sorry for opening this thread but i just had to post my comment on this due to the fact that i am a 16 soon to be 17 year old male.
the reason that sex is not allowed under the age of 18 is becourse the body is not ment to be able to handle it. a 14 year old girl haveing sex runs the risk of cracking her hips for example.
on the other hand i know alot of girls from 14 and up that are as desparte for sex as i am and im a virgin. but something stops me from makeing a move on any of them. the fact that they are 14.
i feel as though sex with someone that young is bad but on the other hand i still remember when i was 14 i didnt care if the girl was 14 16 or maybe at the latest 26 but after that it just gets weird.
i guess wat im trying to say is that hormons at 14 drives alot of teenages thoughts not just males but females as well.
so a test in order to gain the ability to legaly have sex is not just pointless but probly still damageing to the teenager involed becourse it would probly be taken advantige of by “old dirty basterd”
i can read this message board and understand it but am still haveing my thoughts influenced by hormones.
i maybe able to answer all the questions on your test but still everything i think of has to do with sex.
i** Although the average age of the onset of menses is decreasing, and that is the technical definition of ‘puberty,’ I am not sure that the ‘look’ that we think of as post-pubescent is keeping up. An 11-yr-old who has menstrated still does not have the womanly lines to her face and figure that a teen does, and really would not be appealing to your average het man.**
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At eleven, people consistently guessed I was sixteen.
As a sixteen year old virgin, I knew how to bring myself to orgasm consistantly with or without props. I had a very vivid fantasy life, and explored various kinky subjects that many adults never address. I could draw a detailed picture of male and female anatomy. I was fully disillusioned regarding any sort of “knight in shining armor” myths- I was more horny than romantic. I knew how to aquire and use a variety of birth control. I could tell you anything you wanted to know about STDs. Just in case, I knew where the local planned parenthood was, and how much an abortion cost in time and money.
I’m just one person, and most likely an exception, not a rule. But nobody can say that I was unprepared for sex at that point.
ScruU mentioned that a 14-year-old’s body is not physically ready for sex. However, I find this a bit hard to believe. A long time ago, children were married very, very young, often at the age of 12 or 13, and had children very soon afterward. This has to have been okay, as the human race seems to have reproduced quite well.
Frankly, I think this is a myth. I’ve seen claims like the above bandied about pretty freely in threads like this, but as best as I can tell there’s no evidence to support them. Well, the early marriage part sure…in some societies people married their kids off as infants. But marriage doesn’t equal sex, at least not right away, and I have a hard time believing that it was ever common for twelve year old girls to be giving birth.
Just a century ago the average age for the onset of menstruation in the US was 14. There must have been some girls then who were menstruating as young as twelve, but I doubt many of them had babies and when they did I doubt mother or child survived very often. After all, even today with modern medical and sanitary procedures and an earlier average onset of puberty it’s still considered medically risky for a girl that young to give birth, and the resulting babies are often underweight and unhealthy.
Throughout the Middle Ages and Renaissance, aristocratic European girls were married off very early, at 12 or 13. However, they were definitely in the minority. Most European women married much later, in their late teens or early twenties. As Lamia points outs, the average onset of menstruation was later than it is today, largely, AFAIK, due to nutritional factors.
As well you should…although there are certainly individual differences, a 14 year old who has gone through puberty is fully capable (physically at least) of intercourse, although young age can be a risk factor should a pregnancy result.
I think I can shed some light on this. It’s not exactly a myth, but the practice of marrying younger girls (13 or younger) to adult men was limited to the nobility, for whom such marriages had political advantage. It was typical in such marriages for intercourse to be delayed until the girl reached maturity (which ranged between 14-16 typically in those days). I’m sure that there were a few toads who insisted on intercourse earlier, but it was generally frowned upon. It probably won’t surprise anyone to learn that the common practice was for the husband to settle himself with concubines until the wife came of age (though he often continued with his extramarital lovers anyway).
If by “quite well” you mean with the leading cause of death for women being reproduction-related, yeah, sure. It was peachy.
The reason it’s wrong to lust after underage girls is because we live in a society; your group is an extension of your family. You, as an adult male in a functioning society, are expected to want for all young girls the same respect you would want for your own sisters or children. This is the same reason you are supposed to be kind to all elderly people, give up your seat on the train to women who are preggers, etc.
Anecdote : I have no idea on how ready the body is for pregnancy and labour at the age of 14, but as far as sex goes, I had an ‘average’ 14 year olds body and was having sex once or twice a week. No adverse physical problems at all.
Notice that on the table it says that the legal age with parental consent in Texas (and others) is 14. But there is a qualification next to it. I’m sure most didn’t pay much attention to it.
The other 2 states that have the letter ‘v’ next to the age of consent are New Hampshire and New York. And 29 other states have some other consideration which will allow ANY child to marry. There is NO mimimum age. So don’t even think that this is some kind of “Southern” thing. Texas, New York, and New Hampshire are actually to be commended for putting SOME restriction on it. Also, a judge is required to okay the thing. Mississippi has absolutely no minimum age of marriage with parental consent. I wonder how many 6 year olds there are in Mississippi who are married? My guess is that there isn’t a single married couple in any state in the U.S. with the spouses younger than 15. A married 15 year old I can see. But not a 14 year old. That seems like a more realistic line to be drawn, except that it is true that pregnancy for even a 17 year old girl or even an 18 year old “woman” is risky.
**Um, I don’t think it’s physically possible to fracture a female’s pelvis during sexual intercourse, unless you’re talking about a 300 lb. man resting his whole weight on top of a 75 lb. girl’s pelvis, which might fracture it. But as far as the intercourse itself, a penis merely going into the 14-year-old girl’s vagina won’t cause the girl’s pelvis to fracture. And if you have a cite that says that it does, I’d sure like to see it.
I had all the Sex Ed courses in school, and I don’t remember anything about “don’t have sex because you might fracture your pelvis”. So it’s some kind of Urban Legend, and a new one on me.
My ex ran off with the babysitter. He was 30 and she was 15. They eventually married (behind bars) and had a kid. But wait…there’s more… he used to date her mother! I shit you not. (cue the Deliverance music)
I occasionally check out underage females… but I’m relatively young myself (nearly 20) and never do anything more than just look.
Today in my writing poetry class, we were discussing my friend’s poem, from the POV of an old man checking out a 15-year-old girl. It wasn’t really dirty, it was more about longing, but it creeped people out. Modern society has problems with big age gaps in relationships. I don’t really have much of an opinion on the subject (I’m not really interested in romance and sex so I don’t contemplate it that much), but I don’t think it’s a good idea for teenagers to date or have sexual relations with people who are significantly older than them. Come to think of it, I don’t think it’s a good idea for teenagers to have sex until they’re really ready for it (and at least sixteen or so…). It’s really all about maturity.
Huh? Juanita, darling…what the heck are you trying to say here??? That’s entrappment, so to speak! Isn’t it? You are saying underaged girls can dress slutty, or provactively, but men (who may not be able to tell their age) shouldn’t advance? Why the heck do you think they dress that way in the first place???
In other words, you are saying the girls should take absolutely no responsibilty whatsoever for their actions; however, the men should be fully responsible for BOTH the girls’ actions and the mens’ own actions??? What the heck is this? :dubious: - Jinx
