Sorry in advance for the long rant.
My wife’s family, mainly her brother and his wife, tend to marginalize her. We were surprised to get a call the evening before Thanksgiving from her brother inviting us to their home. He said he knew it was short notice for dinner but said we should come for dessert.
We went. They seemed glad to see us and we had a fairly nice visit. Another sister was there as well. As things were coming to a close, my BIL’s wife said that it had been a few years since we had a Christmas get together and that we should do it. We decided on meeting at a nice local pizza place and the SIL and I entered the time and date on our phones while the discussion was happening. It was scheduled for this afternoon at 4.00pm.
We got a Christmas card from them a week ago and the SIL had written that she was looking forward to it. Ten days ago the SIL was at my daughter’s salon to get her hair done and talked about it. (Neither of my daughters were able to attend due to prior commitments) Still no calls or texts.
We have been wondering if this event had been cancelled but decided to go anyway. We like this pizza place. We talked about the fact that this was not really formalized face to face on the way there. I suggested that we would end up alone, and my wife said that she would not be surprised.
Sure enough. We got there at 3.50pm and got some drinks and settled in to wait. No one showed by 4.15, so we ordered pizza and salad. We were served and had a nice dinner, but the family was a no call no show. Due to the family dynamic, I was not really surprised. Even though she tossed it off, I could tell my wife’s feelings were hurt by this.
I know there is nothing that can be done, but I hate it when sunflower is dissed like this.