same room with them, it’s just plain nuts.
So how come it tells you you’ve posted a duplicate and then posts it? Silly, silly forum.
Because it likes your username and wants to see it often?
By the way, Hal, why don’t you just tell your wife she’s on her own with her friend. He isn’t your friend. You don’t need this shit. Why keep it going?
I’m an adult male, and my best friend has a grand-daughter and niece who are 9-10 years old. I’ve been an “uncle” to them since they were 2 years old. I help them with school projects sometimes, I’ve shown them how to decorate their own pumpkins and Christmas trees online, and gave them their first surfing lessons. When I read stuff like this, I get really paranoid about being “friends” with these girls. It’s sad that I should worry about having a genuine relationship with children that aren’t “mine”. Just the world we live in, I guess.
Well.
I’m pretty sure my daughters have hymens. But I would not look for one. For the first thing, it’d hurt for me to do so (and that would not be “okay” pain, simply because I would have good intentions). Also, the hymen is inside as far as I know, and would not be found without doing something nasty and invasive.
One of my infant daughters did have fused labia (they fused when she was about 6 months old - it’s uncommon, but not an unusual condition), and I pulled the tissue apart while changing a diaper, before I realised how painful this would be for her (and before I learned that the best treatment is either a hormonal cream, or leaving them alone until hormones in puberty cause natural separation). She would barely allow me to change her diaper, screaming and fighting, for weeks and weeks after. I cannot imagine any mother who paid her child any attention would fail to notice a child in genital pain or even discomfort.
How exactly would a mother “check for a hymen?” ??? And if she suspected a problem to that degree, why would she not DO something?
Aw gosh…
(you really need a smilie for ‘looks down, scuffs toe’)
Ah, yes. The insulting and degrading default assumption that we’re not to be trusted in the presence of someone else’s kid is for our own good. :rolleyes:
I was outside Mothercare once when I spotted a small girl alone and in distress. The following thoughts went through my head in rapid succession:
[ol]Help the poor little mite!
[li]Stop! Do you want people to think you’re a child molester?[/li][li]Look around. See if you can see the mother anywhere and attract her attention.[/li][li]Stop! Now you’ve been spotted looking at the child and then looking around “suspiciously” to see if you’ve been noticed.[/li][li]sigh 
[/li][/ol]
Hal, maybe this guy just belongs to the species Parentus Idioticus. Hopefully though, it may just be a case of SCBNP, or Stupidity Caused By New Parenthood for those of us who are not in the medical professions. The symptoms are the same, but the second instance is curable.
SiL did, she’s been cured of it due to two parallel processes.
The Nephew has not caught anything from anybody; he’s got a very minor kidney problem but it’s genetic and my great-grandma had it and died at 95, cause of death recorded as “old age”, the closest to sick she ever was were her two pregnancies. He didn’t instantly die when his auntie put him on the floor for the first time at 8mo, he didn’t instantly die when his father (prodded by auntie) put him on the floor for the second time at 11mo (started walking on all fours instead, about bloody time). Perfectly healthy ox-sized baby, the Nephew.
Her dad got ALS. They’re taking care of him at home. The presence of a 60yo man who needs more and more help every day manages to make the idea of taking care of a healthy baby sound “restful”.
The second isn’t common, but in my experience from dealing with other new parents who belonged to the same species, this problem tends to heal by itself just due to the first.
One other thing - try looking on your state’s sex offender list & see if there’s anyone with a name similar to yours.
Just how do you go about “checking for a hymen” in a toddler? Stick a couple fingers up there? Borrow a speculum from your OB/GYN? You’re a fucking lunatic.
I agree with this suggestion (although I probably wouldn’t be quite so upfront-confrontational). Clearly the guy has an issue; there’s nothing you can do to resolve that issue unless and until you know what it is. It may, of course, be unresolvable.