Hello gals/guys,
Any suggestions on improvement of the profile…am not getting too much visitors or messages :mad:
Sherry
No sunglasses in the picture.
Your demographics are not in your favour; that is not anyones fault, young men just don’t get as many views as young women in the same age bracket. Try approaching women profiles. Not spamming, but with thought out, tailored e-mails.
Might I suggest checking in on online dating thread(which has swelled to epic proportions)? You don’t have to read the whole thing, but there’s some of us who’ve followed it all the way through and can also give advice.
I’d suggest putting things other than Maslow’s hierarchy of needs under the “six things I cannot do without” section. Lots of people do it, it’s not cute.
do you live in finland? if so, shouldn’t your profile be more finnish?
also, the content seems plain vanilla/cliche. also probably a little too many emoticons than a 26 year old dude should be using.
other than that, given that you’re in finland, a guy, mid-20s and doesn’t want kids, the fish aren’t exactly going to be jumping out of the water.
Writing that you ‘try to get socialised’ sounds like you were raised by wolves - maybe just say that you like socialising.
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Get better pictures. You’re not an ugly guy, I don’t think - I’m a straight man so my judgment is not fantastic - but those are not sensational pictures. I would strongly recommend you add at least two photos; one of you in sunlight, and a head shot taken by someone who really knows how to take photos.
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Don’t say “I never thought I’d be doing this.” Who cares? You are doing it. Cut out stuff like that - you are not better for allegedly having second thoughts about Internet dating.
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Don’t say “I live life to the fullest.” It is a meaningless phrase that is horribly overused in dating profiles.
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Fix your spelling and grammar. I won’t tear through it now, but find someone good at that stuff to fix it.
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Go through it and say “Does this describe ME? Or is is generic?” A lot of it is generic. You like physical activities - which ones? You like computer games - what kind? Can you makje that girl-friendly by saying something like “I’m a remarkably talented rock star, just as long as there’s an XBox and my guitar as colourful buttons instead of strings”?
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Say more about yourself than just your love of computers; that’s 75% of the profile. You must like other stuff, too.
Asking for a girl who doesn’t masturbate kinda limits your field. You’ve ruled out about 98% of the population right there. Of course, if that’s an important principle to you, good luck with that, but it does explain the low response rate in itself.
You mentioned god, but didn’t specify your religion. Might be worth your while to clarify whether you’re on the spiritual god side, or follow strict religious conventions…
Whoa, I missed that one.
Dude, seriously, you need to get over that or not mention it. It creeps me out, and I’m not even a woman.
I think the masturbation clause is filtered through the “questions” portion and not openly stated in the “about me” section.
wow…LOL guys…some of the points are very funny but indeed true…i wonder how they skipped my eyes…will try to improve it…in the meanwhile…keep suggesting…i am really enjoying and learning…these are one of the awesome suggestions i could ever have…thanxxx guys
made a few changes as suggested…did i improve it or worsen it 
Take off the home alone on Friday night line. Sounds pathetic. At least pretend you have friends.
I wonder how anyone is supposed to interpret “laptop+job > friends & family” other than “leave me alone.” Maybe you were winking while writing that but in combination with the rest of the nerdy stuff (which, btw, I’m not entirely indifferent to either) it conveys the idea that you just don’t like, or care about, people.
Also, out of curiosity: what’s the problem with masturbating girls?
Drop the “I love you.”
It’s just creepy.
This pretty much mirrors what I read it as. Work on grammar and spelling. When I read a girl’s profile that turns me off very quickly. It makes me assume I’m talking to someone uneducated. As I’ve said before, you’re trying to impress someone, you have to put some time an effort into it.
Also, no offense since it’s a common mistake, but it reads like a fake profile (for a porn site). It’s very generic. It would work for anyone in any city anywhere in the world. Think about it. I could put a girl’s picture in there and change the city to Detroit, MI or Sydney Australia and no one would know the difference (other then the thing about the beard).
What do you like to do, where do you like to go, where is your degree from*. Not that you need to mention specific places or anything. But it’s really helpful to put in things like “I like to hang out at the bars on 3rd st” or “I like to grab a good book and hunker down for a few hours at one of the coffee shops in East Town” or “I like to get to a museum at least once a month, either/any one, doesn’t matter”. Statements like this give someone an ‘in’ to email you. I’ve looked at profiles of people I’ve wanted to email and said “I got nuthin’”, but when you put in a statement like that, I can say “Which bars do you like, I like Rosie’s…” or “Which museum do you like more, the Art Museum or the Natural History. I…” etc.
In other words…less vague, more specific. This is a mini-bio, not a fortune cookie.
*I’m not looking to pick through the whole thing right now, I’ll wait till its closer to the final version, but, you said “I have graduated in computer engineering” It really should be either “I graduated with a degree in computer engineering” or “I have a degree in computer engineering.”
“Computer Engineer” may or may not be capitalized in this case, I’m not sure, maybe Guns will show up to let us know for sure, but I’m sure she won’t be on until at least Monday. Any other grammar Nazi’s?
Also, just because it bugged me it’s iPhone and iRobot not Iphone or irobot. But no one really cares, save it for the first or second date. Mention that you do that type of stuff, but leave the details out of it.
And with that, you seem to be a bit repetitive.
-always end up talking to the person sitting next to me
-I have always enjoyed talking on different topics
-Conversation on different topics
-My Conversation style
Lastly, for now.
Start by cleaning up the spelling and grammar. When I run across someone with terrible spelling and/or grammar I hit the back button and move on. Then, make your changes over a couple of hours/days/weeks. Each time you hit the save button, your profile shows up on other people’s front pages. If you totally re-write your page in one go you might generate 10 or 15 views out of it. If you do it over the course of a week, you might get 100 views out of it.
Either way, I always suggest hitting the save button each time add a sentence or re-write a paragraph, just so that other people notice it. But clean up the English first.
Wow, a bit harsh i would say, but totally spot on. this is exactly what i wanted. I wanted to know the weak points in my profile.