I just had a surreal moment. As I’ve mentioned here before, just yesterday actually, I’m 36 and a single dad with an 8 year old daughter.
Ok, the kiddo wanted a friend of hers to spend the night Friday. She’s never spent the night before, but they’ve been at birthday parties and a couple school events at the same time, I’ve met and talked to her parents and we’ve exchanged numbers so we could get the kids together to play or whatever.
At school today, daughter told her friend she wanted her to spend the night and that the parents should talk about it, and my daughter told me after school that she mentioned it but the friend said her mom deleted my number. She must have accidentally deleted it, I said. “No, she said her mom deleted it on purpose.” Well, you never know if you’re getting an accurate story with kids, I’m sure she switched phones and lost it or something.
I called the mom and got her voicemail, left a message that “This is X’s dad and she was wondering if your daughter could spend the night Friday. Here’s my number if you want to give me a call, she’d sure like having her over. Thanks.”
Three minutes later I get a call back. “This is So-and-so’s dad. Her mom told me you left a message about maybe having her spending the night. See, the thing is, she told me you’re a single dad and it’s just you and your daughter living together and I just wouldn’t feel comfortable with her spending the night without a woman there. I’m sure you understand.”
“Um, sure, no problem thanks for calling.”
So, without a woman here to watch over me, I guess I could start molesting at any time. That’s somewhat offensive, but then I realized that her mother probably really did delete my number on purpose for the same reason which just solidifies the offense. I guess my daughter isn’t good enough to be friends with theirs on account of my vagina deficiency (and, heh, penis overabundance).
I’ve tried to see it from their point of view but I’ve met a handful of other single dads and I wouldn’t have a problem sending my kid over there. I would check them out as much as I do mothers and babysitters by talking to them and getting to know them a little and as long as they seem like decent people who wouldn’t be throwing an all night kegger, I’d let her go.
So what’s your take? Would you let your daughter spend the night with a friend if the friend had a single dad?