(Old) Things ya gotta 'splain in the MMP

Thanks for the good wishes.. It’s a bit complicted by the fact I don’t have a very good relationship with my mother…

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As soon as they started the business when I was around 8, she basically lost interest in being a parent, and basically got frustrated that I was still -very inconsiderately- a child, despite her moving on from that already. Now she’s stepping back from the business, she seems to be expecting me to rely on the lovely parent-child relationship she never put any effort into developing, and lovingly repay all the care and attention that I didn’t actually get. Dad always tried a lot more and we were always closer, even though the business absorbed loads of time for both of them. Like.. they’d only take a day off one day a week at most for the first few years, but Dad would try and time them for weekends as much as possible, while Mum intentionally picked days when I was at school wherever possible, so she wouldn’t have to deal with me. She even told me this, when I asked once when we were going to go and do something fun together. Unsurprisingly, she denies any problematic parenting now.

Mum’s always been the one calling the shots though, especially when it came to the kids (oddly, she seemed to assume that, being female, she would automatically know more about child rearing, despite having being brought up by a single Dad herself). She’s only got more self-centered as she’s got older, while Dad, who’s quite a bit older than her- which is really starting to show now- is just getting quieter and even more pushed to one side. It may make me a bad person, I’m not keen on going too far out of my way to make my mother feel better about her husband being in hospital, which, if you heard her talk about it, is the main issue here, while I would like to help make my Dad feel better.

Bleh. Anyway, Dad is claiming to be a little better today. I need to brave a garden centre to buy some fleece to protect the tender plants. It’s warm, humid, supposed to rain shortly and there’s slugs and snails everywhere today, but the temperature is supposed to drop next week back to possible frost levels.

Today starts with 49 Ferrets and we might see 60, but seeing sun is doubtful. Daughter and SIL will come over this morning to help us disassemble the deck and load its bits in the truck. Then I’ll have the grands thru tomorrow.

FCD just told me how he plans to cut down the deck. I think he’s out of his freekin’ mind, but apparently my opinion doesn’t matter here. We’ll see how it goes. I foresee arguments in the offing.

Have you thought about microwavable meals like Healthy Choice or Michelina’s or other options I can’t think of at the moment? Having a few available, while not great, would be at least a change of pace and offer a bit more variety. Or can you start now making single-serving meals in your freezer? Chicken and green beans for more than a day or two in a row would constitute justifiable flogging…

My thoughts also. Trying to keep a secret that you know will come out has to be a terrible burden, tho letting it go is terrifying in its own way. But my totally unprofessional opinion is that the sooner you can free yourself of the secrecy, the better you’ll feel. Not that I have any idea what I’m talking about. You’ll probably want to trust your counselor/therapist more than me, even if I am nice, dammit. :wink:

Is it possible and/or reasonable for you to set up automatic pay? That’s how I’ve got BIL’s rent set up. I check his account occasionally, but after 2 years, it’s going great. His inheritance pays his rent and unless he calls, I don’t worry about his SS income/personal outgo at all. Yeah, I know, more than you need/want to know.

I’m dealing with the opposite - I’ve lost my sense of smell for some things. For example, the cat’s box is next to my bed and I can’t smell pee or poo, but I can smell the deodorizer I sprinkle in there (for FCD’s benefit.) I can no longer tell if milk has gone sour, so I have to rely more on the date. From what I’ve read, that’s not unusual as one ages, but I will talk to my Dr about it when I see her next month.

OK, time to shower, dress, and face the battle ahead. Happy Saturday!!

Gosh, that is a stunning chunk of knowledge, in many ways.

A round of applause for a well-executed Biblical pun!

It’s freezy this morning, chance of freakin’ snow, warming later to 51 ferrets.

39F at 0740, but blue skies. The sun hits the living room window and warms my tired ass at this time of year.

I think French toast is in order this morning. I have a loaf of brioche for the effort. Looks to be another uneventful weekend.

Mornin’ everyone.

It’s 51F and mostly cloudy, but the afternoon is supposed to be mostly sunny with a daytime high of 74F.

FCM, I dread projects with my husband, because yes, we argue. It’s easier to try to do it myself. But the reality is that I sometimes need help, and I have to let him do so.

Filbert, I can understand your reluctance to head on down there to see your Dad. I hope he continues to improve.

Shoe, I hope the rent portal works today.

Lily, both my sense of smell and sense of taste are very acute. My husband has claimed I’m picky, but whatever. I can’t stand most prepared foods because they’re either really salty or chemically tasting, or both.

I did, in fact, treat myself to a pedicure yesterday. The place I go to is local, and they really do a good job. So now I can wear sandals and not feel ashamed and I plan to wear them today.

I did not get out in the yard, because I spent time with the pups instead. I watered all the posies and baskets, though, because it did get warm yesterday. Tomorrow will definitely be a yard work day. The lawn is shaggy, and I need to get those posies in the ground and in their raised beds.

Today, however, we’ll be heading down to our son’s new place with the pups. It’ll definitely be an adventure for the pups, because they LURVE our son. I hope it works out.

Alrighty, time for me to get the day started. Please take care of yourselves.

IME, the vegetation in those need a supplement of a salad or some nuked frozen veggies. They also tend to be high in sodium.

JtC, have you considered making a few things that freeze well before you have surgery and portion them out into individual servings for the freezer? Spoken as someone who lives with no other humans, it works for me.

Up, caffeinating, breakfasted and fixing to do KP. The only things on the agenda today are making some pumpkin muffins (I have a can that needs to be used) and picking up a couple of 'scrips from CVS. I may even take Nelson with me so’s he can get out of the house.

The rain has stopped and the lake in the courtyard has pretty much dried up (Nelson had no issues going out into the grass when we were out).

Stay safe and healthy y’all!

Good morning! There was much sleepage and lounging this morning. We hung out, drinking coffee for a bit, then Mrs Magill called in an order to our local café. I put on pants[1] and headed over. I added a muffin for the still sleeping Squeaky and a pup-cup for Chloé.

The town is getting ready for the annual street fair. We’ll head out there this afternoon. Meanwhile, I have a flank steak to prep for the sous vide and some potatoes to clean.


  1. They know me, but I still think I shouldn’t show up in pajamas. ↩︎

I got an email from NBC/Peacock advertising the Kentucky Derby today. I put a reminder on NBC, as The Missus likes horses.

I can’t figure out why it’s scheduled for five hours. It’s only a two-minute race. It should only be on for 15 minutes. Or maybe 30 minutes so the talking heads can talk about it before the horses run.

I was bouncing between the 3 slides today. It was less busy and chaotic, I was out by 10:15. It was drizzling, and some dude was jogging in it. If you’re that into running and suffering, you should join the Marine Corp. I stopped by Teeter to grab a frozen pizza, and a fifth of gin from the ABC Sto. The epitome of a bachelor weekend. Laundry is now in the dryer, bacon, eggs, and gin&tonic are inside me, and Lando Norris won the F1 Sprint race. Time for a short nap before the Kentucky Derby.

You cannot oversoup.

My portal was a bit hinkey, too. But rent is paid, so Spot has somewhere to store his primate servants for the next 31 days.

pups>lawn

Yeah, you ain’t going to :open_mouth:Wally-World :open_mouth:

One of the horses is named Pavlovian. That rings a bell.

The deck is down and half of it has been hauled to the dump. The other half will be loaded into the truck and hauled on Moanday. Pizza is on the way for a late lunch. I’m ready for a snooze, but I’ve got two kids to wrangle till tomorrow… well, after their parents eat and leave.

I hope all of this goes as well as possible.

Getting dressed, just need to brush teeth & go scoop up Carless on the way in.

Freeze warning last night, but supposed to be in the 60s in a couple of days. :face_with_raised_eyebrow:

It’s the pagentry.

Ms Peach will chase a laser pointer like a cat. She knows that it comes from the thing in my hand and gets excited when I pick it up.

If I open the drawer the laser pointer is kept in for any reason, I wind up having to pay a red dot tax to Kasya. :slight_smile:

Most of my cats figure out that they should attack my hand, not the dot.

Mollie, I can understand telling your kids will be the most difficult. Trust the bond you have built.

Lager has forgiven me for the vet visit. Tiki cat for the win. I see the signs of aging more in him. Thankfully koritza is doing very well health wise. She is about 3-6ish months older than lager.

Good afternoon all, I see you have been productive. Me, not so much.

We went to St. Albans for the shelter’s yard sale but didn’t find anything we couldn’t live without so just gave the organizer a twenty and left.

Next stop was the plant nursery in Nitro where I bought that nice pot of tulips for a little bit of money. Today I bought a nice fushia and a Chenille Firetail jumped into our trunk and followed us home as well.

They are both on the same pole as the hummer feeder and I moved the suet feeder to the back fence so the fuzzbutts can watch the starlings from the bedroom.

We stopped at a small farm booth on the way home and got a dozen duck eggs and a bag of freeze dried Cookies and Cream Ice Cream. They were too sweet for me, but Hubs really liked them. At least sugar was only third on the ingredient list, I expected the first three to be different sorts of sugar just from the taste.

As to my upcoming surgery and suffering, I do plan to start cooking and freezing meals for me. I already do because I don’t usually want a slab of meat and some mushy green things for dinner. While we were moving I did try some of the frozen dinners available but didn’t really like them. Even Marie’s mac and cheese has gotten enshitified in the last ten years.

Its the fresh stuff that will be the issue. I actually LIKE eating my fruits and veggies and want some with every meal. That’s a lot of peeling and cutting from a man who says that I don’t eat food - I eat what food eats.

I was living in Hawaii when Hurricane Eva struck and took out the power. (They were talking about sending nuclear subs to hook up to the power grid at one point.) Much water, lots of wind and trees down all over the place.

At that time I made my living growing pot in the jungle and owned a lifted jeep to get me to work. A little mud and a few downed trees didn’t mean much as far as getting places with that beast, so when a friend living in the on-base housing at the Marine base called begging me to come and bring her shopping, I put my work boots on and headed to the rescue. At one point I had to stop and take out the drain plugs because water was coming in the doors and making the pedals slippery.

The base had a large and fairly famous golf course close to the housing area so it didn’t surprise me to see some guy on his moped out in the middle of the typhoon, hauling his golf clubs to the course. All Marines are crazy. Golfer Marines are a special sort of insane.

Leave your tree and aloe inside for the next couple of days, the predicted temps are supposed to stay low for a couple of days. I covered our tomatoes with towels last night and then just tossed them on the floor when I came back in. George thinks a pile of towels in front of the glass doors is grand and I’m hoping I won’t have to use more clean towels for the plants tonight.

I love how much fun you are having with her.

It seems as though today was St Albans day for yard sales, every third house had tables out, all of the churches had tables out and the highschool parking lot was full of tables. I’m sad we didn’t know in advance, I would have planned for some more stops.

Hubs has become extremely rigid in the last five or six years. When we go somewhere, we go there and do the things and then come home. If I want to go several places, that is fine as long as he knows in advance. If I see a street fair or nice yard sale and want to stop, he will do it but it will be clear that he is very unhappy about the unplanned stop.

I considered going by myself today because all of the things I wanted to do were boring for him, but he spends too much time in front of him computer already. I try to get him off the property for something more than grocery shopping at least once a week.

Oddly enough, that would be a bonus in my case. My sodium levels are always low and it has gotten even worse since I retired. You know its bad when your doctor recommends eating fast food “extra salt on the fries please? Doctor’s orders doncha know.”

Boiled into submission green beans. Not steamed, not fresh, boiled well enough to strain for baby food. He learned from his mom. When we were visiting, I would sometimes sneak out just to go the the grocery store, buy a head of lettuce and eat it in the car.

Even more good wishes on the way. Some parents don’t deserve children. Sigh.

Which sounds like a whole lot of bother, I’m really glad you have a fridge now :slight_smile:

Too late to edit but:

ETA I might have to start going to Catholic Mass again. Pope Leo just appointed Evelio Menjivar-Ayala as the states new Bishop. He was smuggled into the US in a car trunk, I’m not even sure if he’s a US citizen now. Pope Leo is making such a positive difference in that cult along with speaking out against the orange god, I feel the need to support him at least a little. Plus I need to learn how to judge and tolerate micro-doses, sitting in church sounds like a great place to do it.

Five hours? Seems a bit excessive.

Anyway… Four pounds of ground beef, two pounds of ground pork, and the other stuff, and I’ve made four meatloafs. They’re tightly wrapped in cling wrap. When they are frozen, I’ll also put them into gallon-size zip-top bags.