GRRRRR! I have Internet Explorer, and I just checked the home page to see if I could find a link something about the election. Instead I see that they’ve taken the election out of the top spot, and replaced it with a photo of a man and a woman looking despondently into space…like they’re standing bravely together against the looming evil of infertility. The article talks about the horrible health care systems in some states, which won’t fork out wads of money to finance fertility treatments. How can they be so cruel, to refuse to finance procedures that endanger the health of the mother and the fetus, cause birth defects, and cause multiple births? Wah wah wah!
Listen up, people: If you can’t get pregnant, maybe it’s because you’re not MEANT to be pregnant.. There are thousands and thousands of babies “given up for adoption”. There are thousands of older children in the foster care system, and the older they get, the more likely it is that they’ll reach adulthood without having a family. Forget about the damn fertility drugs! You could adopt a child in the same amount of time it would take for the treatments to bring results. Not a short time in either case, but you’d be helping someone else without endangering your health or theirs.
I love all those articles that end, “After crying themselves to sleep every night because they couldn’t produce a perfect blue-eyed blond angel like themselves, Joe and Susie have settled for adoption.” Settle this! Adoption is not something you settle for. I wonder, are these people going to tell their friends, “Yeah, we tried everything, but this is the best we could do”?
I mean no offense to anyone reading this who has undergone fertility treatments, or whose spouse has, or who has had an unsuccessful pregnancy. In fact, now that I’ve cooled down a little, it’s really the press I’m mad at; the way they make it sound like not being able to give birth is the greatest tragedy. I know there are many many people on this board who cherish their natural-born children, and I’m not denigrating that, but I just don’t see why people can’t simply accept that they’re infertile and do what people used to do: ADOPT.
Also, I know that not every fertility course results in multiple births, but AFAIK, almost every time a multiple birth does happen, it’s the result of fertility treatments.