My son is 4, almost 5. As anyone who has been around kids of this age can tell you, they are full of questions. I typically give straight-forward, age appropriate answers. Actually, I usually ask if he wants the truth or if he wants me to make up an answer. He normally wants both. I try to make the made up answers funny, ridiculous or just relate cultural mythology.
Well last night, apropos of nothing and totally out of the blue, he asked me if I had ever stolen anything. I dodged at first, inquiring why he wanted to know.
“I was just wondering,” he said.
“Stealing is wrong,” I said.
“I know,” he answered. “But did you ever steal anything.”
“I’d rather not answer,” I replied.
Well that led to a discussion, more of a lecture from him, of why it was important to answer the question and that if I didn’t answer then he wouldn’t talk to me or be my friend.
“Yes,” I admitted. “Way back when I was in college I took a couple of empty beer kegs from behind a restaurant. It was wrong and I shouldn’t have done it and I’d never do it again.”
“Why?”
“I don’t have a good reason,” I told him.
“Then what are the bad reasons,” he wanted to know.
“We didn’t want to pay a deposit every time we bought beer,” I answered.
“Did you give it back,” he asked with a moralizing tone.
“No, the restaurant closed down.”
“Stealing is wrong,” he reiterated, ending the discussion.
So my question to the Teeming Millions is should I have handled this differently? Avoided answering? Told him it was none of his business?