It started off as a nice evening and a pleasant start to the 4th of July. My wife and I accompanied another couple to the butcher for some steaks and made our way over to the fireworks stand. We purchased around $150 in fireworks for the children to enjoy.
Back at my place we began grilling and at about 9:30 pm we were setting up fireworks. My friends wife…we’ll call Mary, stood back with her daughter, Maria, while John (her children’s father) set off some fireworks. Mary had been drinking and was a bit rowdy and way beligerent. One of the fireworks fell over and shot near Maria and her; this is how the night from hell began.
Mary completely flipped out calling John a dumb motherfucker and screaming profanity in front of her daughter that is usually reserved for the lowest common denominator in society. She went in the house and kept yelling through the windows. I went in to speak with her and she just wanted a guarantee that John would, “STAY THE FUCK AWAY FROM ME.” I assured her that he would stay outside and she could put the baby to sleep and watch a movie. By this point Maria is crying her eyes out and upset that her mother is being crazy. Maria is only 8 and her biological father is not around, so I imagined she has seen these situations play out all too often.
This is where it just gets stupid as hell: She comes out of my house with my baseball bat signed by members of the St. Louis Cardinals (this is a full size bat) and walks straight over to his car and commences to knock out the headlights and bash in the hood. John is very angry and runs over to her as do I and we try to grab the bat. She hits him in the shoulder, fracturing his collar bone, and then tears his shirt off; I have to physically restrain her while John is laying on the ground in terrible pain.
My wife is the most stable person you will ever meet and I thought she was going to lose it. My dogs were going crazy, Mary is yelling and screaming, and her daughter, Maria, is shaking like a leaf and balling her eyes out. My wife goes inside to check on their baby and it continues to go down hill. My wife closed the door behind her and instead of just opening the damn thing, Mary starts kicking it. She manages to mess the door all the way up and then calls the cops from her cellphone claiming SHE was attacked.
They are not from around here so she could not provide an address; my wife then calls them back and they arrive around 20 minutes later. They do not take her to jail, even though she is on probation and is to not be drinking. The authorities leave with a warning to “keep her under control” because if they come back “someone is going to jail.” My wife is finally able to calm Mary down enough to allow us to take her to a hotel. We keep the baby and her daughter with us while John drove himself to the hospital.
We paid for her room at a Motel Six. Heres the kicker: She shows up this morning all smiles as if nothing happened, picked up her kids and belongings, and my dumbass friend in a sling goes with her. My house is practically destroyed from their antics. He called me awhile ago and apologized stating that they were sitting down to dinner and talking things through.
Why is he with her? I understand this is the father of her youngest (4 months old) and he wants to the best for his family, but this shit is downright dangerous. We did not plan on her drinking and she has stabbed him (really) in the past. This is not going to go well for him. What is my obligation as a friend? Do I threaten to call social services on her or just mind my business? I feel terrible for Maria who does not deserve to be brought up like this. My wife is a psychologist and has rarely seen anyone who is as crazy as her; she is worried that if we get involved that Mary will burn our house down or something.
Do I just write this episode off and not allow her at my house anymore? Or do I actively attempt to do something about it; I’m just worried it will all make things somehow worse. At this point I just want to wash my hands of her and be done with the whole thing, but I feel terrible for her oldest daughter.