First of all, im sorry if this is inappropriate, im just in dire need of some opinions!
ok, im 16 and just like alot of guys im concerned with the size of my penis. Ive read online and stuff that the average flacid penis is 4"…well mine is typically 3"…and it constantly is varying in size…i know temperature and stuff effects it…but i dunno…im closer to the average when erect i guess…ok, heres my question I guess: is it normal to have a penis this small? and from guys experience will it grow any more?? also, is it normal for it to vary in size?? please, if theres anyone out there who has this same problem be honest…i need to know if im abnormal…thanks, and sorry if this offends anyone 
I wouldn’t worry about it. First of all, you’re 16, so you’re still growing. Second, average penis size is just that, an average. If your penis is an inch smaller than average, it won’t have an effect on your capacity to have sex or enjoy it.
Yes, perfectly normal and will cause no problems with the typical types of things that men use their penis for. Some women find extra large penises uncomfortable for certain… pleasurable acts.
It is quite normal to vary in size based on a wide variety of conditions.
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The first point I’d make is that flaccid length has very little correlation with erect length, and the erect length (and thickness) are the important parameters; I’m not going to deny that they are important, despite the fact that they wouldn’t be in an ideal world - but, men are men, and men are competitive. 
We had a Thread on this very issue a few weeks back - the numbers there may prove reassuring.
Yes, you’re still growing and yes, you’re normal.
And, as a woman who’s been priviledged to enjoy a few penises of varying size and shape in my day, I’ll say two things: one, they’re all wonderful. Two, they vary much less in size once they’re erect. The smaller ones tend to grow a whole lot, and the larger ones not so much.
The second largest penis I ever saw was only about four inches long but grew to humongous lengths. Some people seem to be in a perpetual state of semi-arousal but most are bout three inches totally flaccid.
I don’t even understand how averages for flaccid penis length are concocted. As the owner of a penis, I can say that Lil’ Excalibre changes in size depending on mood, temperature, phase of the moon, and everything else. I couldn’t guess how big it is on average when it’s flaccid, since it varies so much. Everyone’s dick does that - entirely normal, rest assured. Hell, there was a Seinfeld episode about it.
But frankly, three inches for a flaccid penis is not abnormally short in the least, judging from what I’ve seen in locker rooms and stuff. As long as it’s big enough when it’s hard, you’re fine. A dick that’s big when it’s soft is nice if you want to show it off in the locker room, but aside from that it’s pretty much irrelevant. A small flaccid penis can easily turn into an average or above average one when erect, and vice versa.
Besides, penis size is seriously not that important. A majority of women don’t orgasm from vaginal intercourse anyway, so the real issue is getting good at oral sex (assuming you’re straight. Well, the advice about getting good at oral sex counts for all genders and sexual orientations.)
I’m sorry to be the bearer of bad news, but a 3” flaccid penis will forever doom you to a life of torment and ridicule. At best, you may find a woman or two who may refrain from laughing in your face (of course she will still laugh behind your back and spread the news of your shortcomings to anyone within earshot). You mention that you are closer to average when erect, so this may offer some redemption – I assume that you are referencing the updated EPL (Erect Penal Length) figures that lists the average erect length at 9.25”? As someone who exceeds the EPL figures by a wide margin, I can only offer my condolences and recommend that you invest a large portion of your income to pneumatic penis enlargement devises.
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I kid, of course. Be proud of your saber, it will serve you well. For one thing, it sounds like your penis is a perfectly nifty size. For another thing, women care more about you than your little buddy. (And generally speaking, the only thing that matters size-wise is that of your wallet). Go yonder, and slay thy opponent, young buck.
…um, I wasn’t kidding about my exceeding the EPL figure by a wide margin, you understand. I’m huge. Mr. Ed huge.
9.25"? I don’t fold mine in half for anyone! Why, if my John Thomas were that small I’d be forced to buy a large expensive SUV to compensate!
I’ve not been privy to that many penises, but I’ve seen at least one that completely disappears when flaccid. So, you’ve got three inches on that guy.
Seriously, as a girl with a great appreciation for penises, you’ll be fine, if you learn to use it right.
Half of us are show, the other half grow.
I’m a grower myself. In the past I’ve thought it would be nice to have a show penis but then quickly realize not many people see it. The people who do see it are the ones using it so it doesn’t matter at the end of the day.
At 16 you still have time to fill out a bit. I wouldn’t sweat it.
A flaccid penis, no matter what the size, isn’t going to please you or your mate. That’s the way I look at it. And from what I’ve read, erect penises don’t deviate much, so you probably have nothing to worry about. Also, I’d like to second the recommendation to improve your cunnilingus skills. That’s the way to keep them coming back.
Erect Penal Length?
You mean it’s different in jail?
fretsonfire, don’t fret about it. Seriously.
There probably isn’t a single other thing on the planet that people have experienced so much totally unneccessary anxiety about. The funny (sort of) thing is that it’s also really difficult for guys to be reassured about this, no matter how much people reassure you about it.
If you’re like me, you’re going to discount a lot of what you’re hearing as just people being “nice” and trying to make you feel better about yourself. That’s what people do, right? In all honesty, what you’re hearing is totally true.
When I was your age, I was convinced that I had a freakishly small bit of anatomy down there. Turns out it really is well within the range of “normal.” And even if it were half the size, it would be perfectly fine. God, I don’t even remember how many girlfriends I had before it finally dawned on me that I wasn’t just really lucky when it came to finding girls that were willing to “make do” with with a little less.
You’ll continue to grow anyway, and even if you stopped tomorrow, so long as everything works, you’re good to go. So don’t sweat it.
My penis gets ridiculously small sometimes when it’s flaccid, but all of my female acquantances have been very happy with it. Flaccid length doesn’t mean shit.
A female once looked at my flaccid member and asked about the ‘JOY’ tattoo on top-was it for an old flame? No-it’s an advertisement. When I’m aroused, it reads "Jim Malduski’s Oyster Bar, Pennsauken, New Jersey.’
Listen dude,
Women, don’t give a damn about penis size. Sure the cold hard (heh heh) truth of it is: With a bigger penis (with in reason) you might be able to stimulate a woman quicker. But you know what? That’s not what keeps them comming back and that’s not why they got with you in the first place.
If a woman digs you; it’s because or your style, charm, persona or whatever you want to call it.
I know at your age, girls may pretend that it’s all about size. But don’t believe that shit for a minute. If they like you, it’s as I said, because of your style. No matter HOW much they want to deny it. (At your age I mean)
And just FTR, my meat doesn’t hang below the vegetables when I’m flacid and I have yet to EVER have a women give me the shove off after the deed was done.
They always come back for more baby, always! 
C’mon now. I know you’re trying to reassure him, but he needs the truth, not fluffy reassurances.
Fretsonfire–Like the others have said, some men are “growers,” some are “showers.” Flaccid size don’t mean a thing.
As far as the size issue–in my experience, women do have a general feeling that bigger is better, but only up to a point. (pardon the pun.) If it’s too big, it can be kind of inconvenient, or even painful during intercourse.
Another issue that I’ve seldom seen addressed is that of shape. Sure, some guys might be able to legitimately claim eight inches, but if they’re shaped like enoki mushrooms, then it’s not really a big turn-on.
Feh, I scoff at your unfounded small-penis fears. Any nervousness I might still have is completely understandable. I was laughed at once because I’m a grower, not a shower. During a particularly racy game of Truth or Dare, I had to strip in front of everyone. I was nervous, and Li’l Sleel feels particularly shy when I’m nervous. One of the girls actually laughed because she was surprised at how small my penis was.
Later on, another girl had to take my clothes off and kiss each body part as it was exposed. This produced the usual response as Mini Me decided it was play-time. When she took off my underwear, the other girl, who had laughed earlier, audibly gasped and said, “holy shit!” Apparently, she had no idea how much the size changes. I was about thumb-size or smaller before, but I’m right in the normal range when in working trim.
Don’t worry what it looks like flaccid. If you’re finger-sized erect, you might have some difficulties–none unsurmountable–but it really doesn’t matter what it’s like when it’s soft.
P.S.: I ended up taking the girl who had to strip me and kiss me home that night, and we dated for over a year. Vindication feels good.
Green Bean go back and read my post. We both just said almost the same thing.