Not a TMI - Disparaging comments from Ex

In My Humble Opinion
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Okay…a true relationship question.

My 15 year old son seems very sullen lately (but he’s a teen so I thought it was just normal) Last night he told me why. My ex was talking with a friend and said some negative things about me (Son wouldn’t say what) in front of him. I know my ex and I am pretty sure it was a bad joke but in poor taste in front of my son.

We agreed at our seperation NEVER to say anything bad about the other one in front of the kids. I don’t think he intentionally violated this (maybe I am cutting him too much slack) But since it bothered my son, I think I should confront him. At the same time i don’t want to drive any wedges between my son and my ex…any suggestions?

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Does your son know about your agreement with your ex? If not, it’s high time he knew about it so he can believe that it was a joke. If he already knows, then it was probably a pretty bad joke…

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I can’t think of any suggestions other than to suck it up and let it go (only because all my other ideas are likely to make it worse), unless it happens repeatedly, in which case a grown-up talk with your ex might be in order. Difficult to say.