Whew! As if questions about any one of the above weren’t hard enough!
I have an old friend (“Friend”), we were thick as thieves in high school and made extra efforts to stay in touch through college and beyond. However, in the past, oh, 3-5 years we have hardly spoken. Since moving back to the same city where Friend lives, we have not been in much touch but we in the next week or so we are getting together to catch up.
I am not an observant Jew but I know it would thrill my parents to have a Jewish wedding and neither I nor my SO (not Jewish) have significant objection to it. Actually I enjoy most elements of traditional Jewish weddings. However, my childhood Rabbi retired, I am not a member of any congregation, and I do not know any officiant with any personal connection to me or my family. Leaving us in the position of aquiring a rent-a-rabbi/interfaith/nonfaith officiant.
The Wedding Conundrum
HOWEVER, Friend recently finished Rabbinical school. I have been trying to think of a way to ask Friend, without pressure, if he would consider officiating at our wedding. Although it would mean a lot to me if Friend said yes, I would completely understand if due the variety of factors (newly minted rabbi, interfaith marriage, unobservant me) Friend did not feel comfortable doing so. But, I can’t think of a way to broach the topic without it seeming strange and out of the blue, not to mention an imposition.
Due to the date we have chosen (near Rosh Hashanah) Friend would need a great deal of advance notice and this is not a conversation that can be put off till the last minute. Acknowledging that the wedding is still more than a year away, but also that Friend is very busy with Rabbi things and I am very busy with law school things, I am unsure what to do. Thoughts?