Well, I feel like I’ve gone full circle. I started this post feeling frustrated that I wasn’t getting any results from my efforts, so posters gave me great advice and lots of encouragement, I redoubled my efforts, and I’m posting this back from a date I went on with a woman I met on okcupid. The date went well; I’m not sure how much she enjoyed it because she was kind of stoic and reserved, but she also told me she is like that around people she’s just met, and so I am kind of interested in getting her to open up a bit and would definitely take her out again.
I made a few minor improvements to my profile and have now answered more than 200 questions. I actually did some searching and found someone in my area who was physically kind of cute and had a profile that caught my attention. So I sent him a message. We’ll see what happens.
I got really bored and overhauled mine, added pictures, and answered about 300 questions. Still haven’t bothered to take any quizzes though.
I also found someone interesting that I wound up friending on livejournal (she mentioned it in her profile) but I’m not looking for anything more. Just doing that is more than I ever intended.
Something I didn’t think of until now :smack: was to run a search for people with a similar demographic (in this case, single guys in their 20’s) just to see what other guys are doing with their profiles. That way I can go back and adjust my profile to make it stand out above the crowd. I think this is the real key to making my profile ‘quirkier’ and setting me apart from all the other single guys.
Funny observation, I must be in the top percentile or something for ‘morality’ because it says I’m ‘more moral’ than a lot of people. Sheesh, you’d think I was a priest or something! I hope women don’t take it the wrong way, it’s not like I’m some kind of wet blanket or anything.
Something I didn’t think of until now :smack: was to run a search for people with a similar demographic (in this case, single guys in their 20’s) just to see what other guys are doing with their profiles. That way I can go back and adjust my profile to make it stand out above the crowd. I think this is the real key to making my profile ‘quirkier’ and setting me apart from all the other single guys.
Funny observation, I must be in the top percentile or something for ‘morality’ because it says I’m ‘more moral’ than a lot of people. Sheesh, you’d think I was a priest or something! I hope women don’t take it the wrong way, it’s not like I’m some kind of wet blanket or anything.
“Hey baby, how 'bout you and I go email each other.”
“Sure thing hot stuff, and afterwards, how about a facsimile?”
“Whao, whoa, I’m not into that kinky stuff!”
(This might be a half double-post…my apologies.)
I haven’t gotten any responses yet…but then again, my profile has been up for…less than five days, so really, I didn’t expect any. Add to that the fact that I am in the middle of f*cking nowhere, and that equates to very few women being there to message me in the first place.
My only hope is that lots of women decide to search within 100 miles, cause in that case, all those hot canuks in Montreal can see my profile.
My profile was lame, so I rewrote most of it a few days ago.
Now I’m wondering, “Am I just toooooo weird, even for the internet?”
(More specifically, can a nonspecialized audience understand the story, and the jokes in it, which were written for a specialized audience, or is it just tooooooo stupid or tedious anyways? I’m too close to it to see how others see it.)
Feel free to laugh at, laugh with, revile, or ridicule ! … most of the OKC population is out of my age range, anyways.
honestly, i get so many messages/winks/whathaveyou that it’s hard for me to sort through them. between a heavy workload and no internet at home, it takes me a while to even glance at the message, let alone follow up with reading the profile, etc.
here is how i go through my inbox (fyi, i’m on match, cupid, yahoo and lavalife):
1.) If i don’t like their pics, they get deleted. keep in mind that looks are secondary to me (hi, i’m contradicting myself!) but hey, i need some attraction.
2.) If they’re too young, they get deleted. I specify a desired age range, but definitely will not date anyone younger than I am. that’s just me.
3.) If they’re too far away, they get deleted. most profiles show the dinstance she is willing to travel (i might travel 5 miles more, but that’s about it unless your’re really freaking charming).
Now, after i’ve pared it down, i read the profiles:
i have 2 deal breakers: smoking habits and height.
After that, I read the messages:
1.) Spelling counts! i’m a spelling nazi and even though obvious typos are okay, weird alternative spellings grate on me.
2.) Quirky humour guarantees a response.
Improved, indeed! Nice photos . . . it’s good to see you smiling.
Dude, anything can be used as a euphemism.
I agree with ultrafilter: not bad, but lose the story. Both of them. They’re amusing and show that you can write, but they don’t say anything about you that would help me decide whether to message you (if I were in the Fort Worth area). Of course, that may just mean I’m not the kind of woman you’re looking for.
And get a photo posted! These days a picture is nearly as important as the profile itself, and many people (including me) will filter out profiles that don’t have a photo.
. . . but not all of it is, and that’s the important thing.
I do know what you mean, though: I’ve been seeing the same 12 local matches for the past two months, because I’m only interested in men 30-45. It’s a little frustrating, but I hold firm to the belief that quality is way more important than quantity. {grin}
I like your profile! The e.e. cummings imitation was a little annoying, but once I got past it I liked what I read.
And to be quite frank, I love your face. I’m a straight woman, but if I were a guy (who could spell) I think I’d write to you just because of your face.
Yeah. AF, sounds like your problem is that you’re getting too many responses. I cannot advise, having no experience with that manner of problem. Hire a secretary?
Thanks.
Both … ha ha … actually, it’s one story; the scenes are intentionally out of sequence (or did you mean that it wasn’t clear … the second should be prefaced by “four days earlier”); either way, the author has to take responsibility … where’s the delete button …
I had a photo up for a while. I took it down after lack of local interest. It’ll go back up for any serious interest. Actually, I did get a woo without a photo up, but I don’t think it was due to the writing in the profile.
Hmm. Maybe I’ll leave the story up for a while longer, just as an experiment. See if anyone reads rather than looks (well, we know the answer to that) … maybe there’s a nice blind woman out there on a computer with a voice synthesizer …
Thanks, I was mainly posting it so that everyone would know that I actually have a profile and that I’m not just making it all up to stir up trouble. But the real friends network is an added bonus.
Okay, this is insidious… I keep finding myself with more and more downtime and I keep spending it on OKCupid tweaking my profile or just idly looking at profiles. I’ve reworked practically everything on my profile to some degree and think it looks good for what it is but I’m curious as to whether or not others agree.
I like it. Your intro’s really good but I’d beef up a few of the other things a little. That’s just me though and you might have noticed that **Misnomer **took me to task for my own just a couple days ago, so take my suggestions with a grain of salt.
The date went well; I’m not sure how much she enjoyed it because she was kind of stoic and reserved, but she also told me she is like that around people she’s just met, and so I am kind of interested in getting her to open up a bit and would definitely take her out again.
