As hajario, and who knows who else, seems to think.
In 2004, Mr. Rilch got a job on a movie called 10th and Wolf that was filming in Pittsburgh. His mother was in the process of moving out of the Pb’g house to the farm she owns in West Virginia. So we stayed at her house, him working and me helping her sort through stuff and packing it, and when filming was completed, we both finished the packing, loaded her stuff up, helped her set up in the farm house, and stayed a few days extra. During this time, we paid our share of her utilities, paid for the internet hookup, kept up the rent and utilities on our own apartment, and paid all our other expenses.
We were not living on her charity.
We were not down on our luck with nowhere else to go.
We were not ungrateful.
He was working. He was in Pittsburgh because that’s where he was working. He got paid for the work he did.
She needed help with the move. We provided that help. The film and the move coincided.
We’re still on good terms with her. Great terms, in fact. That’s where we were last summer.
All I can figure is, there are so many stories around here, of posters or relatives of posters, who do live with their parents when they’re down on their luck, that people confused me with them.
You might want to ask that both threads be closed. The original pitting was ill considered and a bit lame (not that my pittings are any better) . Hajario’s remark was a cheap shot, but so was your original pitting to a certain extent. No good can some of these threads.
That was kind of an unwarranted swipe by ** hajario **in that thread. Without knowing anything about your situation, Rilchiam, if you don’t feel you mooched, Mr. Rilch doesn’t feel it, and your MIL doesn’t, why do you care what we on this message board think? Be confident in yourself and don’t worry about it. There’s always going to be someone who’s critical of anything you do.
Way to draw attention to a thread that was slipping down the front page into oblivion, you ninny. I didn’t say that you mooched or any of the other things on your long list. I said that you didn’t pay her rent which was the truth. You also bitched about the situation nearly non-stop. Given that, I think that it took a lot of sack to complain about the comment made by a guy who went though a tragedy worse than almost all of us could possibly imagine. Way worse than, say, an offhand comment on a message board.
astro, I’ve emailed the mods. Re: the co-pilot thread, I’d already been going back and forth on whether to do that (“I was wrong! No, wait, I was kind of right. No, I was wrong. No, maybe I was right.”) but I didn’t want to run away from a thread just because it wasn’t going my way.
I did not bitch non-stop. I posted one Pit thread, which admittedly should have been in MPSIMS. As for the rent sitch, it’s none of your fucking business what our arrangement was with her. As for the co-pilot thread, I guess I’m the only person who’s ever gotten aggravated about people bringing god into everything.
And the irony is that I chose MPSIMS for that thread.
You’re not. But in that particular circumstance, you came over as heartless and idiotic.
I wouldn’t have posted what hajario did, but if you did happen to mention your rent situation on a public messageboard, you did in fact make it the business of everyone who read your thread.
It’s as much my business as it is yours what that co-pilot said. You’re free to comment, criticize and misinterpret my life as much as you want based on what you read on your computer. It’s not going to bother me a bit.
But how much longer am I going to have it held against me? It was two years ago. I was paying rent, just not to my MIL. It’s not hajario I’m worried about; it’s others who might see that post and judge me for it. And I didn’t mention my rent situation; I mentioned a temporary living situation. That situation is over and done with, yet I’m still being judged for it. I actually didn’t even remember at first when I read that post, and now people are going to think I’m STILL living with MIL.
No they aren’t. Quit being a drama queen. I said in my post that it was for a few weeks. You know what’s going to keep it in people’s minds? Starting a stupid Pit thread like this one.
By the way, if I am not mistaken, this is my first Pitting. Next time the least you could do is put my name in the title.
May I very gently suggest you pop back into that thread and clarify? Because that’s not what I got out of your post, and I would absolutely agree with that sentiment- I hate the “It was god’s will they die/our team won/we walked away from the car accident/I was there at that time and met my future spouse” crap. Instead it appeared that you were slamming the copilot for (as you appeared in your OP to have misinterpreted) implying that he’s pissed off god fucked him up when all those people were dead.
It would not be the first time an OP had to re-direct their thread when they didn’t quite say what they intended.
I can’t fucking win, can I. If I let your comment stand, people will believe you. But I can’t defend myself, oh no, that’s drawing too much attention…to what really happened. What I want in people’s minds is the truth: I was not mooching.
I’m not sure how many posters are going to believe you still live with your mother in law, but I think I can make a roughly accurate guess as to how many will care.
Well, until haj made his post, I didn’t think anyone did care. Or remember. But seeing as someone did, I wanted to put the matter to rest. I hope people don’t care, but as I said above, I was concerned about people who didn’t already know taking haj’s post as fact.
It’s my reputation. Am I not allowed to defend my reputation? Just a few weeks ago, another poster got viciously rogered here in the Pit about her personal situation. Granted, she did post a hell of a lot about herself, but it was still a really low blow. And as I said above, I don’t post nearly as often about myself as I used to. Why is it more wrong for me to respond to an insult and unfair accusation than it is for someone else to dig up something that happened two years ago and use it against me?
On preview: haj, I paid rent on my own apartment here in L.A. To my way of thinking, that is not “living rent-free.” MIL let us stay in her house because Mr. Rilch is her son and she loves him, and I am her DIL and she likes me (and don’t fucking bring up that Pit thread. That was a one-time annoyance, not an ongoing vendetta.). We didn’t pay rent because she didn’t ask for it, mainly because we were helping her. So don’t fucking imply that I got a free ride. People are allowed to visit family. People in the film biz go on location shoots. Mr. Rilch happened to have a family member living in the city where he was filming, and that family member needed assistance moving her stuff.
Why exactly do you care what hajario thinks about your rent situation? So some random schmuck on the internet thinks you’re leeching off your in-laws. So what?
Methinks you need to learn to let that which does not matter truly slide.