A position I find sometimes works well (I’ve occasionally had difficulties with the size factor with my BF) -
he lies on his side and I lie perpendicular to him with my leg over his hip and the other between his legs. Kind of in an X shape. Very pleasurable without over-penetration.
Hmm…I’m kinda confused by this “cervix=pain” thing, because my ex’s favourite position was not only doggy-atyle, but doggy-style with me going in faitly fast and deep as well. And I’ll go so far as to say taht I am larger than average, not huge, but certainly more than six inches. So if it’s four or five incehs to the cervix, and even if a whoel inch of ‘little bouv’ wasn’t getting in, I would in theorey still be hitting her cervix, yet it looked and sounded like she enjoyed it (seeing as she was usually the one to suggest that position, I don’t think she was doing it for my sake.) She never complained about pain or cramping afterwards, either. Could it be that maybe some women like a penis going that deep? Or maybe just after you get used to it (I wasn’t the first larger-than-average penis she’s had) you can ignore it and focus more on the pleasure?
Maybe for mere mortals, ma’am, but not for the Men of the SDMB.
Maybe you didn’t get the memo last November, but a careful hands-on examination of some 1,028 male Dopers refereed by a panel of three SDMB moderators and two administrators (Cecil was allegedly away on business in Tijuana) last year confirmed the average penis length to be 14.35 inches, with several outliers measuring just over a meter.
Word to the wise: Date the Men of the SDMB at your own peril.
bouv, my personal experience is that if you hit the cervix, you’ll both feel it. For you (or at least for me) it feels like the tip of the penis bumped into something unyielding. If you haven’t noticed any odd sensations at the tippy top, then you haven’t hit the cervix, which is probably a good thing.
I can’t imagine liking it and/or being able to ignore that. But hey, to each their own; near anything’s possible when it comes to sexual preferences.
I do sometimes try to grin and bear it, but can’t last more than a few thrusts. It is an awfully uncomfortable, dull but severe ache that reverberates from my pelvis through my chest. One particularly brutal time I felt like my insides were being shaken, and after speaking with my doc learned that in a way, they were. It can actually shift the uterus’s position. Yowch.
My ex-husband was 7.5 inches long (never measured the circumference, though), but I had no problems, um, “accommodating” him, down there, ever, in any position (short of anal, the idea of which grossed both of us out so we never tried it).
However, since it says “TMI” on the thread title, I can also mention another possible “problem” that can, hee hee, arise, when a man has a larger than average penis, which I did experience with my ex: I could not take as much of him as I’d have liked to in my mouth, for fear of the “hurting him with my teeth” issue. We enjoyed our share of oral sex anyway (including my going down on him), but I always had to make a conscious note to be careful when I gave him head, and admittedly, it made me feel inhibited. You see, not only could I not get as much of his length in my mouth as I could with a smaller man, but he filled my mouth so much I barely had room to tease him with my tongue lest I accidentally get him with my teeth.
On this note, guys, if any of you are worried that your “equipment” isn’t big enough, don’t worry. My bf now isn’t small, but he’s definitely not as big as my ex was (haven’t measured the bf, but I’d estimate him at “average” size from visual and oral examination, hee hee), and it’s sooo nice to be ABLE to go down on him “properly” – heh heh heh.
And to those of you who’ve alluded to this possibility: as far as the “adjustment” from a big guy to an average sized guy goes, it’s not how much he has but what he does with it which counts. I have no complaints whatsoever about anything my bf does in bed – he’s great at everything. :::::sighs in anticipation of him coming over tomorrrow::::
I just gotta say this (I’m female BTW) – This is my very VERY favorite position too!!! (how’s THAT for enthusiastic expression?) My ex used to accommodate me here (and it’s not that he didn’t enjoy it), but except for the variation of it in the shower, I usually had to be the one to suggest it.
I consider myself very fortunate that my bf now shares my enthusiasm for this position and it’s just as likely for him to move me to hands and knees as it is for me to get that way myself and wiggle my naked backside at him like an animal in heat.
I don’t know if it’s the physical pleasure component or emotional pleasure component (probably a combination of both actually), but I love it when my man fills me all the way up like that. Regardless of the man’s size or the sexual position in this case, “doggy style” isn’t the only “full penetration position” from a woman’s standpoint whether or not the man’s penis is big or average. As a woman who loves it as deep as it’ll go (and for whom a little cervix banging also induces pleasure with no painful aftereffects), it feels good physically, but it makes me feel CLOSER to him EMOTIONALLY, that he’s all the way inside me. IMNSHO, this is making love as compared to just having sex. Maybe your woman felt that way too.
Buh-dum-bum-tishhh!
I’ve been gone for a few days, so let me ressurect this to explain the joys that are Magnum condoms (and any other larger sized condoms types). It is not the length that matters to most, it is the circumference. A normal condom fully unrolled is like 7" and can stretch for longer. But it is only good for 4" around or so without constricting too much. If your penis is larger around than that, try a Magnum. In a normal condom the head of my penis gets squeezed too much and thus reduces the surface area where it counts most! A Magnum just fits better and allows for a more pleasurable experience. A person 4" long, but 5" around would benefit from a Magnum, IMHO. Try them out even if you are normal, you just might like them. Plus you get the good looks at the checkout counter!
-Tcat
ps- to avoid slippage, don’t apply lube to the base of your penis so the latex has something to hold onto. Important if you are testing a Magnum and it is too big!