I sure hope so. He hasn’t dated much recently, so I think he may take it more slowly than someone who has been “in the pool,” so to speak. But we are definitely going to be talking.
I am so hopeful.
Good luck, Rascal’s Mom. I hope this works out for you.
Thank you.
I hope it isn’t too late to revive this thread. I don’t know if there is a rule on it.
We are now what I would call dating, for the past month, and it is very happy and fun. And I have to say, every single thing you people have said is spot on. He is very up front. But it isn’t by far a main focus in our interactions. He is very funny and entertaining. Tonight he was telling me tales of his early teens, pre-accident, and his adventures around Madison. And honestly, it seems that the biggest effect his disability has on our relationship is that it takes longer to get somewhere, and with the crappy weather we are having, it may rule out some interaction. Neither of these are deal breakers.
Jelly Roll, could you PM me please? I have some questions.
I was, well, not shocked, but something, to see that Jesus Harold Christ has been banned since this thread. His post seriously had me burning.
And thank everyone for their thoughtful responses. This is going to be my happiest Christmas in memory.
I’m so pleased.
I am too. Thank you.
Hurray for happy endings!
Oh, this is just the beginning. Thanks, Auto, hon.
I’ve actually wanted to bump this thread for the past week or so to ask for an update but was hesitant in case it didn’t turn out well. I’m glad I was just being overly cautious. Hope it continues to go well for you.
Thanks Aesiron, I appreciated your earlier comment. You coulda bumped any time! You warm my heart, honestly.
I love this place. The Dope is just awesome, gotta say.
I missed this thread the first time around, but I’m glad to hear that things are working out for you two.
Robin
I used to work with people with spinal cord injuries. There is some great information here:
Good luck to the two of you! Ain’t romance grand?
Oh, 'tis. Going to wrap presents at his house today if it stops snowing.
This is so awesome! I started dating my now-husband about a month before Christmas, too, and it just makes this time of year so special.
Merry merry!
I didn’t see this thread the first time around…so how nice to find out how things went without any waiting! 
Best of luck to you, Rascal’s Mom! This thread makes me happy.
Just stopping by to point out the case of warm fuzzies you gave me, RM. Merry Christmas!
Thanks for the udpdate, Rascal’s Mom (I like hearing how stories, not end, but move on from our discussions here).
Thanks, guys! We had such an amazing afternoon. Got all his presents wrapped, had some kaluhua (I am sure that’s not spelled right), I came home to attend a party of my own, then came home and called him and spent an hour and a half on the phone with him. We will be spending New Year’s Eve together.
Garsh, life is good.
Thanks for all your kind words and advice. Everyone, have an amazing Christmas, k? Apparently I will be.
I missed this thread the first time around but I wanted to give you some holiday cheers and kudos.
I dated a guy in a wheelchair for several months. We split for other reasons, but he was definitely one of the nicest, most giving guys I ever dated, the kind who I would say to my female friends “didn’t work for me, you should go out with him!” He was also hilarious, and his complete comfort laughing at himself put everyone at ease.
I’m glad you didn’t let a disability keep you from a great guy as well. Good luck to you both.
When someone has any disability you be frank with them. You say “look I’ve never dated anyone in a wheelchair, I will need your help to know what’s expected of me.” And tell them if you have a question ASK them
Remember people with disabilities will have good and bad days. They may be fine with it one day and bad with it the next. But that’s like anyone.
And remember never condescend to anyone, that helps no one. I have worked with people with disabilities and even mentally handicapped and mildy retarded and the thing that kind of shocked me is not only can they be nice, but they can be jerks too.
