Nobody helps with my embarassing problem (extreme TMI)

Miscellaneous and Personal Stuff I Must Share
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I have a personal problem which is made worse by the fact that nobody wants to hear about it. Its not like I bring this up out of the blue “My ass feels really raw, do you know what might be causing this?” I tell them I have this personal problem, and gradually work my way towards it, and when they hear it has too do with my butt, they put their fingers in their ears and scream “LA LA LA I CANT HEAR WHAT YOU ARE SAYING ABOUT YOUR DISGUSTING BUTT PROBLEMS I AM IN MY QUIET HAPPY PLACE RIGHT NOW”

Basically, a few days ago I had a particularly painful bowel movement.It wasn’t that it was large, or rock-hard or anything. When I was wiping, I was a little alarmed that there was some blood on the toilet paper. This is when I started asking, and nobody wanted to discuss it. Yes, I could have gone straight to the doctor, but I wanted to talk about it with someone I am *comfortable * with first. This problem has happened a few times before, and I always get better, so I decided that if it didn’t heal up in a week I’d go to the doctor anyway. In the meantime, I tried relieving the pain/itching around my anus with hydrocortisone. This stuff works pretty well, but they don’t tell you exactly how to apply it (I put it on some toilet paper and rubbed it around the itchy area). It helped some, but my skin didn’t seem to absorb it so I had this horribly uncomfortable sensation of something greasy oozing out my butt :eek:. Also, there was some sort of discharge which smelled bad; the whole time I was paranoid people around me could tell I smelled like ass. It was hard cleaning that area becuase the smallest amount of water applied on the area would cause so much pain I would literally jump straight in the air.

Its getting better now, but I would like to know why this happens to me. Its kind of upsetting that nobody is willing to at least let me explain the reason I’ve been walking kind of funny/wincing when I sit down. It almost makes me wish this on them :mad:

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I don’t know what’s wrong with you, but please see a doctor.

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Go to the doctor, but it sounds like you just made a little fissure - a small tear/cut - by your anus. This is common but uncomfortable and it will heal. But obviously, you need to keep that area very clean - the discharge/smell may mean that it’s infected. Go to your doctor, he will have seen it all before.

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Well, my first thought would be haemorrhoids. Unglamourous, but people do get them.

My second thought, though, would be that there are several other things it could possibly be, some of them very nasty, so please see a doctor, if only to set your mind at rest.

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Ahhh, my specialty!!!

(A sad one, yes, but everyone has to be good at/know lots about something.)

(Oh and no, Im not particularly PERSONALLY interested in ass problems, its more of a professional thing)

Since I cant actually examine your poor sore poop chute…my guess is either a)youhave a haemorrhoid, (an outpouching of a vein in your rectum. It could be external, and feel like a small slightly squishy bump… or internal … you could gently insert your finger and see if you feel any kind of sticky out thing on the wall of your rectum. b) you have a fissure… or c) you are EXCORIATED!
(Ie you are raw in and around the rectum either from having a lot of moisture there… (sweat, tight clothes, synthetic underwear, plastic incontinent products, (somehow doubt that one) not having your incontinent products changed often enough, diarrhea, sitting too long in a wet bathing suit…)
and basically… your butt is chapped or the skin otherwise irritated.

No matter, easily fixed, especially if you can go to the bathroom yourself, and keep yourself clean and dry

Either way, solution, you need to pay attention to your nether regions. It would help to find out if its a fissure though, but Im gathering you have no one immediately wanting to check if its a small cut on your anus or if its just a chapped rashy looking skin thing.

Wash well in the morning with a mild soap. “Not just I’m in the shower, let the water run,” but washcloth, gentle wiping, etc. No stray bits of excrement allowed.

Now to dry. Spread those cheeks and GENTLY dry yourself really well.

Now comes some choice. A barrier cream is reccomended. A zinc oxide based cream is great. Baza is good… but expensive. Any diaper rash cream (sorry, but if you are excoriated, thats what you’ve got) will work. If you dont have access to that, just get some generic zinc oxide, the sort of grey white stuff that you put on your nose so it wont get sunburned. (if you are of the pasty/pale/burns easily persuation, like myself)

And no, it wont be absorbed by the skin, so yes it feels sticky. Just put a small amount on, you dont need much.

Of course, the hysdrocortisone cream will also help, and again the sticky feeling. If all else fails use some vaseline. Again a little dab will do ya, and at least vaseline soaks in better.

Also did the cream come with a nozzle… those ones let you insert into rectum and squish? That works great for internal haemorrhoids. And I reccomend using your fingers, not toilet paper for smearing on any cream. Toilet paper is just going to irritate your poor bottom more.

If you really hate cream you can fold some gauze up to kind of pad your crack and keep skin from touching skin. YOu have to change this every few hours. Oh and a bit… a small bit of cornstarch would be good, but not if you have cream on already or are going to get a wet or sweaty bottom again soon. (then you’d have paste… )

Oh and after every Bowel movement, wash gently with warm wather on your toilet paper, unless you have access to a clean washcloth, etc.

So the principles are clean dry bottom, untill it heals. Yes you will
heal up. Cotton underwear of course. If you are a man, boxers are better than briefs… Loose pants too.

Of course, it could be something else entirely. So if it doesnt clear up, see the doctor willya? But try this first anyway. Butt hygine is always a good thing.
Anything else you need to know.?

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Oh my god, really I am a nice decent person, you’d like me if you met me, I dont have strange fetishes.

That post really bothers me. I know way too much about this. I was way to eager to respond.

Excuse me, I have to call a therapist right now.

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Another possibility is that you might have a pilonidal sinus, which is basically an open wound between the ass cheeks that secretes blood/pus. The discharge smells awful, and it’s like having a period 365 days a year.

Plays hell with your social life as well.

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I agree you should see a dr…I keep hoping Anal Scurvy won’t post to this tread…cringe…seriously you should get it looked at! Margo

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Thanks for all the feedback, not only do I feel more comfortable about the situation, but I literally feel better. My backside is almost completely normal.

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Fella, if these aren’t your friends, I don’t know who is…

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No, juji_mojo, that was really helpful. This is the sort of thing that no one is ever willing to talk about, and it’s good to get some info. Not that things of this nature present a frequent problem for me. It’s just good to see somebody being straight about it.

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Try pilonidal.org to see if your symptoms might be a pilonidal cyst. Payton’s Servant mentioned this already, but this is a good site for information. It seems rare, but a GP would be used to dealing with it.

In any case, you need to make a doctor’s appointment for sure. This is definitely not normal. Maybe a polyp? Hell, I dunno. But you don’t want to blow this off.

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Thanks white lightning. Now I feel better. Butt hygine isn’t what everyone wants to know about. But sooner or later we all need it.

Its just a sad sad day when you realize that your posts about all things fecal are your longest and most comprehensive posts.

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You know, I believe it was that excoriation thing you mentioned, juji_mojo!

I recall having a very short bout of diarrhea some time ago. It was an isolated incident, but while I was evacuating myself I was thinking, “Hmm, I almost never get diarrhea. Is it normal for it to feel like magma pouring/spraying out?”

So I guess I scalded by butt from the unpleasant (yet extremely brief) attack of explosive diarrhea. Well, I’m completely better now, so that’s a relief.

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oops that was meant to say my butt .

Rest assured I did not get scalded by a butt! :eek:

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Glad to hear it Incubus.

(One less thing I have to worry about tonight Now I can sleep peacefully. Or maybe not, lately every night Ive had some pretty weird dreams. None involving your bottom though.)

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FWIW, juji_mojo, I agree with White Lightning. You didn’t come off as weird or a pervert, but as a professional who was helping out a fellow Doper in need. I just hope you don’t mind me coming to you with my minor ass problems, should I have them. :slight_smile:

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KC sux, thanks. I just got this creepy feeling after I posted my long butt care instruction manual that ummm… I know too much… or something.

and sure… any ass problems… IANA doctor … Iam “just” a nurse… hee hee … like any doctor is going to spend the time and effort to heal up butt rash like nurses do… but if you can describe it I can tell you if Ive seen it before and how I would approach the problem

Hmm maybe there is an "ask the…’ thread here waiting to be born, but not just yet. Im back to work tomorrow and wont see the boards much… besides even I have a limit.

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juji_mojowhat about those witch hazel pads or just using witch hazel. Some of my preggers friends have used it for that raw feeling.

(Nothing like being knocked up to make a gal want to tell her friends every single that happens during the special time.)

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Below is an original piece of work bearing, somewhat, on your problem. Wait till you hit 5-0, after that there’s no good health news.
Here I sit, my ‘roids a screamin’
thinking of days and a dreamin’
of sitting on the porcelain throne
with a smile and not a groan.

“Oh, wretched rectum thoust do burn,
around thee my world doest turn.”
Where are those hollowed days of glory
when all I thought of were girls quite whory?

Today my thoughts, when they wander
below the belt only grow fonder
on blessed days when brown & round
brings a smile and not a frown.

“Plenty of water,” the doctor proclaims
smiling as one who’s butt never flames.
“Fruits and veggies, that’s the fashion,
fighting fire with all natural rations.”

“Oh, unblessed buttocks, source of woe,
I curse thee as fires’s ring does grow.”
Once we were friend’s in life’s troubles
now, cursed traitor, with you I struggle.

Brown and puckered, it’s a mindless beast
controlling my destiny, my every feast.
In my youth the world before me lay
now it’s my ass that has the last say.