I have recently met a guy at eHarmony, and from what I can see so far, he is unlike anyone I’ve ever met so far, one reason being he is in a wheelchair. He sustained a spinal cord injury a number of years ago (he is 53 and the injury was in '83). We are communicating frequently and I am quite certain this will lead to a real life meeting, sooner rather than later.
This leads me to my quest for information. I have never dated anyone with this physical condition. What questions should I be asking him? Likewise, what should I not say? What should I expect? Apparently he is quite independent. He said he is in an ultralight chair full-time. I did some searching last night and found information on sexual and continence “issues.” At this early stage, I don’t know what of these issues apply to him, or if all do.
Any resources out there I should know about?
I was initially reluctant to communicate with him because of the physical limitations. But in retrospect, I have had enough experience since I became single again to know that it’s what goes on behind the eyes and in the heart that matters, and it seemed very short sighted to eliminate him because of his physical condition.
Thoughts?