In the past, I realize that I have differed with some (may?) of you regarding the “response” I have expected/desired regarding gifts I have given. Your responses have been useful in helping me modify my gifting and my expectations. I’d appreciate thoughts about a couple of situations.
We annually give one SIL a check for $50 on his birthday. He NEVER expresses a thank you either in person or so much as a text. Would you continue sending a check? My daughter has said that he looks forward to receiving it, and gets pleasure out of spending it (their finances are somewhat tight, so I imagine $50 to just spend is appreciated.) I believe my wife favors sending the gift, in part, because HIS mother gifts a similar amount to my daughter on her b-day. My preference would be to stop sending the check. I simple texted “Thx” would be plenty for me. Thoughts?
My son recently got married. We gave them what I consider to be a rather large check - 5 figures. The check is cashed, and they are back from their honeymoon. How soon do you expect to receive thanks for such a gift? I realize that general expectations for wedding gift thanks is quite long, and I understand they have TONS to do. But I was just wondering what you think. If I received a check that size, I’d be sure to send a thank you card sooner than later. If it affects your response, AFAIK, the couple paid for the wedding themselves, with no funds from her family. We offered to front them the gift, but they said it wasn’t necessary.