Ha! Okay, if I overhear one of my students mentioning demisexual, I’m gonna ask them, “Does that mean being attracted to Frodo Baggins?” Gotta disagree with you on elves. Elves are tall and I don’t want to hear anything different.
YOUR MICROAGGRESSION HAS MADE ME FEEL INVALIDATED!
Prepare yourself for a long, winding, condescending, patronizing monologue where I superficially quote esoteric philosophers in an attempt to make myself sound wiser, more intelligent, deeper, more complex and more enlightened than I really am.
I hope you’re happy.
I’m all for creating a safe space for people and creating a safe, inclusive society.
But there are limits. Its not the job of society to bend over backwards for the most entitled and sensitive 1% of people.
I think most females are demisexual.
My neighbor/friend says shes asexual.
So, what percentage is required for them to qualify for a safe space for people and a safe, inclusive society?
For what it’s worth, I was completely with you. I’ve found that one of the most annoying groups to deal with are the ones that loudly proclaim how non-discriminatory, tolerant, and understanding they are. What it means in practice (at least online) is that they’re insufferably annoying to deal with, prone to causing drama at the drop of a hat, highly intolerant and sectarian, and often badly misinformed if not just straight up wrong. Sure, they’re not in charge of anything important in government, but they are all over fairly large parts of the Internet.
So there is primary and secondary attraction.
Primary attraction is that instant hit of lust you feel when you see someone attractive. Think Chris Hemsworth or Margot Robbie.
Secondary attraction is the attraction you build after you get to know someone. After you learn to respect their intellect, you respect their personality, you build an emotional bond with them, they make you feel safe and understood, etc. This would be more like the guy who thinks his wife is the most beautiful woman in the world, despite her being objectively plain.
They are called Demisexuals because they do not feel primary attraction, only secondary attraction. Demi means half.
Oops. Wrong thread.or not. Brain freeze.
Thats a good question that I don’t have an answer to.
Do I want to live in a society where everyone who isn’t heteronormative is considered mentally ill, shoved into the closet and thrown in jail? No.
Do I want to live in a society where I have to listen to condescending lectures from morally bankrupt pseudointellectuals over pedantic terminology? Also no.
The second situation is obviously much better than the first. But ideally society should be somewhere in the ~70th percentile between those two extremes.
Thank you, I appreciate it. Its hard because posting here I feel like I’m caught between two extremes.
Hypersensitive, pseudo-intellectual, morally bankrupt, reactionary, dogmatic, pedantic far leftists on one side.
And condescending, rude, sanctimonious, predatory, toxic assholes in the BBQ pit just looking for any signs of vulnerability or non-conformity to use to attack and hurt others, like hungry dogs desperately looking for red meat.
I appreciate the rational response.
I know what it means. I’m bitching about the prefix. I never had to look up a sexual orientation before because the prefixes made sense. Demi (half) just ain’t cuttin’ it. In fact, it makes it sound inferior. Romatisexual. Nooo. Too long.
I seriously doubt it’s anywhere close to 1%. The annoying ones are the loudest ones, and the source of all the stories you hear out of campuses. I know a ton of folks at every conceivable place along the LGBTQ+ spectrum, and while a lot of them are hyper-vigilant online to their friends, none of them are the type to go off on strangers for not reading their minds. Whiny university nitwits exist, but as a percentage of the public they’re at near-strawman levels.
Add Wesley_Clark to my long list of people that are getting a mirrors for Christmas.
And that last line? After what you just posted?
Fucking precious!
I looked online. There are references to emosexual, but I don’t know if those are just jokes or if they are serious.
The synonyms for demisexual are even more esoteric.
- Gray-A
- Hyposexual
- Semisexual
- Low sexual intensity
- Asexual-ish
- Sexual-ish
It may be worth remembering that very few battles for equal rights came about as the quick and simple result of the majority’s unparalleled beneficence and infinite largesse.
They’re usually hard-fought struggles that take time, and often the tip of the spear is considered – particularly at the time, and to some – to be really, really extreme.
Many of us live the lives we do on the shoulders of such people, such movements, and such activism.
And as much as those things can yield progress, they can also ruffle feathers along the way.
Wash. Rinse. Repeat.
There’s a lot of truth in this. I know many union guys, real blue collar, salt-of-the-Earth, never-sniffed-a-college-classroom guys who are reliable Democratic votes. They skew older (my circle!). This reliable cohort can and should be reestablished.
Wasn’t that the OP?
Can I put my name on the card too?
Tell us more…
This is somewhat off topic, but how do you feel about the subset of black people who have responded to the civil rights movement that gave them freedoms and opportunities by embracing criminality, out of wedlock pregnancy, rejecting education and literacy as being ‘too white’, etc?
Sometimes civil rights movements have bad effects for some people, and these people push the civil rights movement backwards instead of forwards.
I think the far leftists who are dogmatic, morally bankrupt, patronizing, hypersensitive and pedantic about terminology are doing far more harm than good overall.
What specific civil rights movements have had bad effects of African-Americans?
You’re too old, weak minded and dogmatic to understand any of this but I’m going to say it anyway.
You are a whiny little bitch. I’m guessing you faced a lot of rejection and trauma in your life and you compensated for that rejection by trying to be above others by being overly critical to others in the form of being overly conformist (within certain subcultures), condescending and patronizing.
Despite you pretending eveyrone loves you, in real life and online the only people who probably like you are just as toxic as you are. And even they don’t like you. They’d tear you apart the same way you’d tear them apart the second an opportunity to compensate for how defective and vulnerable you feel by tearing down others presented itself.
You are a piece of shit. You’ve been a piece of shit the entire 20 years I’ve known you. I feel sorry for the idiot who was stupid enough to marry you. I hope they enjoy their prison sentence.
I realize the pit is a magnet for toxic, dysfunctional people looking for someone/anyone to attack and harm to cover up their own internal wounds. I knew that when I came in here. But its the only place I knew where to vent.
And I know that the far left is not in power the way the far right is, so you can shove your “feelings” up your ass.