There is not really any tactful way for me to go about asking this, so here is the situation: recently I (30 yrs old, reasonably attractive, size 16 (ok, 18… but I am tall…) have gone out a couple of times with a fairly large man. I enjoy his company; he is funny, warm, gently teasing, and I feel completely stress-free when I am with him (not an easy feat for a single mom). I am looking forward to spending more time with him, and naturally; as I am a pretty sexual kind of woman; I have started to speculate. I’ve never been with a large man, so I am wondering… logistically… um, how do things all line up? Are there … hmm, positions that are better than others? I’m not sure what all I want to know… I’m just curious… any advice, suggestions, stories to share?
woman on top
Not that I would know, haven’t been with anyone large.
I’m 5;11" and 140
Ye gods. You’d have to lift his folds up and pin it somehow.
/shudders
Or you could e-mail Al Goldstein (of Screw) and ask him how it’s done.
Oh, how I wish this was the Pit.:wally
I read a thing on sumo sex and the chick sits on top, but he needs a towel to hold her on since he can’t reach around that far.
At the psychiatric hospital, obese people used to have sex upside down on the stairs so their flabby guts didn’t get in the way.
Good luck!
Without knowing how big the guy is, it’s hard to tell. If he’s merely chubby or overweight (but not “Fat Bastard”-style obese), then it will work like it does with anyone else.
“Woman on top” is a handy all-purpose method, but other positions are certainly possible.
And, of course, tongues are always handy… 
Fwiw, I’m sure I’ve read on this board that the best way forward for the romantic - yet lumpy - Lothario is doggy-style. But that’s not really why I’m posting:
Good luck, indeed . But wait . . . is it me or is there something not quite right with this picture?
I’m looking at the stairs here and thinking upside down wouldn’t solve a whole lot. Perhaps the idea is to start at the top and, by cunning use of gravity, descend the flight locked in some improbable embrace and using the bump of each stair as a thrust?
It could be fun, it could be painful. Just how lumpy are these patients ?
Thanks, JohnBckWLD, for that informative link. I’m guessing that “love will find a way.”
Yeah it does. My hubby is quite pot bellied and we find a way … and usually with me on bottom. He has to support his weight more but it works. Experiment. Thats half the fun of having sex anyway!
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And he has more staying power and longer duration than ANY of the skinny guys I had been with previously . * fans self*
If you’re a single mom then you know how, I say “Go for it like minks and let the potato chips fall where they may!!”
Seriously, unless he is freakishly obese, things will work out just fine if you proceed in the old familiar way. I’m 6’ and 235 lbs, I know what I’m talking about here. 
My finace’s bigger–though I wouldn’t use the term obese to describe him!–and we haven’t had any problems with any positions except a 69 where I was on top of him. And, honestly, that was due more to the fact that both of us like some hand action with the tongue, if you get what I’m saying, so there simply wasn’t enough room or enough support.
Could we ask for a picture? I have no idea what your definition of “obese” is. I’m an 18 and a little above average height, if that helps give you a frame of reference, and my boyfriend is similarly proportioned.