I’ve seen your picture. No need to worry. Not gonna happen no matter how drunk I get.
How 'bout you provide the correct interpretation if I’m wrong, eh?
If he were a clingy, stalker type, I wonder why it took him 4 incidents and several months in between interludes to suddenly manifest his clingy, stalker personality.
He probably mumbled “I love you.” because he just had great sex and felt all warm and fuzzy. It happens. Instead of saying, “Excuse me?” you should have just left it alone. By asking him to clarify, you kind of backed him into a corner. What else could he say that wouldn’t sound potentially insulting? He said you were a great lover which sounds like a reasonable response to an awkward question, IMO.
Now if he starts calling you twenty times a day, then I’ll eat my pixels.
This is the part that says it’s oogy. I mean, three encounters that are basically quick fucks, with scarcely the time for heart-to-heart conversations, then four months of no contact. Then on the fourth quick fuck, it’s “I love you.”
Maybe Bricker’s right, and if Otto had been waiting to hear those words, (or had been meaning to say them yourself), he’d be walking on air.
Except that if that were so, I’d conclude that his elevator skips a considerable number of floors, too. So it doesn’t work in any good sense.
Honesty is always, always, always the best policy.
“I’m not interested in pursuing a long-term, committed relationship now. I’m sorry if that isn’t what you want to hear, but it is how I feel.”
No need for further explanation.
A thought occurred to me–does it necessarily have to be romantic, exclusive love? I mean, if Otto’s fuckbuddy cares about him and feels really good about the sex, does his declaration of love necessarily means that he wants a monogamous relationship with Otto, or could it mean that he cares about him?
I could say that I love Homebrew. I don’t want to be his boyfriend because I’m happy with my guy, and I’m not physically attracted to him (no offense). But if we lived near each other, I’d hang out with him, watch DVDs together, listen to his troubles; y’know, be his friend. And if I could say that I love a friend, does loving one’s fuckbuddy make one clingy, or just a caring soul? I like to think that I have made every guy I’ve ever been with feel that he was loved, even if it was only for one night.
So Otto’s fuckbuddy might not be a soul-sucking bunny-boiler–he just might really like being with Otto when they’re together.
(snort!) I wish I would have said that!
And I wish I would have said this, too! Heh. Soul-sucking bunny-boiler.
Back on topic…This is entirely possible. Except when he elaborated after the “Huh?”, it sounded more like Big Love to me.
Good God, that’s scary. Like Amazon Floozy Goddess mentioned, perhaps sex to him means a lot more than it does to you. You definitely need to tell him, in no uncertain terms, that you do not share his, um, extreme affection.
I had something sort of similar happen to me, too. It was frightening. We never had sex - we never had even kissed, but on the second date, the guy got down on his knees and proposed to me. :eek: I hadn’t done anything, and he lived in Arizona (I’m in Missouri). Maybe this guy you speak of has just been looking for love too long and has strongly romanticized your relationship in his head. Either way, you have to tell him how you feel.
NO ONE has played me for anyone…
Oh wait, you weren’t talking about me.
Ah well. If only I was as cute as Eton Patz when he was in his prime
I must say ** bricker ** has a very good point.
I’ll try to remember it…