Ok...am I old? Has the world changed?

[dngnb8]

I always cooked for the first date. No bill to futz over. I would prepare a wonderful meal, with wine.

Sometimes, we would go dancing, sometimes just sit in the spa.

90% of the time, it did end in sex.

[Inigo_Montoya]

@dngnb8

You killed my father, prepare to pay for your meal

So close… “Prepare to dine” But it would have to be after the appetizer and before the pasta.

[MichaelEmouse]

@panache45

In my world, the Top pays.

Is there always a top? Does the top pay pretty much everytime?

[dngnb8]

@Inigo_Montoya

So close… "Prepare to dine" But it would have to be after the appetizer and before the pasta.

How could I have missed that! my bolding

What would you do if she responds
“As you wish”

I suggest Prenup. LOL

[Voyager]

@Shagnasty

You are correct but I am screening for that behavior too. This certainly isn’t a desperation play on my part. They have to step up. Proper etiquette or lack thereof is only something you can learn about first-hand once you give them the chance. The only thing I have been disappointed with is that most of them have failed that one miserably so I do detect a bad trend at least for females in the Boston area even if they are well-educated.

One however did a great job. It was obvious from the first few minutes that we weren’t a good romantic match but we are a good friend match. We had a great time and have kept up with each other. She is very nice Jewish lady from an affluent family and I know it can be done regardless of different backgrounds or interests. Basic manners don’t cost anyone anything.

I totally agree with you about the importance of manners - but good manners shine out just as much at a lunch counter as they do at a five star restaurant. Perhaps more, since sometimes the rude will be intimidated into good behavior at a fancy place and let their inner ogre out at a place where they consider themselves better than the staff. My step-mother is an excellent example. So is her daughter.

[The_Devil_s_Grandmother]

@Shagnasty

Basic manners don’t cost anyone anything.

Normally I’d agree with you, but for me basic manners means I should take you out after you take me out. There’s no way I could afford a $500 outing, so I probabaly would worry, dither, and then end up shamefacedly avoiding your phone calls.

Threads like this mean my poor husband gets heathy veggies for dinner all week, because g-d forbid he die before me and I have to date again.