"Online Dating" Horror Stories Anyone?

I think the logic is that once you get to know them, you’ll fall in love with their personality and be able to overlook their physical appearance.

I think there is a small grain of truth to that. I used to think I could never be attracted to bald guys until I met a very charming, witty bald guy who made me realize that it’s not a big deal after all. But, yeah, it probably would be much more efficient to just be honest about who you are and try to find someone who is okay with that right off the bat.

OK, I’ve got an online dating horror story I can share. Good timing too, because it happened several years ago at Halloween.

Like the OP, I was “friends” with a girl online, and we’d known each other for about two years. One day I finally get up the nerve to ask her on a date. We decide that we’d meet for coffee in the afternoon, and if we clicked we’d go back to my place, get some pizza and a bottle of wine, and watch some old horror flicks (because it’s Halloween).

It turns out that on the day of our “date” we both have minor emergencies in the morning. We can’t meet for coffee in the afternoon, but our evenings are still free. We’ve known each other online for a few years, seen each other’s picture, and generally trust each other. OK, we’ll skip the coffee and she’ll just come straight over to my place.

She arrives, it’s great to finally see her in real life, and we have a good time making small talk and getting to know each other. I had a roommate at the time, he was going to a Halloween party of his own that evening, but he was still in the apartment at that point. I think his presence really helped “break the ice”, as we were all having fun talking with each other.

After a half hour or so, I call up the local pizza joint and order up some pizza. We figure it’ll be cheaper if I just go to pick it up myself as the restaurant is just a few minutes drive away. I suggest to my “friend” that she just relax (she was running around all morning) and hang out with my roommate while I pick up the pizzas.

Traffic turned out to be heavier than expected that evening (everyone was going to Halloween parties?) and it took me around 40 minutes to get to the restaurant and then get back home. Maybe you can see where this story is going.

My “friend” stabbed and killed my roommate in the short time they were alone together, and then hid the body in a crawlspace. (It took weeks for the cops to find him.) She may have sexually violated his corpse, and she definitely ate part of his arm. It gets worse, however.

By the time I return, she’s gotten everything straightened up, and I have no idea what just transpired. She tells me that my roommate left for his party already. So we start eating the pizza. This is where things take a nosedive. Throughout our whole dinner she ate with her elbows on the table (1st Red Flag). I mean, she was doing it the entire time. How rude! And then, a little later on, she actually belches. At the table. Right in front of me (2nd Red Flag). Unbelievable! Finally, towards the end of the meal she gets an anchovy stuck between her teeth, and it stayed there for the rest of the evening (3rd Red Flag).

I tried nonchalantly pointing to my own teeth. The hint was not taken. I ask her if she’d like to brush her teeth after dinner. No, she’s fine, she says. That anchovy (or in retrospect, possibly part of my now ex-roomate’s arm) stays firmly in place. It stayed there throughout our horror movie marathon, throughout our passionate lovemaking that evening, and throughout our incredible morning sex the next day. She eventually returned home without further incident, still with the anchovy / human flesh wedged between her chompers.

Alas, I cannot abide a woman with horrible table manners, and so I never called her again after that weekend. I ignored all her emails, IM’s, phone calls, and the letters she wrote using human blood (hers? someone else’s roommate’s?) until they eventually stopped coming.

I’m still pretty traumatized about the whole affair, actually. Definitely the second-worst date I’ve ever been on.

Shy huh?..I don’t think so…lol…Got another to post…in due time.

I found that weird also. They deff didn’t have their priorities straight. That took place about four years ago. I have since moved on. Glad I got out of there also, thanks Lavenderviolet.

Well, Súil Dubh, if it’s any consolation, I believe I just fell in love with you.

Like, arm-eating love? Or just regular love?

I’m still confused about one thing.

Were the anchovies on just half the pizza, or did you both like anchovies?

If taking a hunk out of someone’s arm is wrong, well…I don’t wanna be right.

So here I was thinking that the guy who showed up wearing sweats, flip flops with socks and the t-shirt he won from the bar the night before, that I had an awkward half hour chat with over coffee at the local Tim’s was a bad date. Y’all got me beat.

That’s the really weird part.

cue shrieking violin music

WE DIDN’T ORDER ANY ANCHOVIES ON EITHER OF THE PIZZAS!

I’ve only known you for a few posts, but what the hey… let’s meet up.

(Do you like pizza?)

Great. Now I’m in love with Súil Dubh, too. Lucretia, is this going to be a problem?

Me, three. I am willing to love from a distance, though.

No problem at all, ladies! Look, I hear he has a lovely little vacation trailer in West Virginia. What say we all pop down there for a week? We’ll take turns sleeping in the van.

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Súil Dubh,

If you can whisper sweet nothings in “the Irish” I may be your gal. Damn, but I love anchovies too!

KB.

lol…Sounds like something up your alley!

Let’s make sure to go on a cleansing fast before we go so we can all fit into the bathroom.

 Yeah, I mean I guess part of me can understand their mindset, although I still don't agree with it. I imagine that they are thinking something along the lines of 
 " well, we'll just see how well we get along and whether he is the type of guy I'm looking for. If he is, then I'll meet up with him in person. If it so happens that, upon seeing me in person he changes his mind, then that just proves what a superficial asshole he is. Hopefully that won't happen much bc I'm a pretty good judge of character. I just won't meet any assholes."
  I mean don't get me wrong, I'm not extremely picky when it comes to looks or anything.  I feel like when we're older, we'll both probably be fat and unattractive, and she will long since have ceased to be interested in having sex with me anyways. So I definitely focus more on intelligence, humor, nice ness, etc.  
  However, having said that, looks may not be the most important thing, but they DO matter.  Frankly I think it's unfair and hypocritical that she would get to chose a partner that is reasonably decent looking, whom she would be sexually attracted to, but I don't even have that option.  Not only do I not even have the option of choosing someone I would be attracted to, if I were to attempt to do so, exactly as they had done (they had chosen my profile, basically entirely on looks bc they sure weren't interested in anything else about me they could've discerned from my profile.), that would somehow make me a superficial asshole.  
  Saying that physical attraction does matter in a relationship is not the same as saying looks trump everything.  If, in their universe, looks only matter to superficial assholes, then why weren't they choosing fat guys?  Also, I distinguish between people who were just born plain looking and people who are morbidly obese.

Sorry, I know I’m probably rambling, but this topic can really get me riled up.
Heh, I actually used to put in my profile that I have been a devout reader of the straight dope message boards since 2003. Can you guys BELIEVE that I did not have anyone respond to that part? not one person recognized it! I must be a dork ha ha