Just kidding, but when we started out years ago, she couldn’t let me in all the way, because it hurt her, and afterward she had some spotting. I felt terrible, but we kept at it, and found alternative ways, one of which was rear entry (not through “the poop chute”! She lays on her side and takes me from behind into her pant love canal).
Another way is the aformentioned “you” on top in what we like to call “Ride Your Pony”, after the old dance tune.
Hope that helped you. It didn’t help me worth a shit, 'cause now I’m sporting major wood and I’m all alone.
I’m not quite that big, but I am a bit larger than most. Wifecat’s favorite position is her lying on her back and me on my side facing her. She lifts the leg closest to me and I scoot in (so her hip is in my stomach and her leg is over my side with her heel touching my butt). In this position I can thrust all I want and she doesn’t get hurt, plus she can use a vibe. We can still kiss and have eye ontact and all that, so it is our favorite choice.
Another one is using the edge of the couch or bed with me on my knees on the floor. She can position herself an inch or three back from the edge to control how deep I penetrate. This one is good for those porn nights because the view is great.
As others have said, both on our stomachs works well too, but I still have to watch how deep I go.
I’d still use a little extra lube just because there is more surface area now and because the girth can cause your outer labia (and hair) to be pulled in accidentally.
Magnum condoms do feel better for us larger types. I find normal condoms squeeze the head too much thus reducing feeling.
If it is the length that is hurting you, you can try the donuts suggested above. I delivered medical supplies for awhile and one of the items were those hand-strengthening rubber donuts. A pharmacist told me that they are prescribed for petite vaginas too. Slip it on and it will reduce the penetration by a good inch, plus the donut will hit your clitoris, which could be a good thing.
Lastly, using a vibe or a finger or two to start will help. When something is inserted, push out against it (like trying to give birth I guess). I’ve read that helps expand things a little.
I was gonna comment on the donut thingie, because I’ve tried that and all the air went outta my pecker when I thought about that trucker who put a lugnut on his on a bet and it had to be cut off in an ER.
Urban Legend, you say? Well hell, yeah, maybe so. But it sure scared the hell outta me!
[ul][]surprise sounds within each ring delight baby[]easy to grasp rings double as rattles or bracelets[/ul]This mental image alone must be worth the $32.95. I’m buying three!
Accessorizing might not be a good idea…my husband is built along the same lines and any additions are not fun. I wanted to keep it current, so I visited a little shop and purchased a few accessories but regreted my choices almost immediately…
Ow, ow, ow!
French ticklers do not tickle!
Marsha Warfield (Roz from Night Court) once had a joke in her stand up act about a guy she was dating who was well-endowed and she was apprehensive about sex with him:
Him: “But, the vagina can stretch to accomodate a baby.”
Marsha: “True, but that doesn’t mean I want to have one one every time I see you.”
Yeah, folks - last I heard, childbirth wasn’t quite as fun as the conception act that got you there.
I’m surprised that you guys are all reccomending woman-on-top - personally, with a guy who’s on the large side, he feels a lot bigger to me when I’m on top. Sure, you have more control, but that “smacking the cervix and wiggling the entire reproductive system around” feeling is less than fun. Any position with your legs together, on the other hand, makes his penetration much shallower while still feeling good to him. Your mileage may vary.
Hmmm…you know, I’m not good at visualizing, because every time someone describes a good position, I just cannot figure it out. (Thank you, Tomcat, I shall send todd33rpm over here posthaste to read your suggestion.) I think we need a manual of some sort…
Anyway. Do be aware of the whole cervix-bumping thing, okay? Even if it’s not very painful in the moment, it can cause some surprisingly strong cramping afterward. Like I said, I don’t have cramps anymore unless things get really rowdy, but I used to have them regularly.
And a somewhat hijacky story: I went to the gyno, and during the exam I mentioned the whole cramps-after-sex issue. My new gyno, a woman with a great sense of humor, asked if my new partner was “a big guy.” Yup, sez I, he is. “He’s probably just stirring things up a little, then,” she said, “Here. Lemme bump your cervix, and you tell me if this feels familiar…”
Sure enough, it did, although he manages to bump it with considerably more…finesse. (Somehow, this story never fails to crack me up, go figure.)
I once- and one need only do this once in life to NEVER forget the lesson- was entering a woman from behind and was a bit…ah…rambunctious. I hit her cervix and she cried out in pain and that was the END of that.
It gave me an awful feeling to see the same look on her face that men get when taking a hard kick to the testicles. She went gray. I was just devastated for her pain.
Y’know, with the average being just shy of 6" (15cm for the rest of the planet), a 7.5"(19cm) means a whole 25% longer than the norm. It can look really, really big. OTOH the circumference is not that much greater than normal,
As mentioned before, it’s not impossible if there is much gentleness and relaxation, and the right approach, and lots of trust and care. FWIW as mentioned the vagina is NOT that small but, more importantly, it’s not a fixed, inflexible structure: it can stretch quite a bit, before hitting the pain threshold.
Besides, contrary to popular belief, we guys do NOT have/need to ram the whole thing in to have a good time or get the job done. Honestly, we don’t.
I was just devastated for her pain.