OT: also, the phrase “a few extra pounds”, which doesn’t mean a few pounds, or even 10 or 20, but more like overweight but not obese.
Yeah, but just because you’re big doesn’t mean you aren’t beautiful either. What would you prefer heavy women say, “I’m fat and I hate myself but I don’t want to die alone and be eaten by my cat” or are you campaigning for a “I’m thin but I look like I got my face caught in a tractor” category on dating sites too? 
If you want to add a few extra categories so that BBW is not the only way to describe yourself if you are obese and that thin/average are not the only ways to describe yourself if you are skinny I can get on board with that!*
*I haven’t been dating online in a long time so I don’t suppose it effects me one way or the other but I think it would be a good idea for other people who are searching online.
That could be part of an entire trope: “I Don’t Know How The Search Function Works”
Examples I encountered years ago in my single days:
[ul][li]The woman who said in her “looking for” section that she was looking for men of all races, but in the first line of her profile stated she was only looking for black men. She was the first person Match.com sent me as a “100% match” (I’m white, BTW).[/li][li]Women who would put extremely broad search parameters in, so they matched up with everybody 100%, then put all their real dealbreakers deep within their profile. Great, now I’ve got hundreds of “100% matches” to wade through.[/li][li]Women who would put no interests in their “interests and hobbies” section, but put them in their profile instead. Yeah, that makes it really easy for someone who shares your interests to find you.[/li][li]The 5’9" woman who wanted to date “tall men” but mistakenly put “looking for men 5’10” and under in her “looking for” section. And I love the tall ladies, so I’ve always wondered whether eHarmony killed my chances with her.[/ul][/li]
There should probably also be a trope for Pornbots. Although I have to commend the industry for being creative…where better than an internet dating site to find your target audience of lonely male internet-dwellers?
Just say big. Some of these ladies seem to think being big automatically makes them beautiful.
“Big” women shouldn’t be whining, as a heck lot of males will still be chasing them anyway.
There even exists social (dating) sites dedicated to the worship of the [del]Fat[/del] Curvy Woman.
Are there sites dedicated to the worship of men below 5 ft 6 in ?
I will never understand chubby chasers, or the women who encourage them.
It’s possible to find a large person attractive.
Finding someone attractive because they’re large…I dunno.
Mine has included “troponin-tropomyosin complex” for years now. I have no intention of ever changing this.
De gustibus non disputandum est, thank god.
Well, if you’re looking for a partner for a long sea voyage and you’re worried about getting shipwrecked…
Why should she be more concerned about offending some guy she definitely won’t date, than about offending some woman she might? Or do you think that lesbians somehow wouldn’t get miffed at a fib “gay” setting, when the profile not only states she’s not gay, but has a boyfriend?
I prefer honesty, personally.
I will say that the OKC system of including “available” when you’re searching for “single” annoys the crap outta me, though. Not doing that would solve a whole lotta problems.
I’m not sure why you assume they already have a boyfriend, as that’s a whole other category–they won’t appear as single. So this has to be dealing with women who are bisexual, but only want to be with a woman. Is the number of lesbians that don’t want to be with someone who has been with a man really that large? I know for sure it’s not as large as the number of guys who will accept bisexuals, as long as they are looking for men.
Still, I wonder why these older systems still exist when the newer systems just let you flat out say whether you are looking for men, women, or both. And if you say both, but then later just say one, then YouFailSearchEnginesForever.
It’s been a long time since I’ve been on dating sites, but IIRC Match.com had “Man Seeking Woman”, “Man Seeking Man”, “Woman Seeking Man”, “Woman Seeking Woman”, and “It’s Complicated” (or something along those lines). I’m not sure why a bisexual woman seeking a woman would register themselves as “Woman Seeking Man”, or why a gay woman would be offended by a bi woman registering as “Woman Seeking Woman.”
Oh, that reminds me–another trope, although it’s more about the sites themselves than the people on them: This Search Mechanism Sucks. Examples:
[ul][li]Match.com’s insistence (they may have fixed it by now) that height is the most important factor people are looking for in a partner. I’m serious. If you put down that you were looking for someone between 5’6" and 5’11", you would not get someone who was 5’5" or 6’0"…no exceptions. Match.com’s searching mechanism would give you leeway on everything else from religion to interests to preferred orientation (!), but one inch shorter or taller than your height requirements was totally out.[/li][li]eHarmony. Say no more.[/li][*]Other sites would “match” you with people who lived thousands of miles away…one of my friends was once matched with someone who lived on another continent![/ul]
I can say from my own experience that I keep clicking on lesbians’ profiles, scrolling down to the Looking For section, and seeing “gay girls only” “gay girls only” “gay girls only”. 
I never understood the reason for this bias.
On the other hand, I get the impression that we’re more desirable to the average guy than straight women are.
Perhaps there’s a fear that they’ll “find out” they’re not “really” into women, just like the trope of a woman suddenly “discovering” that they’re bi or lesbian after decades of marriage, only in reverse.
Uh, because that’s the scenario that bouv presented in his post, and therefore, the scenario I was addressing.
And at the end of my post, you’d see that on OKC they do indeed “appear as single”, in that if you search for “single” people, you will also get those who list themselves as “available.” There is no way to filter “available” people out of your search.
Photoshop Filter Queen
Uses filters- specifically guassian blur- to appear thinner or prettier. This is the “Vaseline on lens” look.
The 80’s called
People who still look like it’s the video hey day.
This is specifically in reference to the hairstyles.
Cliches:
Everyone says I look 10 years younger! (hint:they lied).
Nice guy with an edge (edges can be dull).
I’m a handsome guy- my mom says so (har de har har).
The form letter sender
I get it guys, you have to send a million messages to get a bite. I remember when I’d change my picture. The same guys would send the same emails because:
I didn’t read your profile guy
When I tried online dating, my profile was out there to say the least. I figured it was crazy enough that a guy that got it, got me. Goofiness aside, had they even bothered to read the first few lines: I think winking is lame…
Cheapskates
I’m not going to pay for the service so I will “hide” my email in the profile. Also, I will wink nonstop at you.
Came here to say this. “I don’t want any drama.”
Is it a useless cliche? Certainly no one wants drama. It’s a given; it should not need to be explicitly stated.
So what it really means is: I’ve recently made some bad dating and relationship decisions. I may be the kind of person who is drawn to, and creates, drama.
It’s probably correct to find a relationship between “No drama, please!” and those who are drawn to it, but there must be an acceptable way to say “I’m easy-going and flexible, and am looking for someone who won’t read secret meanings into everything I say, or invite me to offer advice on personal issues which will then be perceived as intrusive and insulting, or blame me if plans go awry, but rather will go with the flow, and adapt to situations as they develop” etc.
What is that acceptable way? I’ve used “No drama, please” as a short-hand but if that gives off “I love drama” vibes, I’ll need to find something else.
But why would you want to say it? There’s no more need to say that than to say “I want someone who won’t kick me in the balls and steal my wallet”. It goes without saying.
They probably get a lot of hits from bi-curious/GGG women who have a boyfriend, and they’re interested in bringing in a lesbian woman for a threesome.
Probably there are some lesbian women out there who are biased against bi girls; maybe they figure they’re only temporarily bi until they find the right guy, maybe something else.