You all know the age old debate about whether or not the size of man’s penis has any bearing on the level of enjoyment in sexual intercourse. I want to know what all of you have to say on the subject. Like I said does size matter? Ladies and Gentlemen are welcome to answer and through in any comment you like on this topic.
Thanks,
Omega007
The only people who spew this “Size doesn’t matter” bullshit are men with small dicks, and the women who fuck them. Size definitely DOES matter. At the very, very least, a man with a 3 inch penis isn’t going to be confident, and that’s going to make him terrible in bed.
Quix
Of course size matters. BUT:
Length is okay, but circumference is the key. Mrs. RickJay assures me that the ladies would prefer stretch over depth., if you catch my drift, just as the gentlemen would prefer, ah… tightness, as it were, over depth.
You need good equipment to do the job right, but you still need to know how to use it.
Size does matter in that it’s possible to be too small to bother with, and possible to be too large to handle, but in between those two limits, there’s advantages to be had for any point in the spectrum.
So, except for those two qualifiers (which no two people could ever probably agree on), I would agree that size doesn’t matter.
I’d say “yeah” size matters with a qualifier. There are certain sizes that no matter how skilled you are you just can’t do anything with, if you got a penist the size of a fingernail you could be the most gifted natural cocksmith on the planet and I think you are still going to need to do finger and tongue excercises, but on the gripping hand:
Say “Joe” has a dong that is about 9" long and 2 1/2" Thick
And say “Bob” has one that is 7 1/2 long and about 2" thick.
That may seem like a big difference, and visually it is pretty impressive, but in a practical sense “Joe” probably does not have that much of an advantage over “Bob”, and certainly “Bob” can be a gifted lover and appreciated as much as “Joe” or maybe more so with patience and practice.
Then you have “Sam”, sam could be (and has been) described as “Mr.Sapporo” because his member resembles a Sapporo beer can (except his isn’t silver). Yeah he has a huge penis. He also had to have surgery because of painful erections and in fact he lost some sensitivity due to the surgery (yeah he lasts longer but it isn’t as much fun for him as it is for you). He has a huge monster Johnson that while visually impressive has more that a few times harmed a lover and caused the sex to be infrequent or cease entirely (fortunately for “Sam” his libido isn’t really raging so he deals with it pretty well), more than one of his girlfriends has cheated on him just becasue there were things that “Sam” could not do for her sexually without hurting her.
All in all I’d say that a medium penis with a lot of effort is probably the best.
I believe the qualifiers you are looking for are “between the size of a baby carrot and a rolling pin.” (Paraphrase from this month’s Maxim. :))
Size matters, but only relatively. If you and your partner fit, it’s good. If you don’t fit but are close, the female will adjust to the male over time. If you are not close, intercourse will suffer.
Also, there are some positions which simply are not viable for a short penis. There are also positions which can become painful for the woman if a the man has a very large penis.
Main thing to remember: “size matters” does not mean “only size matters”
No definitive opinion here. But a general comment that you guys are all missing the boat in focusing on the physical aspects, as opposed to the psychological/emotional ones.
Size can matter depending on what’s going on. But in the long run, it’s just one piece of the puzzle. Proper application of the tongue and fingers, coupled with imaginative exploration of all the erogenous zones can garner some pretty impressive results and happy partners. As far as I know, I’ve yet to have sex with a woman who was hung up on penis size. And though I’m average, I’ve met some women with whom full penetration was uncomfortable for them, as the tip of the penis pressed against the cervix and caused them some degree of pain.
And I second what IzzyR said about emotional aspects. When I want someone, it rarely has much to do with their physical attributes, and is largely due to who they are.
good friend of mine once opined:
"yeah sure, size matters some, but I mean really, after about 6 and a half inches, yer just pushin’ guts anyway… "
male friend of course, but funny nonetheless
Speaking as a het girl who has had this very discussion with het girls, let me assure that size matters. Size matters alot. However, nobody agrees about what the right size is.
IIRC, most women won’t dump a guy because of his dick. They’ll dump him because he’s a whinny, inconsiderate, angry dumbass.
Don’t save your money for enlargement surgery. Go get some therapy and see if you can be a nice guy.
That last bit may have sounded a little more cranky than I intended.
I think we mean two different things. I was pointing out that to the extent that size counts, it likely has less to do with the physical aspects of how it functions than with the emotional/psycological appeal that it has. In this, it is much like other aspects of physical attractiveness, which are generally not judged more or less attractive based on function but based on the feelings that they inspire. For this reason, I believe that any discussion of this matter which focuses primarily on the practical aspects of size is misguided.
Sorry if I was unclear.
Like I tell all the ladies:
“I may be small, but I’m quick”
Both of them ran to the door. I wonder why?
ROCK ON, SISTER!!!
I have never heard a better analysis of this issue.
For the record, WIDTH matters more than LENGTH. My BF has a dick too big for my hand to go all the way around, & I am NEVER letting him go…
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This is really an IMHO matter, not a Great Debate. So that’s where I’m sending it.
David B, SDMB Great Debates Moderator
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IT may not be a Great Debate for some people…
So it’s the width, not the length? If I put it in sideways, then, I could be the most popular man in town? 
Any of you ladies have any actual statistics for comparison-what’s S,M,L and XL?
i.e. 4.5" around = small, 6" around = big?
Yeah, give us some hard (of course, no pun intended) facts so I know if I should feel inadequate or not.
Superficiality. We were told (in that sixth grade special session boys has to explain pubes) that as long as it reaches your body. Size isn’t the problem but a mighty handy excuse. This should get to BBQ soon if it is a serious post.
Chicks who make or break a caring relationship because of size deserve the knuckle draggers they end up with.
WTF, get a cucumber (or zuchinni). Probably better able to put up with the head games based on physicalities that size obsessors dish out.
‘Barbies’ and ‘GI Joes’. Prosthetic, plastic, fake. Jeepers.
It would seem to me that there is legitimate room for debate concerning whether the pop-culture attitude concerning the relevence of size is based on reality or not. This is distinct from the IMHO aspect, which - as I understand it - would concern the relevence of size to a particular individual (poster).
Moderate the boards as you see fit. But I’d like to have my remarks to this thread construed in the first context rather than the second.