No means NO !

The BBQ Pit
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The word “no” needs no further explanation.

I am sick of the number of people who assume “no” means please insist, guilt, entreat or persuade me into saying “yes”. It means “NO” you idiots.

Examples ? ok
When you asked me if I wanted some more nibblies, I politely said “No thanks”.
You said “Oh, but they’re 97% fat free”
“Thanks, but no thanks” I replied with a polite smile.
“You can’t tell they’re low fat” you say, shoving them towards me.
“Oh”
“Just have one, you HAVE to try them” you whine, waving them under my nose.

Bloody hell ! How many times do I have to say no ? Are you trying to make me be rude to you ? Are you trying to control me ? Do you really think you’re the world’s worst hostess if every last nibbly isn’t nibbled ? Back off !

It’s everywhere I turn. Unless you give detailed reasons why you said “no”, people keep trying to push it. If you offer reasons, you’ve lost, because then they think it’s an invite to debate your reasons with you. It’s a frigging biscuit, not an international peace treaty that I’m declining.

Then there’s the indirect no, that is said so that you can keep face. Believe me, I no longer give a stuff about your face, if you ask one more time, I’m just going to tell you that “I’m not answering that question, or any more like it, because it’s NONE OF YOUR BUSINESS”
Examples I hear you asking ? ok

“Geez that’s a good industry to work in… nice paycheck huh?”
“It’s paying the bills” -> N.B I’m not telling you a dollar amount !
“So what’s the going rate for what you’re doing?”
“It varies quite a lot” -> notice a pattern ?
“I heard you just got a healthy raise…”
notice the silence, or the non-committal smile.
“So…ah… how much ?”
God damn it ! Why do you think you need to know what our income is ? No, it’s not top secret, but it’s also none of your business.

Get the hint : If you push, it’ll just make me more determined !

Stop trying to gouge, force, persuade or manipulate answers when we’re being obviously evasive, or we’ll just tell you point blank how rude and nosy you are !

And, dammit NO MEANS NO !

Sheesh !

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Aw come on, have another nibbly. You must be getting paid pretty well if you can turn down free food.
:wink:

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97% fat free?
Couldn’t you try just one?
They’re not bad for you.

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“your lips say ‘no no no’, but your eyes, your eyes”…

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So…could you loan me 50???

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I am never, ever saying “snack” again. It’s nibblies or nothin’ round these parts!

Oh, and to the OP: I feel the exact same way. We had this debate here in the Pit a month or two ago, and people came in to say that they won’t TAKE a nibblie (Is that the correct singular?) unless the hostess cajoles them into it. I’ll never understand, but there you have it.

Want some cake? It’s sooooooper good! Come on- just taste! I spent all day cooking it! I ground the flour myself! Ungrateful bastard! :: shoves food down Goo’s throat ::

JUST ONE GODDAMNIT! EAT IT! EAT IT!

Zette

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Yes! You’ve exported another Australianism. Goodonya! :slight_smile:

I can guarantee you you haven’t experianced the most annoying person at this unless you’ve met my brother. Telling him no for anything usually means you have to repeat no 10 or 11 times. (Please? Come on… It’s only…)

Twas almost a given that his first job out of high school was door to door salesman.

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Silentgoldfish, I’ll see your brother and raise you a mother-in-law !

BTW, I wasn’t aware that “nibblies” was an Aussie term. : insert shrugging smiley :

Zette, the correct singular would be nibbly. :wink: And you can shove the cake :smiley:

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Then there’s “dainties”, which refers specifically to those teeny little pastries you get at church socials and whatnot. United Church women are the queens of dainties.

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Because sometimes, even when you want to say yes to a gift, like food or something, it’s polite to say no first and see if the person offers again, so you know if he really wants you to have the gift or is just asking you to be polite.

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I so wish no one did that bullshit. If you want to offer me something, offer it. If you don’t, don’t. If you don’t and I really want it, I’ll ask and you can still say no.

Fuck the ‘say no three times’ crap.

If it’s something really important, then maybe once, but not for idiotic stuff like 97% fat free nibblies.

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Strangely enough, in Czech, “No” is short for “Ano”, and means yes…

…okay I’ll shut up now.

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no!

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I tend to turn things down once, if I’m not sure that there will be enough to go round or if I think something is being offered for politeness reasons only. I’m sorry to those this annoys, but it’s my fundamentally unselfish character coming out - I’d rather someone else had it, since ultimately I’m not that bothered.

But if pushed…

This leads to me pushing others a little - something that annoys the kabbess immensely. On that regard, we’ve come to an agreement. I won’t offer more than once and she won’t hit me.

pan

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Sounds like a solid foundation for a relationship :wink:

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Certainly seems to have worked so far. :smiley:

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I hate it too. Every time I’m at a friends house. Once a friend said"would you like some cookies ?"
"No thank you " I said
“but they’re really good” She said.
“No thank you, I’m really not hungry” I said
“Well, I’ll just leave them out on the table in case you change your mind” She said and she did.
I never took any cookies and she was pissed at me for it.

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This is the precise reason that I refuse to try to sell things for a living. I pretty much assume people know what they want (is this a mistake?) and so when they say NO, thanks, I say OK.

It’s the same treatment I’d want.

But it makes me a horrible sales(wo)man.

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Ok, fine. You don’t want a nibblie.

Would you like to try a Riesen?

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Strange…

Goo, surely you remember that at the last SydDope, the word “no” was accepted quite readily…
…well at least it was when woolly was handing out the burnt and blackened chicken wings. :slight_smile:

The price we pay for voting in the wrong “alpha male” as chief BBQ attendant, I tells ya!